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Indians who have settled in US for good

Microsoft Knighty
Dec 3

How did you decide the long term India vs USA debate? What is the cost of caring for aging parents if you get them to stay in US permanently? If not, how do you take care of aging parents in India. For me, this is becoming a forcing function to go back.

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  • Axtria BlindPts
    I am planning to move back to India for this and only this reason.

    I don't want to leave my aging parents struggling by themselves. I don't mind if my career or relationship (which are none at this time) take a hit.

    I thought about it a lot:
    1. If I am in another country, my parents back home are always worried for my safety and well being.
    2. I can't get them here permanently because of visa restrictions. All I can do is 6 months on and off.
    3. Even if I get them here (by sorting out visa via the marriage or PhD route), they will find it difficult to assimilate here because of the cultural/language/food differences. They have a good support system and extended family back home, while here they will feel lonely.
    4. I cannot provide them the support I feel I am responsible for, by staying in another country. The travel itself is restrictive and 15+ hours long.
    5. Many companies now pay pretty well in India. Example - Uber, Salesforce, Paytm, LinkedIn, Ola, etc.

    Overall, I am planning to move back in 2019. I got a few interviews scheduled already in India.
    Dec 323
    • Axtria BlindPts
      @Verizon not a problem. We all have been conditioned to believe that caring for aging parents is a man's job. I hope we women can change this notion.
      Dec 3
    • Mphasis / ProjectWaitbutY?
      Hyderabad forever! Best infra, commute time is very little if you live in Madhapur or Tellapur. Great communities like L&T Serene/Aparna Sarovar/Hill Ridge.

      And who can forget the good food - Charminar k barabar mei Irani chai and biskoooot. Ramzan k time ki Haleem. Gongura rice. Paradise ki biryani.

      Oh what good memories of my first job 😊
      Dec 3
    • Amazon abguru
      Theek Hein Mamuu
      Dec 3
    • Townsquare Media DramaKing
      Do the companies pay the same six figure salaries in India?

      Like if you make 250k here in US you would get 1 Crore and 70 lakhs in India
      Dec 3
    • Axtria BlindPts
      Have you heard of the phrase 'cost of living'?
      Dec 3
    • Townsquare Media DramaKing
      I hear Bombay real estate is as expensive as NYC
      Dec 3
    • Axtria BlindPts
      Does she have a very good career here? Do you guys plan to stay in your hometown and work there?
      Dec 3
    • Townsquare Media DramaKing
      SFO2 you don’t have to stay with your parents you can be close to them so you still have your space and keep your wife happy and still take care of your parents
      Dec 3
    • Coupang pXSH63
      My respect to you ma'am! I am 2 years in my job and this thought is always in my head but my parents are always pushing me to stay and not to regret the choices i make in life.

      Now that I read this though *sobs*
      Dec 4
    • Axtria BlindPts
      @Coupang I am sorry to make you sad. I hope the choice you make turns out to be the best for you. All the best.
      Dec 4
  • Apple noneso
    Cant imagine going back to Modi’s india. I grew up in a very different India
    Dec 346
    • New / Eng
      DgRxJui

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      DgRxJuimore
      1. Did you wash out your WhatsApp University knowledge? Then you would first proud yourself being Indian where do we stand in each field compared to 200 countries. Would stop giving shit about 1991 thing. Have you studied Indias Open Market policy and it's impact?

      2. Who said you need to beg for visa. You are problem: you used India's money, infra and everything to reach at this level. And now working for US company as brain-drain.

      If India need to become equal to US, then start working for Indian companies from India. Can you sacrifice? Let's start from you?
      Giving gyaan and expecting from others is very easy.

      3. You ppl throws jargans like HinduEkRashtra, equality and all. But believe in divide and rule policies which are based on high caste, religion etc :D

      Start change from you, first respect all of us as Indian. Instead calling leftist, deshdrohi, Pakistani, libtard and whatsever.

      Stop giving gyaan and what we need to do, sitting other country.

      Come, face, handle and show what can you do make better India.

      (Have you even voted? at least 2014 ? If not, go and hit on wall for wasting time here for all of us. )
      Dec 8
    • Apple noneso
      engg1 thinks right wing fanatics = great for economy. Anyone who doesnt believe in right wing fanaticism is a leftist. Nice.
      Dec 8
    • New / Eng
      DgRxJui

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      DgRxJuimore
      It's marketing gimmick of BJP IT cell. They have invested lot to showcase in marketing style.

      We(like engg1) white collar are their marketing tools. Who freely working for them to spread agenda. Even don't realize that, we helped them to spreading lies of our own history and our great past leaders. BS :(

      I wish same would have used for "development" and better purpose then definitely would have been into dream India.

      Hope 2019 election leaves better foot prints than Jumala, lies, marketing, changing history, abusing our history and past leaders.
      Dec 8
    • New / Eng
      JsFhA1k

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      JsFhA1kmore
      @Engg1 it's surprising that you reached to Google and equally sad for Google they have Trump mentality in org.

      Brush up your basics dude.
      Dec 9
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      hdhhj

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      hdhhjmore
      "Brush up your basics dude."

      Lol, I'm laughing at the above comments. What basics did you study? You are talking as if it was a subject in your masters. Your rants sound even more stupid.
      Dec 9
    • New / Eng
      JsFhA1k

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      JsFhA1kmore
      Basics here you go:

      1. Start voting in India to bring better politicians.

      2. Stop brain-drain. "Make in India" with your "skills in India" which you gained through "my" tax money.

      If you can't do these things. F*off, we don't need your advices by licking trump ass.
      Dec 9
    • New / Eng
      TuDV43faJ

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      TuDV43faJmore
      The way two bhakta slayed here. It clear that few BHAKTA left out who believe in dream of JumalaRaj 😂. These two proved that, BHAKTA brains have GOBAR.

      Reasons:

      As India is downgraded in last 4 years economically because of demon, high tax rates etc. still Modis, BJP IT cell and Gobar brain BHAKTA propaganda is to keep blaming Nehru and Congress(like 1991 in one of above post).

      Another noticing factor : none of them defended for development by Modi govt.

      Agenda of both were to target Congress, blame Nehru, make fun of MMS, and those who oppose call them leftist etc.
      Dec 9
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    • New / Eng
      TuDV43faJ

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      TuDV43faJmore
      Lol. Gobar brain bhakta. Who said, you had IQ :D

      Baby troll. You born to do that. Continue on individuals if you done with Congress and Nehru
      Dec 9
    • Apple magikarp16
      ramare. Kejriwal rocks! Great to know his name causes you to feel mirchi!
      Dec 10
  • McAfee JohnMcPee
    Never leaving this country.

    Can’t imagine myself living in India ever anymore.

    kthxbye
    Dec 325
    • Flagged by the community.

    • duniya me ek hi race hai Kya...majak banane ke liye :D
      Dec 4
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Hahahaha...
      Dec 4
    • Amazon 123raj
      Dont worry mcpee . Being kicked out is also an option.
      Dec 4
    • New / EngF*MyBoss
      123raj you have no work and have blind work. AMZNing
      Dec 4
    • Mphasis / ProjectWaitbutY?
      Hdhhj - Balla ghumake woh diya hai ‘peaceful’ race ko!
      Dec 4
    • New / EngF*MyBoss
      Hdhhj chu*a hai...
      Dec 4
    • Mphasis / ProjectWaitbutY?
      Dekho yaar, wo galat nahi kah raha hai. Tum Yogi/Modi pe joke banao koi jug nahi bolega, peaceful pe banao - fatwa nikal denge Tumhare naam ka!
      Dec 4
    • New / EngF*MyBoss
      Ha lekin.. he is @$$()
      Dec 4
  • New / Eng
    CnfusdSprm

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    CnfusdSprmmore
    Gone are the days of thinking of settling in the states.

    I am not ready to go through this visa jargon every 3 years, best is to take a exit with few years of experience here.
    Dec 33
    • Microsoft / Engtattle
      This is so true. It's exhausting to get visa stamped every 3 years.
      Dec 3
    • Salesforce gghg
      Not that exhausting with dropbox
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft / Engtattle
      That's subjective. I don't live in a city where US consulates are, so I have to make travel and hotel arrangements. That's $$. That alps means I have to spend typically another 3 days in Mum/Del with a kid. Figuring out their food/milk and water logistics are challenges. Also, nowadays RFEs on Dropbox are really common. If that happens you have to make emergency travel arrangements to the consulate, again with a child. Think about flight/train reservations. After all this u wait tensed to get ur approval. Does this sound fun?
      Dec 3
  • Intel uRock
    Keep working here until you are getting paid well. Keep calling your parents here in b2 visa every 6 months. Pop 1-2 kids here so they get the usa citizenship. Whenever the times come weather its job, aging parents or Trump be ready to go back. With good money in hand live life king size in India.
    Send your kids for bachelors here and you start coming on b2 visa until your kid gets gc for you 😁
    Dec 30
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    Calloupie

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    Calloupiemore
    I’ve had the same dilemma for a really long time now and it doesn’t let me be happy here. I am peaking at my career but the thought of leaving parents behind just feels wrong. I also feel it’s unfair to uproot them from their support system because they are used to a certain lifestyle. It also depends a lot on how open they are to adapting to a whole new lifestyle and culture at their age (60+). I’ve had friends whose parents just want to relax and retire and don’t mind doing the 6 months here and 6 months there gig. I know my parents won’t like it.

    Even though my thoughts don’t match with most of the Indian men (I’m an Indian woman and looking to get married), I will have to make a trade off. Which is scary too. But I guess I will not be able to live with the feeling of leaving parents behind. It’s a personal choice.
    Dec 34
    • Axtria BlindPts
      Awesome. Exactly the same thought process here.
      Dec 3
    • Microsoft Knighty
      OP
      Also, traveling every six months after certain age is difficult for parents. Depends on health also.
      Dec 3
    • Axtria BlindPts
      I agree. I don't think my parents would be willing (emotionally and physically) to do that either. It's a tiresome journey for me, so I can imagine it would be worse for them.
      Dec 3
    • Amazon 123raj
      This. Parents wont be able to travel forever. Not to mention the time they'd be missing with grand kidsz
      Dec 4
  • Uber do rjrbdh
    I have decided to settle here in US, my social and political ideas evolved in this country, I don't think I can relate to living in India anymore. Of course I will miss everything about India, but it will be in my memories forever. You cannot take the Indian out of me, but I will be an Indian in US. Also I brought my parents here sponsoring them GC. You would be surprised with social security and Medicaid benefits for them it is not that expensive. It is great for kids to live with their grandparents.
    Dec 35
    • New / Eng
      CnfusdSprm

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      CnfusdSprmmore
      Maybe u came here long time back 8-10 years .
      Dec 3
    • Apple magikarp16
      How did you sponsor their GC? I can’t even get my GC anytime soon
      Dec 3
    • Uber do rjrbdh
      Yes my GC process started in 2007 which is the year I started work.
      Dec 3
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      hdhhj

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      hdhhjmore
      Great that you were able to get GC, people who came here after 2008 are the ones who are in limbo.
      Dec 4
    • Amazon / Engmiata
      How did your parents get social security? Don't they need to have already paid social security taxes for 40 quarters before being able to benefit from it?
      Dec 5
  • There is whole lot of racism. How can you survive with racism
    Dec 34
    • Amazon / Eng
      onMyWay

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      onMyWaymore
      Here or in India?
      Dec 3
    • On blind.. Indians targeted
      Dec 3
    • New Sub Par
      Blame the Indians, they have very thin skin. I am Indian and I like to fuck with Indians
      Dec 3
    • Amazon 123raj
      Lol @sub par you didnt realize that you're the one getting fc**d 😂😂
      Dec 4
  • New / EngRhpJ71
    Work here for 10-20 years more. Then retire in India.
    Dec 30
  • Bidtellect Jacku2
    India is developing rapidly but it’s pollution level in metros are increasing with higher rate .
    Dec 51
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      hdhhj

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      hdhhjmore
      All developed countries wen through this phase as well. It is said that London was once very polluted and Thames was full of shit. Hopefully we will reduce the use of coal and things will improve.
      Dec 7
  • New Sub Par
    I let mine suffer and die. RSUs are more important
    Dec 31
    • Intel uRock
      Bhagbaan 2 😁
      Dec 4

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