Is NYC dating scene better than Bay Area for Indians?

Feb 3 47 Comments

I’m an Indian in his early 30s. I work for FANG. Is NYC dating scene better than Bay Area for someone like me? I’m considering moving there just to improve my odds of dating. I don’t mind dating women with different ethnicity.

Please share your experience.

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  • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
    Simple - There are close to 9 million people in NYC, half of which are female. On the other hand, San Francisco has a population of about 900K. Doesn’t take a genius to realize that your odds of getting laid in NYC are increased tenfold just by being there.
    Feb 46
    • Squarespace / Other
      houstonit

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      houstonitmore
      Really? Wouldn't there therefore be 10x as many other guys looking to get laid as well?

      (Full disclosure: yes it was a lot easier to get laid in NYC.)
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
      I would hope that working in tech and making a six figure salary would give you a significant advantage. One can only hope that OP has somewhat of a personality. If he’s a 400 lbs computer game addict, no place will help.
      Feb 4
    • Squarespace / Other
      houstonit

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      houstonitmore
      making a six-figure salary in New York is like minimum wage. Nobody is impressed with that. Maybe a $1000000 salary might impress people.

      In NYC, my neighbor's apartment sold for 7 million dollars, and another apartment down the hallway rented for $21,000 a month.
      Feb 5
    • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
      What a idiotic statement. Only 25% of households make above 6 figures in NYC:
      https://slate.com/business/2014/08/income-distribution-of-new-york-city-what-does-it-take-to-be-rich.html

      Just because your neighbor sold an expensive property and another has high rent, it doesn’t mean that six figures is minimum wage. In fact, six figures puts you well above the average salary in NYC.

      One of the most expensive private residences in the world is located in Mumbai, but I wouldn’t go around saying everyone in India is rich. I honestly worry for the future of squarespace.
      Feb 5
    • Squarespace / Other
      houstonit

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      Just wondering, have you actually lived in NYC, or do you just Bing random factoids?

      Congrats, troll. You've actually motivated to find and use the blocklist feature for the first time.
      Feb 6
    • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
      Great argument bro! “Grrrrr I hate facts! I’m gonna block you!” 😂😂😂
      Feb 6
  • Amazon / EngnetscapeOG
    NYC has far more diverse people from different backgrounds. So yes, your odds are probably higher.
    Feb 30
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    • TC: IBM
      Feb 4
    • Bloomberg HechOneBee
      ^ I think that's the problem why you can't find dates 🤣
      Feb 4
  • Bloomberg Terminal!
    You can find people here coming in from all ethnicities and various industries. There are lot of meetups / parties and fairly active people on the dating apps as well. There is a decent amount of Indian population in NY/NJ as well. But again, in the end it depends on you.
    Feb 45
    • OP
      Is it possible for a tall (5’ 11”) and fit Indian guy to date white woman or do white women stick to white men only in NYC?
      Feb 4
    • Indeed tookerjerb
      Women, regardless of skin color, will date anyone they find attractive/interesting. Including Indians. Make yourself attractive and interesting and you will connect with girls who have common interests with you.

      P.S. Why are Indians so insecure about their ethnicity?
      Feb 4
    • OP
      Maybe because of blind post saying other ethnicity specially white woman don’t prefer Indian men. Chinese girls go after white men. Indian girls go after arranged marriages. What’s left for us?
      Feb 4
    • Indian girls really don't go after arranged marriages. At least not the type of Indian girls that you'd wanna date/marry.
      Feb 4
    • Aon Hewitt winter 123
      What's up with that saying Indian girls go after arranged marriage, I know more guys who do that!
      Feb 5
  • Dropbox / Eng100k🔗🐼
    I would say yes because in Bay Area you have to compete with 100 other Indians.
    Feb 42
    • Bloomberg HechOneBee
      and in NYC it'll be 1000 other Indians 🤣🤣
      Feb 4
    • Dropbox / Eng100k🔗🐼
      Yeah but it won’t just be Indians so you actually look interesting compared to everyone else out there.
      Feb 4
  • New / Eng
    Galilee

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    Galileemore
    I worked in NYC for a major bank (SDE) in 2012. A female coworker told me she had sex with a mutual friend just so he’d “stop bothering her about it”. To give you an idea of what’s available there 😉
    Feb 45
    • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
      One slutty coworker can be extrapolated to millions of slutty coworkers? 🤔
      Feb 4
    • New / Eng
      Galilee

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      Galileemore
      The day I moved in my neighbor gave me her number. If you want more stories I can tell you, but something tells me you’re using these to do the needful my Indian friend.
      Feb 4
    • Microsoft Jeph Bezos
      If only i were Indian...
      Feb 4
    • New / Eng
      Galilee

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      DM me. This is a stealth mode app I’m hacking on in my spare time.
      Feb 4
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      Can I PM?
      Feb 6
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    • Salesforce establo
      “What does a woman want? Any excuse to get closer.”
      Feb 4
    • Twitter
      yxPm28

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      Draper!
      Feb 4
    • Oracle olamaula
      no one has been able to answer that question
      Feb 4
  • Intuit tgfi
    Mate, you’re a person regardless of what ethnicity you are. When you really start seeing yourself that way, you’ll meet women. Either in the bay or NYC.

    Having said that, hard to argue with the simple statistic that in NYC your sample size is going to be much larger.
    Feb 40
  • New LillySJ
    Go NJ you will find a lot ABCD’s
    Feb 46
    • OP
      Are those ABCD girls open to dating Indian guys?
      Feb 4
    • Oracle olamaula
      lol "open to dating". if you ask such questions OP then i guarantee you are not getting a pussi till you get married
      Feb 4
    • Salesforce MorningLad
      Why would an Indian guy want to date an ABCD girl is beyond me. OP, they are called "confused" for a reason. Also, please work on your self esteem.
      Feb 4
    • New bund
      Abcd are so pretty
      Feb 4
    • Salesforce MorningLad
      lol not particularly any prettier than regular Indians.
      Feb 4
    • Dropbox / Eng100k🔗🐼
      What is an ABCD?
      Feb 8
  • Oracle olamaula
    expensive car and try to look like a rich kid
    Feb 32
    • Microsoft Hellioli
      Haha... will work for the short run but not a good recipe if you want some mindful partner with whom start a family
      Feb 4
    • Oracle olamaula
      well i guess he just needs a good fuck for some time till his parents force him to marry a girl of they find in India whose parents pay the most money.
      Feb 4
  • Amazon ConorMcGre
    What do you mean someone like you? Is your self esteem high? Perhaps you're letting the stereotypes get in your head? Have you done the necessary things like exercise, groom, take lessons to clear your accent (if you think this is bothering you?), And hygiene? Have you practiced no-fap? Then have you taken action to actually approach women? If most of these are no then your chances in NYC will be no different from SF.
    Feb 70
  • Google trolDtrols
    Is the pope Catholic?
    Feb 40
  • Apple / Engmegamex
    @OP is dating scene ‘that bad’ in the Bay — that you’re thinking if moving?
    Feb 32
  • Apple apbob
    I've heard plenty of female friends in NYC complain about the lack of good men there. The thing I've noticed about them over my bay area peeps (and this just might be my friends):

    - They all dress better than people around here. By a mile., Not all flashy and name dropping, but seem to have a lot more taste and style. Even when they are "jeans casual" it's still tasteful and stylish. But that could be for any city outside the Bay Area I suppose.

    - They want a high-earner. Not in the gold digging sense and they also have higher incomes, but as one friend said "It's stupid expensive here. If I'm going to start a life with someone I want to make sure we can afford a good quality of life together. In Manhattan or Williamsburg." So there is that.

    - There is always an overshadowing of wall street d-bags. I can call them that because I was one once. Overwhelming confidence and general douche-ry.

    One of them said that New York is the place where you make more money than other places but it's just spent on the kind of expenses that only exist in New York. Like the city tax.

    I know San Francisco is the most expensive real estate in the country, but take a look at the crappy apartments the same amount of money gets you in NYC. Pre-war anyone?

    I think it's about equally easy to meet women in NYC as in SF. I actually found SF easy because it seemed like if you assume a 50/50 split of men and women, then you peel off a chunk of the gay population, if you are a decent guy that shows up on time and is positive and fun, you will have no shortage of dates.
    Feb 130
  • Amazon QXHX15
    Bay Area needs to fix the dating scene before they start loosing all these nerds !
    Feb 130
  • Juniper busy bee
    There is no fixed pattern. Luck!!
    Feb 30

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