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Is this called midlife crisis? Guidance needed 🙏

Amazon / EngSDE3!
Jul 22, 2018

Hope all of you are having a wonderful weekend.

My age is in mid 30s. Long term Amazonian. I'm an average technical guy but I stood out with hardwork and dedication. I worked very hard to get where I'm now $400k TC. I'm in a very good team and people around respect me.

I should be happy but I'm not.

I don't have the same enthusiasm towards work I used to have. I'm just managing the work and not giving my 💯. I used to learn and keep my self updated with technology but not interested in this anymore. Wasting time on YouTube and Netflix. Always on phone doing random shit. This is happening for past 3-6 months.

Is this called midlife crisis? How can i come out of it? Any guidance is highly appreciated.

YoE: 9
TC: 400k

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  • Amazon / EngSDE3!
    OP
    Thanks for all the responses, very useful. Summary -

    1. Look for hobbies that will make me happy. I should look for longer term habits that I would like to do even when I'm old.
    2. Have a purpose other than career. Until now getting promoted was the only purpose I had, now I don't care about it a lot. So I need to find out my purpose and work towards it.
    3. Shorter term thing - take a vacation and freshen up. That should help with 1 and 2.

    Most importantly give something. I thought about doing this a lot but never did this. May be should stop procsstinating and do this.

    Thanks a lot folks. This is why I like Blind.
    Jul 22, 20184
    • New / Product
      nicebot

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      Smash that Private Message button
      nicebotmore
      Didn't expect to see a summary. Thanks, man(ager)
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      Lol 😃
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Amazon 123raj
      Summarized after diving deep and getting a sign off from all stakeholders in true amazonian style 🙏🏽
      Jul 23, 2018
    • New / Product
      nicebot

      NewProduct

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      nicebotmore
      I'll admit this makes me want to give Amazon a shot. You guys seem chill.
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Google 🎱figga
    No, a midlife crisis is me telling my wife I was going to get my motorcycle license yesterday. Then I realized and decided to forget about it. 😂😂😂
    Jul 22, 20188
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      😃
      Jul 22, 2018
    • eBay ottoman
      What did you realize and what did you forget about?
      Jul 22, 2018
    • eBay Buzzard
      He forgot
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Google 🎱figga
      That I don’t need another hobby lol

      Well specifically ones that are midlife crisis urges (or look like em)
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Oracle farthard
      Why is "getting a motorcycle" sign of mid life crisis? Sounds BS to me.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • PeerStreet / Other
      Ju63vNQa

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      Ju63vNQamore
      Because females have programmed males to feel shame about having hobbies like riding motorcycles
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Google 🎱figga
      Jesus, fragile much? I downhill on bikes and drive cars at the track if you want to compare dick sizes. Give me a day and I’ll prob do well at the track on a motorcycle too. I just don’t need one more thing to repair and have around collecting dust. That’s what a midlife crisis is, when you are deluded into thinking you’re actually going to “change your life” or whatever and you end up just being a punter like every other lazy fat shit on reddit.
      Jul 23, 2018
    • Google 🎱figga
      Same goes for career stuff. Like, you’re 40. Have an actual plan.
      Jul 23, 2018
  • Microsoft mfCG87
    Why don't y'all rich mofos just retire and pursue your passions
    Jul 22, 20182
    • TrueCar / Engexpbackoff
      Damn.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Google 🎱figga
      Tough when most people’s passions are useless, at least beyond the level of self enjoyment that you can have alongside your vocation.
      Jul 22, 2018
  • Amazon / Design!==!
    Don’t feel badly or weird about this. You’re discovering that lots of money won’t give you much happiness, and that working at a company that thrives off of rewarding ruthless self-interest isn’t fulfilling.

    Dissociate your identity from Amazon. Ignore the color of your badge and stop checking PhoneTool to see what level people are. Become disinterested in your own level.

    Next, think about what made you happiest as a kid. This can take awhile to figure out. Lots of reflection and introspection. Listen to what you hear and reconnect with that.

    Then look for ways to help others do the same.

    I’d also look into giving money to causes you believe in. This too is surprisingly difficult, it’s hard to find things that aren’t a waste of your money.

    Basically, take the same rigor and discipline you applied to your career to your emotions and spirit. And discard anyone who’s excessively cynical.
    Jul 22, 20183
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      Very well said
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Amazon / Design!==!
      Feel free to message anytime. I genuinely enjoy talking through stuff like this. I think you’ll be okay either way :-) Just listen to that inner child, as goofy and corny as it might sound.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Vodafone
      kgVH53

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      kgVH53more
      Really good response! And I'm in exactly the same position too. Hope it all works out for you which I'm sure it will!
      Jul 25, 2018
  • New / Eng
    TpwS01

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    Coursera, Zenefits
    TpwS01more
    Go on a vacation and keep away from work. Then come back 2 months later with a fresh mind. Also change companies if it's not challenging/interesting anymore
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Amazon / Other
    Grrumm

    AmazonOther

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    Earth Index, Heavenly Couture
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    Doomed. Need a career reboot. Uber rescinded my offer. Previously wasted a lot of time and effort at Alexa voice shopping.
    Grrummmore
    Set a date that you would like your TC to double. Go get it.
    Jul 22, 20181
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      Sorry I don't like this one. This game never ends and I'm already tired of this.
      Jul 22, 2018
  • TrueCar / Engexpbackoff
    Nurture somebody, really good. Learn to cook well. Get fitnes goals and fucking pursue it. Stop watching Netflix. Read more newsletters. Listen to audiobook.

    That's a gigantic purpose.
    Jul 22, 20181
    • Snapchat A7sj73
      I like this list. I’ll start here, thanks.
      Jul 22, 2018
  • Pinterest ctMu21
    You’re bored. Pick something else you want to learn and then just go do it.
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Apple Google L7
    Money career and promotions is the biggest motivator early in life. Once you have it then it becomes tough to be as motivated about anything else. You can get a little motivated by family but that does not need you to use your brain as much. Using your brain to solve tough problems is the true feeing of happiness
    Jul 22, 20180
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    • Google / Engnopromo
      Me too, except not making that much. What’s up with you? Married?
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Snapchat A7sj73
      I’m in the exact same situation. Not married, 5 YOE, the pay is insane and the work is interesting and mildly impactful. But is this it? What’s the point?
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Google / Engnopromo
      How is pay that high? Were you really early? Stock price is way below even ipo value.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • New Ru$$ian
      SNAP had a good IPO. Lol 😂.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Google / Engnopromo
      Weren’t employees locked in for six months? If you sold right away yeah that’d be different. I guess it must have been optioned at a much lower price if you joined a while back.
      Jul 22, 2018
  • New / Designm.vignelli
    Time enjoyed wasting is not wasted.
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Google kwueu
    New skill, new team, new company, new city, new country, new continent, new planet, pick one
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Amazon / Product
    Wannabeml

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    Wannabemlmore
    Yeah going through something very similar except I don’t have the number of years at amazon like you do. If I did, I’d have left to be honest. Amazon is good to make money but I don’t see how anyone would want to move up the ranks here with the amount of stress you need to endure.

    I think this hobby comment is correct. I don’t have any hobbies but I do know that I wasn’t built for working the corporate life. So, with that motivation, I’m going to try to find what I really enjoy doing.

    Good luck friend. I hope you find your calling soon...
    Jul 23, 20180
  • Amazon / Engamaboy
    Find some hobby or start volunteering
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Microsoft lostgirl
    Maybe find a new skill to learn and invest yourself in it passionately?
    Jul 22, 20180
  • Credit Karma JaneSez
    Why do you think you are depressed?
    Jul 22, 20184
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      I didn't say I'm depressed, I'm unhappy because of lack of challenges and interesting work in life.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • New / Product
      nicebot

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      Smash that Private Message button
      nicebotmore
      This sounds like boredom/burnout.
      Jul 22, 2018
    • Credit Karma JaneSez
      You may be depressed and I don’t mean it in a bad way, it’s very very common
      Jul 22, 2018
    • New / Product
      nicebot

      NewProduct

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      nicebotmore
      He doesn't sound depressed at all. Source: was in depression a while ago.
      Jul 22, 2018
  • Amazon cibc78
    Not really. Mid life crisis typically starts around 15 yes exp. you are just bored and know everything about your role and how to do it. Change the team or company. Start something new..
    Jul 25, 20182
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      How did you come up with this 15 magic number?
      Jul 25, 2018
    • Amazon cibc78
      Mid of your professional career which is typically 30 years..
      Jul 25, 2018
  • Oracle panther4
    Are you married ?
    Jul 22, 20181
    • Amazon / EngSDE3!
      OP
      Yes
      Jul 22, 2018
  • Amazon / EngSDE3!
    OP
    This post might have made a record. Not many troll answers 😉
    Jul 23, 20180
  • LinkedIn Dinar
    That number you put there at the end of your post is not equal to success in life, OP. Just saying. Happiness usually starts at home.
    Jul 22, 20180
  • TrueCar / Engexpbackoff
    In order to understand what it means by midlife crisis read chapter 3 through 5 of the book "the scientific secrets of perfect timing".

    Once you are done you can answer that for yourself.
    Aug 25, 20182
    • Amazon / Engacef
      Thanks, I will read, can you tell me what I should look for? Or hint about what to expect?
      Aug 25, 2018
    • TrueCar / Engexpbackoff
      There's no searching there, just listening and absorbing the material. Go for an audiobook, pretty doable in around 30 minutes. Some hours if you end you listening the whole book. So, when you listen be caffeinated or something that works which a pen and paper to take which notes.

      Nothing fancy.
      Aug 26, 2018
  • Hotwire worker333
    Go on a vacation. Maybe 2 weeks or more. Go sailing or some other travel/adventure. After that, you may see more worth in the work that you are doing, for it to be able to afford you such experiences, and then you may want to do it with more enthusiasm and passion, looking forward to your next exciting trip.
    Aug 23, 20180
  • Microsoft
    SlumdogTC

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    SlumdogTCmore
    You say you are an average tech guy. What would you be above average at. May be time to invest energy in that passion
    Jul 24, 20180

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