We all know the gender ratio in the Bay Area blows. Jokes aside there is a very real possibility that a lot of men in the tech industry will not be able to find a wife during their prime. I’ve seen a lot of guys in their late twenties and early thirties settle for women who are beautiful on the inside only, unemployed, or are older and divorced. These guys are not low quality guys at least in terms of hard qualities. They graduated from the best colleges and grad schools in the country, usually make 400k+ TC with respectable jobs, and either own a house or have quite high savings. Yes, they do tend to be nerds and aren’t the best talkers, and definitely beta, but still shouldn’t they get better girls? I noticed some eventually give up because the girls at their level just don’t care for them. Combine this with the phenomenon of more men than women worldwide (China India other Asian countries) dies this mean such men will be single forever? If so I feel this issue deserves wider discussion because on some level that’s bad for society.
I don't think we should regard "nerd" as a negative quality, and talking about men like they are betas is weird. I think these men would be better off in NYC or Boston maybe
You work at Tinder, do you have any inside info based on data you can share with us on this topic? As a data scientist, I always wondered what tinder data can reveal about our world!
I’m a woman, and a guy being nerdy is fine. We are mostly looking for a non-asshole personality.
That works for first generation but second generation onwards that’s less viable
They could have a startup that makes lifelike robot females
Already exists
Don't worry. Pretty soon all the best engineers will be female and things will shift
Why do you think that? At Uber that hasn’t been the case but in any case most of the women in tech jobs still prefer higher status men so fellow male engineers and sometimes even managers are out.
Lol yeah right! Women almost always marry up
One problem I see with this is that it discourages American born people from going down the STEM path. If money and a successful career in tech are not going to get a guy a girl, not many people will do it. For America at least that already is a big problem.
Maybe there’s more to having an attractive wife than money and a good job? Food for thought.
I agree with that. I think most guys that settle still put effort into their personality and social circle, but if they put time and effort into work they won’t be as good at those other things as other people are.
Ideally sure, but I don’t think that manifests in reality all that often.
You might find this article interesting - https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2018/world/too-many-men/
That stuff is scary. It’s one thing if leftover men are living in isolated villages with little contact with the outside world. But if these men are concentrated in large numbers in major cities you have the formula for unrest.
I have known quite a few people who seem to be “settled for less”, but in reality they are just more comfortable with partners that don’t appear as “all ten”. They had a shot with someone who seemed to be “at their level” in terms of looks, career etc, but there was no chemistry, no real connection. So next time you see someone like this don’t hurry to claim they’ve settled, think that their true love might look different. And if you consider “settling”, tbh it doesn’t work long term. You’ll just make your partner miserable and live in agony for years.
Yea like be attractive bitches.. stop complaining and start changing your life
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All the indian guys i know who got a wife from india have really beautiful wives.
That makes one of us
Beauty is subjective