Is divorce a good option for a relationship with no pulse?
Partner does give a squat about financial planning for the future, doesn't plan for the family well being.. like taking care of the others' health or even simple things like making sure they (dependants) eat a balanced diet etc... The person has no investments for the future. I've always made way more money, so I assumed more responsibility in terms of planning, but this person doesn't even contribute. They seem to think paying their share of rent is all their financial responsibility is towards the family. The person is nice, but I don't feel like I have a partner, its more like having a roommate. Off late the intimacy is suffering too, admittedly from lack of trying from my end. I just don't feel attracted to a person who seems to care so little about our future together. The person is never available even when I have something important to talk about or share. The little free time we get, the person spends doing stuff alone. Both of us have busy work schedules, it isn't always easy to carve out quality time every day. I've proposed making breakfast or dinner as something we always do together, it is important to me that we share a meal daily, at least as much as we can. Every attempt has lasted less than a week. None of these seem bad, but disinterest is something that gnaws at you.. makes you miserable. I have had very candid talks, subtle talks, tactful talks, no holds barred conversations, with no avail. How do you force someone to be interested in us, or our future, can you talk someone into it... am I in a dead end relationship?
Move on ..
Yes
Sounds dead to me.
Probably you should ask your partner where he/she feels this is headed. Open conversations are always the best - at least you know the result
Are you male or female ? Is your partner male or female ?
It sounds bad. Been through this, but I had no kids with the SO. I set a deadline by which I needed to see effort on their part, and then bailed. One of the most painful things I’ve been through, but I knew I’d be better off in the long run. Kids complicate matters.
They make me feel awful when I do this. I have set multiple deadlines after discussions about what sounds reasonable to them. Thanks for this comment, my SO almost made to feel guilty for expecting some effort !
If you have kids, 30-50 is your trough of unhappiness. If you are in it, it’s basically like battling low-level clinical depression for many. Counseling/talk therapy can help
That's not much to look forward to
Well, yes, but the point is that it gets better
Make sure your affairs are in order and leave. No use being around an emotionally abusive partner. How are they so comfortable when your future as a family is unsure? If you’re expressing concern, they should be concerned. Unless they’re just using you.
The lack of concern gets me more than anything else
Life becomes so easy when you just drink more.
Are you willing to lose half of your money, investments, and savings? A counselor might be a good option.
Does that really work ?
Depends on the couple I guess. I know plenty of marriages that were saved by seeking help. It’s a better outcome than losing half of your money. Does Amazon’s benefits include marriage counseling through EAP?