(Inflammatory) Why do women feel entitled to be treated fairly for their life choices?
Inflammatory topic! Only on blind!!
A recent blind post reminded me of this argument I have always seen. Usually it goes like the guys go out to drink, but I can't tag along because I don't drink and have to pick up my kids, so therefore tech sucks and I am being discriminated.
Here's my take
- Discriminating by genitalia when there is an objective measurement is not ok
- Discriminating by lifestyle choices that are correlated (but not caused by genitalia) is not ok
What does this means?
In the first situation, if the best person for team lead by all objective criteria - leadership, people skill, experience, technical skills... points to a woman. She gets the job. Your buddy who doesn't know how to reverse an array does not.
In the second situation, usually related to child rearing is not an excuse. In that after office hours example, it was YOUR choice to have a kid (I assume you were not raped or coereced) so you know it will come with consequences. So why do so many women feel so entitled when they know life style choices may impact their career negatively?
Yes we can argue women bear an unfair burden and workload for childrearing but that's a SOCIETAL problem not an issue related to a professional workplace. And you always have a way out don't have kids.
Then this usually leads to I have to compromise argument. Guess what? That's life!!! If I work 30hrs/wk I will likely not do as well as people who do 40hrs/wk. And if you have a kids, the probability that it will affect your career is going to be nonzero. You know the risk, you are adult, you make a choice then you live with it.
I'll give you a third scenario. I must my watch evening cartoons, so I can't hang out after hours. Why then am I not entitled to speak out that people are not treating me fairly? I give you a ridiculous examples, yes... But what makes my lifestyle choice less important than yours...?