Doesn't like me reading her messages. I like transparency but this level of possessiveness is too much. We both know each others phone password though and I can read when she is away from phone but that's rare and I don't like to do that....she claims that she is 100% commited to this relationship. If so then why does she fights like a crazy woman when I see her messages? I am confused. Is ur girl this weird? What kind of weirdness are u dealing/dealt with? TC 220k
She is hiding something. Haha.
can you post your email login here? Or are you HIDING something?
“Doesn’t like me reading her messages.” You shouldn’t be in her phone or thinking about her phone, full stop. The more you try the more possessive she will get, rightfully so.
You have mental problems. Speak to a counselor about your control issues.
Mental problems? That is funny and also correct.
Its creepy to check someone else's phone. Why are you creepy?
Creepy? I thought it was ok and just being transparent
No, who the fuck checks their partner's phone? That's not normal. You've got some serious boundary issues. You obviously don't trust her, and that pisses her off. The lack of respect you have for her as an individual is quite apparent. And the fact that you don't even realize it is pretty bad
I’ve never looked through my girlfriends messages. I trust her. Seems like you have some trust issues... Learn to trust her.
Why the hell are you trying to read her messages in the first place? If you think she’s cheating on you break up with her. If you wanna stay with her mind your own business and stop your abuse.
"I know her phone password though and can read when she is away from phone" WTF, that's creepy AF. BTW, have you told her that you know her password and have read her messages on her phone, for "transparency" purposes?
Ok teektook. Seems that the root problem is that you two have misaligned views on privacy. Talk to her about that. Tell her you feel insecure and you don't want to loose her. tell her you want more assurance so you can be more committed.
Nobody can be 100% committed. It’s silly to demand that. In relationship all you can do is to enjoy the moment and do not depend on your partner‘s decisions. You cannot own other person. Period. If he starts whining about commitments his girlfriend will dump him for sure.
Of course my assumption is that she wants to settle down with him. Then they need to talk. That's it.
She respects privacy and wants you to trust her. And I hope so do you.
Thanks but what bothers me is her reaction if I read her messages....she gets weirdly agitated
Microsoft he already said he doesn’t. He said “doesn’t like doing that” about reading reading her text messages. He didn’t say “I would never do that”. That means he has already violated privacy, has already broken trust, and has already started showing dangerous control tendencies.