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Indian marriage laws

Google groom
Jan 11

Is it better to get married under the Hindu Marriage Act, or the Special Marriages Act, from a guy's perspective?
(Mainly from the point of view of alimony and divorce laws in case things don't work out, since I make 4x her income.)

We live in California currently, but are getting married in India.

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  • Oracle bored_af
    Nice job, planning ahead for divorce because your company stock is doing better! What does your fiancee have to give up to come to California to live with you? Hell, if you divorce her after disrupting her career and life, she deserves to take half of what you make. California will ensure it! You're not negotiating with a recruiter. Find someone whose paper-worth is same as or more than yours, or take full responsibility for everything a marriage brings!
    Jan 113
    • Salesforce lozere
      This!
      Jan 11
    • Oracle bored_af
      Morality goes first after 'progress' peaks. Silicon Valley (and the likes) in the decay phase after success. I plead guilty too!
      Jan 11
    • Salesforce lozere
      People make the mistake in believing that they are bringing more to the table because... Money. It's weird. Lots of people have happier lives in lower income cities in Europe and Asia. Coming to this rat race of a life might be a sacrifice to them.
      Jan 11
  • Microsoft john_doe
    The better question is should you get married to this girl.
    Jan 111
    • Goldman Sachs TC😭
      John doe, more like John don’t.
      Jan 11
  • Google / Eng
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    Don't listen to idiots here. We engineers have plan b for every disaster. Why not plan for potential disaster for literally the biggest life event after birth? Try to get a prenup. Else, find someone with tc/net worth in similar order as yours
    Jan 114
    • Oracle bored_af
      Don't marry a traditional girl if you're planning for a divorce.

      That's called shift left!
      Jan 11
    • Google groom
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      You have a great point Chacha Chaudhary. Majority of the posters here are simpletons who don't have the ability to think through multiple possibilities, but I'm quite eager to hear the thoughts of those who can.
      Jan 11
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      Yup- our generation grew up with Cinderella stories and kuch kuch hota hai. So everyone assumes they will eventually find that soul mate and Live Happily Ever After ™. Sad reality is half marriages end up in divorce and even if they don't odds are the relationship loses the spark overtime. It's because the kind of creatures we are- we are always against that hedonic treadmill.
      Jan 11
    • Oracle bored_af
      Listen to those who grew up before there was a market for 'Kuch kuch hot(a) hai' and Karan Johar. See what's going on at 'Koffee with Karan'? Don't be like #HardikPandya. There's difference between swag and class! You need a bit of both!
      Jan 11
  • Axtria DesiLaunda
    I wish I knew your woman personally so I could tell her to stay away from a man who is planning for a divorce more than planning for a successful marriage.
    Jan 110
  • Bidtellect Jacku2
    That’s really stupid mindset .. girl should just turndown the marriage . If you don’t feel it then don’t do it .
    Jan 110
  • Microsoft outofmem
    Its better to not get married.
    Jan 110
  • New Pdfs70
    Troll, he is not indian
    Jan 111
    • Google NBwU26
      Nope. This is real. Every guy who gets married goes through this panic phase.
      Jan 11
  • Cadence / EngDelucca
    Weirdo - why even get married.
    If you plan your exit before going - you will never be committed.
    Jan 110
  • Amazon / EngfHUg57
    Indian law states that Hindu marriages cannot be annulled outside India. You can get a divorce in US but you'd have to file for divorce in India as well. If the divorce is amicable in US you can draft the agreement to reflect that and use this as a base in India.
    Jan 112
    • Google groom
      OP
      Is that different for the Special Marriages Act?
      Jan 11
    • Amazon / EngfHUg57
      I am not sure about special marriages act
      Jan 11
  • Amazon Flynn
    If you get divorced in the US doesn’t the US law apply?

    Get a prenup if you’re concerned about defining this up front. Make sure it’s valid in the US and also in India if that’s possible, in case you divorce after moving back.
    Jan 111
    • LexisNexis Risk Solutions XgsJva6
      Good Luck convincing a girl for prenup. The talk of prenup indicates that the guy isn't sure about the marriage.
      Jan 11
  • Salesforce lozere
    Put your pre marital assets in a trust. Consult an international lawyer who is well versed in US and India laws.

    Regarding what you make after the marriage, share it with your wife. Don't attempt to be stingy with that.
    Jan 110
  • Salesforce ziLA83
    Best thing is to marry a woman with TC close to you, then get a prenup. If she has assets, she may even offer it before you do.

    Every marriage has a prenup. It’s either the default one mandated by the state which usually assumes you are the breadwinner, or a custom one that reflects perhaps more egalitarian values of the couple.
    Jan 110
  • Microsoft yuiopu
    Why don’t you have a religious ceremony in India and a marriage registration in the US? Best of both worlds. If you have significant assets get a prenup or setup a trust.
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    • Microsoft yuiopu
      Or have both in the US.
      2d
    • Amazon / EngfHUg57
      According to Indian laws, marriage registration is not a requirement. If there is a wedding, there are pictures and witnesses. Those suffice to confirm a wedding.
      2d
    • Microsoft yuiopu
      Not in this age.
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    • Amazon / EngfHUg57
      Is that your opinion? Or do you know the law? It is not a requirement in Indian law for a marriage to be registered.
      2d

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