Is it better to get married under the Hindu Marriage Act, or the Special Marriages Act, from a guy's perspective?
(Mainly from the point of view of alimony and divorce laws in case things don't work out, since I make 4x her income.)
We live in California currently, but are getting married in India.
- Oracle bored_afNice job, planning ahead for divorce because your company stock is doing better! What does your fiancee have to give up to come to California to live with you? Hell, if you divorce her after disrupting her career and life, she deserves to take half of what you make. California will ensure it! You're not negotiating with a recruiter. Find someone whose paper-worth is same as or more than yours, or take full responsibility for everything a marriage brings!
- Don't listen to idiots here. We engineers have plan b for every disaster. Why not plan for potential disaster for literally the biggest life event after birth? Try to get a prenup. Else, find someone with tc/net worth in similar order as yours
- Yup- our generation grew up with Cinderella stories and kuch kuch hota hai. So everyone assumes they will eventually find that soul mate and Live Happily Ever After ™. Sad reality is half marriages end up in divorce and even if they don't odds are the relationship loses the spark overtime. It's because the kind of creatures we are- we are always against that hedonic treadmill.
- Indian law states that Hindu marriages cannot be annulled outside India. You can get a divorce in US but you'd have to file for divorce in India as well. If the divorce is amicable in US you can draft the agreement to reflect that and use this as a base in India.
- Amazon FlynnIf you get divorced in the US doesn’t the US law apply?
Get a prenup if you’re concerned about defining this up front. Make sure it’s valid in the US and also in India if that’s possible, in case you divorce after moving back.
- Salesforce ziLA83Best thing is to marry a woman with TC close to you, then get a prenup. If she has assets, she may even offer it before you do.
Every marriage has a prenup. It’s either the default one mandated by the state which usually assumes you are the breadwinner, or a custom one that reflects perhaps more egalitarian values of the couple.
- Why don’t you have a religious ceremony in India and a marriage registration in the US? Best of both worlds. If you have significant assets get a prenup or setup a trust.