I'm 25 yo.. I'm fine for now, but I have a strong feeling it all will come down on me suddenly - maybe in a week or after a month.... For people who are elder than me.. Does it stop hurting/mattering so much with every breakup..? Do you still manage to stay the same warm person as you age.. Are your current relationships as raw/intense and innocent as in the early years.. Is there anyone out there who started with an innocent relationship and made it work..? Tc: 16 Lakhs in India (🍌$)
Out of sight, out of mind.
But are you fine....
Every breakup hurts, but it will heal eventually
Time heals everything. Which proves there is no “the one”. You can always find another better guy.
I like the think that there are many "the ones" :)
There'd better be. Otherwise, the thought of only having a 1 in several million chance of finding your "one" is incredibly depressing.
You’re young in a few years you’ll look back on this relationship and say “wow thank goodness it ended”. It gets better as time passes. Reach out to your friends for support.
Takes time, I’d recommend leaving/throwing stuff out that brings back memories. Sometimes people leave cities/live in different parts of cities to get over this. A bit much but you get the point
I am a man. I became super bitter and jaded after I broke up with a girl I had been dating for 5 years (she was unfaithful). Didnt trust anyone, wasn't my normal happy self, etc. Until I met my now wife who opened my heart again and pulled my old self out from inside me. Everyone is different. I wouldn't worry too much, op
Is your wife single?
1. Every breakup hurts, but it's a known feeling and you learn to manage it. You move on, decide you won't repeat this mistake, until someone makes you fall in love again. But this time, love is not innocent. You protect yourself from being hurt. 2. Staying a warm person is personal, you can choose to become an ahole or stay kind. 3. Relationships later in life are not as innocent as the ones early on. They are consciously evaluated choices, for good and bad reasons. 4. I couldn't work out my first relationship, it was innocent and beautiful. But I know people who are still with their college sweetheart after 15 years and going strong.
@user571 thanks for the comment.. just needed some support in tough/confusing times... It's a miracle how the 15 yo couple are making it work...
It's a lot of effort, working around each other, figuring out what you can live with and what you cannot, resisting temptations, supporting one another, and of course open communication. But no one can predict if the juice will be worth the squeeze lol. You have to trust your instincts and keep moving.
Haha talks about breakup and then mentions TC. On a serious note, if it starts to hurt, start dating again. Meet new people, and oh please don’t become a drunkard or drug addict.
Honestly, i forgot mentioning the TC first.... Had to edit later after someone in the comments asked for TC...
What kind of stupid dude to ask you to put TC there? If you let ppl fool u like that, u will end up being with shitty guys all the time
They say time heals, but... <Unlock the rest of this reply by mentioning your TC> Thank you for mentioning your TC! ...but what it all boils down to in the end is clarity. Clarity in what you want to do in life. Some people prefer work and increasing TC as their goal in life. The rest takes a back seat. Some people are fine with the status quo and prefer things that are personal or emotional in nature. You’re just 25. You have quite a lot of time to achieve that clarity. Think of a relationship as being in a job. Sometimes your manager might suck or your team might. But if you want to stay, you’ll try to make it work. If not, you’ll just to another company in search of the best work, manager and team. It’s an iterative process. Rarely are these things O(1). As in, it’s rare to be in the perfect relationship on the first attempt. Usually it’s O(n). If you’re lucky, n will be a pretty small input size. Good luck!
Oops updated.. but it's just 🍌