Just got pregnant, leave or stay?

Cisco expecting
Sep 6 77 Comments

I got an offer from yelp, loved everything (the job, the pay, supportive manager) except for the 2 hour long commute both ways. I think I can handle the long commute because I am tough, until I just found out that I am pregnant. Should I stay at Cisco? Cisco has a good maternity leave policy, not sure about Yelp. Any information about Yelp's maternity leave policy? My due date is end of April, if I join now, do I still qualify for maternity leave?

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  • Oracle
    not_larry

    Oracle

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    Amazon
    not_larrymore
    TC at Cisco and offered TC at Yelp?
    Sep 6 18
    • New / Product
      dangnabbit

      New Product

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      Microsoft
      dangnabbitmore
      Take it, and spend a bunch of that 100k raise on Cadillac childcare for your baby. And Lyft/Uber from the train when walking becomes a challenge. Congrats!
      Sep 7
    • Intuit gmj
      Congratulations! Why don’t you talk about this with your recruiter/HM? Also, travel by Caltrain should not be strenuous. Check if Yelp allows to wfh so that you can avoid the commute as your due date approaches.
      Sep 7
    • Yelp deadsea
      Yelp is pretty good with new parents. We have a lot. Many of our managers are new parents. I wouldn't stress about it. Just bring it up, it won't be a problem.
      Sep 7
    • Morgan Stanley / Eng
      nycgandalf

      Morgan Stanley Eng

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      nycgandalfmore
      I'm with @deadsea. Talk to the manager and HR at Yelp, I'm sure they'll give you as much flexibility as you need. May be they'll let you wfh from 2nd trimester, and that might not be too bad. If Yelp doesn't do that, then it's an easy choice for you.
      One of the most happiest moments of your life shouldn't be a hindrance to your career.
      Sep 8
    • Yelp dNfA81
      Yelp provides 16 weeks for mothers. You also get some unpaid leave as well I think.

      The insurance options are top notch too.
      Sep 9
  • Microsoft manoi 🤯
    Stay and give birth in office
    Sep 6 2
    • Cisco expecting
      OP
      Hahah
      Sep 6
    • FourthWall Media 80%Comple
      I hear that if your child is born in the office s/he automatically becomes an employee with new grad base pay.
      Sep 7
  • Cisco testing_
    Stay. Work life balance is very good for parents at cisco. And I would never consider a job with a 2 hour commute no matter how much they pay me
    Sep 6 1
    • Cisco expecting
      OP
      Thanks. I know that Cisco's maternity leave is very generous, like 6 month or so.
      Sep 6
  • Adobe / R&D
    Spidey™🕸️

    Adobe R&D

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    1. ©️➕➕ 2. Python🐍 3. JavaScript
    Spidey™🕸️more
    Did you get 🤰by accident or was it planned? :3
    Sep 6 5
    • Cisco expecting
      OP
      Accident, but we always wanted the second child. 50% accident 50% planned?
      Sep 6
    • Adobe / R&D
      Spidey™🕸️

      Adobe R&D

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      1. ©️➕➕ 2. Python🐍 3. JavaScript
      Spidey™🕸️more
      Either way, good luck.

      Your friendly neighborhood Spider-man is always here keep the streets safe.

      - Spidey™🕸️
      Sep 6
    • EATON / Sales
      Mi8c2

      EATON Sales

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      Mi8c2more
      Just want to validate any conflicting feelings you’re having about the whole 50/50 thing. I had my first last year and even though it was planned- we’d been trying for a year- it still is such a crazy and overwhelming thing to actually be in it. Hope you feel supported and not guilty when/if you start worrying about all the implications.
      Sep 6
    • Cisco expecting
      OP
      Thanks. It is very nice of you.
      Sep 7
    • Amazon 22plnkstr
      what means accident, like defective condom? stealthy isn’t accident
      Sep 7
  • Qualcomm / Eng
    intel80085

    Qualcomm Eng

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    Intel Corporation, Qualcomm
    intel80085more
    Leetcode
    Sep 6 2
  • LinkedIn gradle
    Congratulations on your second pregnancy. I would say go to yelp. While ramping up in a new company may be hard during pregnancy (I know a few women who have rocked their performance during pregnancy too) it gets even harder when the second baby arrives. It may be difficult to switch for the next 3 years. Good luck with whatever you decide.
    Sep 7 0
  • Cisco expecting
    OP
    Thank you all for your opinions, I finally sent an email to the yelp manager to decline the offer. I am going to have a Cisco baby:). The yelp manager is very understanding and supportive, he even ask me to contact him after my delivery to see whether there is relevant position available on the team then. I appreciate all your feedbacks. It is not easy to be a working mom, but it worths it because I am bringing a new person to the world. Thanks again.
    Oct 1 1
    • Roku cruella
      I hate to say I told u so ...

      Congratulations:)

      Edit: now that we all helped u decide on a Cisco baby, start another thread so we can help u name the baby :)
      Oct 1
  • Microsoft sUwhg72
    Consider asking for WFH days as part of your package. Even 2 days of WFH can make a huge difference to your productivity and wellbeing. All the best and congratulations!
    Sep 7 1
    • New crazyy!
      Yes!! This is a wonderful idea. Most companies offer 2-3 days work from home if you talk to them in prior before joining. I have seen many scenarios that way.
      Sep 7
  • Samsung statarb
    2hrs is a lot of commute. You need to move to make your commute shorter. Cisco will lay-off come another recession. If Yelp can help you afford a place closer to work, it might not be such a bad idea.
    Sep 7 1
    • Riverbed Technology semanthara
      That even Yelp might layoff
      Sep 7
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Roku cruella
      Crude
      Sep 6
    • Seriously !!
      Sep 6
    • LinkedIn cd-
      For those that been there, you know the process (to even this step) is not easy.
      Sep 6
    • It could be, but thats not the way you ask
      Sep 6
    • LinkedIn cd-
      It’s the only way to pun...and you all just ruined the joke 😒
      Sep 6
  • It would be better if you stay because if you join new company you gotta prove the team about yourself which your health may or may not give 100 percent based on your health situations. As you have been working in Cisco, they know about you in general. You can take advantage and be liberal.
    Sep 6 0
  • Roku cruella
    Make a Cisco baby.
    Sep 6 0
  • Amazon Xq!!
    Man this thread has been around for so long, I am surprised the baby hasn’t been born yet and all grown up
    Sep 25 1
    • Roku cruella
      The baby's already working for eBay
      Sep 25
  • Yelp makeclean
    Yelp will have sizable engineering layoffs in 4-5 years. A lot of churn at the exec and product right now.
    Sep 13 2
    • Roku cruella
      4-5 years!!

      What is this the bronze age?
      Sep 13
    • Yelp innocu
      Must be a clairvoyant
      Sep 16
  • Salesforce sendherbk
    Hard decision but I would advice with staying back, 4 hours commute is no fun and with 2 kids it would be impossible. 100k is not worth the trouble to be honest.
    However meet yelp manager in person and explain him everything as you would do to your friend.
    Whenever u are ready you can hit him up and ask u join ( which will be more like 2-3 years from now )
    But whatever decision you make be happy about it and don’t regret.
    Congrats btw
    Sep 7 0
  • eBay abababbb
    For sure stay
    Sep 6 0
  • Oath nIgd36
    Doesn’t Cisco offer daycare that a lot of companies don’t? I heard it’s hard to get in to the daycare, but at least you have that option at Cisco
    Sep 6 2
    • Cisco expecting
      OP
      Yes, they do offer daycare, not free though:)
      Sep 6
    • How ever its good for you. That way you dont have to be in a hurry or get tensed when you have at office 🙂
      Sep 6
  • Yelp nnd
    I hope u took this offer, if the daddy is around, its his turn to step up.
    Sep 24 1
  • Amazon Cation
    Pregnancy w/o consent? How did it happen? Hold your spouse responsible.
    Sep 6 1
    • Oracle / Eng ubr
      Yeah, ask your spouse to stay pregnant instead.
      Sep 7
  • Cisco VKFU58
    Go for yelp. The additional pay long term will pay off more than the short term benefits of staying at cisco because of a couple months of perks.
    Sep 9 0