Indians who have settled in US for good
How did you decide the long term India vs USA debate? What is the cost of caring for aging parents if you get them to stay in US permanently? If not, how do you take care of aging parents in India. For me, this is becoming a forcing function to go back.
Gone are the days of thinking of settling in the states. I am not ready to go through this visa jargon every 3 years, best is to take a exit with few years of experience here.
This is so true. It's exhausting to get visa stamped every 3 years.
Not that exhausting with dropbox
Never leaving this country. Can’t imagine myself living in India ever anymore. kthxbye
I have decided to settle here in US, my social and political ideas evolved in this country, I don't think I can relate to living in India anymore. Of course I will miss everything about India, but it will be in my memories forever. You cannot take the Indian out of me, but I will be an Indian in US. Also I brought my parents here sponsoring them GC. You would be surprised with social security and Medicaid benefits for them it is not that expensive. It is great for kids to live with their grandparents.
Maybe u came here long time back 8-10 years .
How did you sponsor their GC? I can’t even get my GC anytime soon
Work here for 10-20 years more. Then retire in India.
Cant imagine going back to Modi’s india. I grew up in a very different India
Why? What’s so wrong with Modi’s India?
Modi’s India sucks. I can’t see such gross incompetence, ignorance and arrogance being promoted. Maybe it always sucked but the part that sucked has definitely increased under BJP and the associated loonies.
I’ve had the same dilemma for a really long time now and it doesn’t let me be happy here. I am peaking at my career but the thought of leaving parents behind just feels wrong. I also feel it’s unfair to uproot them from their support system because they are used to a certain lifestyle. It also depends a lot on how open they are to adapting to a whole new lifestyle and culture at their age (60+). I’ve had friends whose parents just want to relax and retire and don’t mind doing the 6 months here and 6 months there gig. I know my parents won’t like it. Even though my thoughts don’t match with most of the Indian men (I’m an Indian woman and looking to get married), I will have to make a trade off. Which is scary too. But I guess I will not be able to live with the feeling of leaving parents behind. It’s a personal choice.
There is whole lot of racism. How can you survive with racism
Here or in India?
On blind.. Indians targeted
Keep working here until you are getting paid well. Keep calling your parents here in b2 visa every 6 months. Pop 1-2 kids here so they get the usa citizenship. Whenever the times come weather its job, aging parents or Trump be ready to go back. With good money in hand live life king size in India. Send your kids for bachelors here and you start coming on b2 visa until your kid gets gc for you 😁
I am planning to move back to India for this and only this reason. I don't want to leave my aging parents struggling by themselves. I don't mind if my career or relationship (which are none at this time) take a hit. I thought about it a lot: 1. If I am in another country, my parents back home are always worried for my safety and well being. 2. I can't get them here permanently because of visa restrictions. All I can do is 6 months on and off. 3. Even if I get them here (by sorting out visa via the marriage or PhD route), they will find it difficult to assimilate here because of the cultural/language/food differences. They have a good support system and extended family back home, while here they will feel lonely. 4. I cannot provide them the support I feel I am responsible for, by staying in another country. The travel itself is restrictive and 15+ hours long. 5. Many companies now pay pretty well in India. Example - Uber, Salesforce, Paytm, LinkedIn, Ola, etc. Overall, I am planning to move back in 2019. I got a few interviews scheduled already in India.
Then why did you come on the first place ?
Good luck. Your parents are lucky to have a son like you.