I am in early to mid 30s and am losing my friends. People who used to speak with me everyday now call once a month, those who called once a month now just reply on WhatsApp if I ping them. As I grow older, it's getting awkward to call people for no reason. I try to do that a lot, but I feel most people my age just prefer their space now. They are willing to help if I need something. Some are married, others want to watch a Netflix episode by themselves rather than going out. I am very confident this doesn't have much to do with me since they tell me they aren't in touch with most people. I feel lonely now. What am I supposed to do - get new friends (it takes time to build good connections) or accept this change or settle down so I have company?
Get married
One problem to solve another
Grow up I guess .... ?
Go to meetups for hobbies and meet new people.
It takes a lot of effort! I have had a similar experience. You need to continue trying to make the effort and maybe find more friends who are local. Frequent interaction is what builds friendships and it's hard to do with friends who are far away.
It's just called getting older. Don't worry, it'll end soon, maybe 40 more years that'll fly by in the blink of an eye.
Maybe it’s possible that it is you
I’m younger than you but already having this issue. On top of just removing friends from my life that I don’t enjoy talking to anymore/who are negative. It is lonely and sucks at time but being alone is also so relaxing. Learn to enjoy it if you can’t make new friends?
Lol my "friends" don't even reply to me on Whatsapp.
I revitalized my own friend group by opening a group chat with a bunch of old friends. We now visit each other regularly and can’t stop texting during the day. Until that point a lot of us had given up connection with each other. Gl.
Same. Group chats are great. Someone just fast to take the first step
I second the group chat idea. In fact, you can also find new friends like this. All my friends from college I ultimately got from this political group chat I joined freshman year.