I worked in the industry for 13 years. And I worked with many different managers. I have a lovely wife and a daughter. I support all of the sentiments and genuine push for more females at the workplace, equal pay, and equal treatment.
Recently I have a female manager and working with her I lost all the respect for women (at least as managers). The amount of verbal pressure, verbal misbehave, crazy loud voice drama, anger issues, impulsivity, and poor performance review and increments make me feel worthless. I had to take so many sick time offs in the past to keep up with the job. The stranger silent treatment from her (for days) during work discussion, and during 1:1 she says something and does exactly opposite. It broke all my confidence and destroyed my mental state to a point my home is affected. I never used to be so easily irritated. One thing I admire her is her luck, that she is still able to survive while being so feeling less, full of personal ego, micromanaging, over controlling, cannot see the reality, can continue surviving as abusive and childish, and treating me as if I am a criminal and I am responsible for women suffrage in the past. I used to support her women in network events, as time permits, and with time I was so much over abused that I distanced myself from all events and her in the social setting. I am so broken and crushed, I do not think I can ever afford to work with a female manager in the future. I am still looking for a job opportunity so I can take time to get normal. There have been multiple times in the past I literally cried in front of my wife and talked all about this with my wife, she also suggests finding another job. I just want to do my work, go home, stay with my wife and kids. I am a simple man. I want a simple life.
Get some therapy. Maybe if you’re lucky your wife won’t divorce you because of what she thinks of men as a result of learning about one male serial rapist.