So long story short - I was a bit overweight and working at a small company, between the age of 24-27. Got into Google, lost a lot of weight and gained some muscle. Currently, I'm 31 years old. Well, going through the arrange marriage phase 5 years ago, girls had crazy demands. They wanted a rich guy with body of a Greek God. Most of them were superficial. Half of these girls were 4/10 and I won't even look at them if I had all the above traits they were looking for. Alright, fast forward to now. I'm doing decent, as far as money is concerned. I look good now (having lost all the fat). Now, suddenly girls are more desperate and willing to compromise on anything (maybe biological clock? I don't know). I see more single females than males, at this age. I have lost all interest in marriage, my relationships hardly last 6 months and I'm super comfortable with it. Talking to a few girls, as my family wants me to get married. Most of them are about 29-30 years old now. 2 of them had rejected me 5 years ago and suddenly seem interested now. All the communication goes fine until I ask for a prenup agreement. They look at me like I asked for their kidney or something. I mean anyone who has gone through what I did will do the same I guess. Am I wrong in asking for a prenup? TC: 400k Net worth: 650k (excluding things I'll inherit, should be around 500k)
You mentioned that you're 31, "currently." Do you anticipate your age will change? That's an issue for most women.
Yea - depends on backgrounds. I personally wouldn’t prefer a prenup from a ‘life’ ‘partner’ since the ‘partner’ is and will be more value able than assets.
I think at my age, half of these girls wanna get married just for the sake of it.
You are right, Google. And so do the guys. All the guys I talk to for arrange marriage only want to settle down because they of psychological reasons (they are 30+ and feel time is running out to find a good partner). And half of them don't have an adjusting attitude (don't want to move out of their current city, want the woman to compromise on her career, value their parents but not the girl's, don't want to let go their playyboy lifestyle etc). I don't think any of the guys I talked to actually was in the mindset of building a relationship. So I decided to let it be and be single 🤘
So what does it have to do with Indian women?
I think prenup and marriage is almost like an oxymoron. It’s like having one foot in the divorce court. I feel like if you’re having these kinds of concerns better not to marry to begin with. If you need a prenup to get married and feel “safe” I doubt it’s a good relationship to begin with. Best of luck
It's called being practical. We're entering an arranged marriage as 30 year olds. It's highly unlikely, we'll ever fall in love.
Dude, just don’t get married if you have this attitude towards relationships. You aren’t doing favors to women out there. Plenty of folks are happy not getting married. Don’t ruin a girl’s life if you aren’t open to giving it a chance.
Your post is all over the place. Discussing a prenup with someone that you’re considering spending your life with isn’t out of line, but your general tone of contempt for women makes me wonder how you’re framing this discussion and how you’re looking at this situation in a way that might give someone pause.
It's my life perspective. I bet if the receiving party were to write it, they'll have a contrasting opinion.
Yeah, my point is that your life perspective is probably why you’re having issues with this. You said in another comment that you don’t even want to get married. So don’t.
You sound superficial
This is not your matrimonial site. Blocking you.
Do you think I give a fuck?
Op sounds like a gem of a person .😜
You sound like you have a head on your shoulders, OP. Have you tried to figure out what type of girls you REALLY enjoy spending time with and simply meeting them in person? Not necessarily marriage, not necessarily for sex, but to enjoy their femininity and have a great time naturally? Simply filter out majority of women you wouldn’t have a natural interaction with before you even start a conversation. Find a 22yo student you have great chemistry with and take her on a Eurotrip 😉, put that TC to good use. With your TC you can skip the whole matrimony site bullshit and use a service that finds very compatible women to your tastes. I believe it costs around $50-100k.
Haha, I doubt I'll have any chemistry with 20 year olds. You'll understand once you hit 30. Your perspective of life changes.
I’ve already hit 30. I know what you’re talking about, and the solution to that is to find women you naturally click with. Biological age is one thing, and psychological age (maturity) is another. Not to mention there is something to be enjoyed about the inexperience and naïveté of 20yos.
Date and marry someone who cares about you and not your net worth. I don’t see how that’s so difficult...
I've lost ability to form meaningful relationships. The ones which I have are just for sex. If it were up to me, I won't get married at all. I like travelling the world solo, doing things solo and don't want to have children.
So don’t get married then dude. That sounds like the obvious issue here.