Making her feel special and loved.

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Jan 5 34 Comments

Men of blind - What do you to make gf feel loved and secure about future together or is this all overrated and she will never be satisfied with anything that I do?

Ladies - what kind of gestures are you more appreciative of? Do arguments/ difference of opinion skew your perception of relationship entirely?

I genuinely care about her and take care of her, but am not too expressive or romantic types and want to take it to next level.

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  • Oath / Mgmt Atinlay
    Ignoring her and asking strangers on Blind
    Jan 5 0
  • Micro Focus / Eng brotein
    Kindly do the needful and revert back to her
    Jan 5 3
    • NetApp SkysdLimit
      Getting old, common you can do better
      Jan 5
    • Micro Focus / Eng brotein
      No it’s not
      Jan 5
    • Bloomberg <B>COOL
      Oldie but goldie
      Jan 5
  • Google / Eng Bluths
    You don’t. If she is seeking validation, just make a joke about it and move on. It’s a hole you can’t really fill (pun intended) and trying will only make it bigger.
    Jan 5 4
    • Microsoft
      Shippedit1

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      Shippedit1more
      There are ways to fill the hole. We have the technology.
      Jan 5
    • Microsoft ИN
      This. If you really care, then it all comes naturally, otherwise it's just one side giving an extra effort, while another will always look for a way to find a flaw.
      Jan 5
    • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
      Bluth’s cynical advice is terrible. Take it from a guy who has been married 25 years. If your woman is feeling insecure in the relationship you don’t just make a joke and move on.

      One thing you can do: you said you want to take it to the next level, so Tell Her About It. In fact, read the lyrics to the Billy Joel song by that name (“now and then, she’ll get to worrying.”). Do this when you are alone and there is time and when you are both in a good mood. Like right after you both have been laughing or loving together.
      Jan 5
    • Microsoft
      knext

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      knextmore
      Airbnb guy is right. If you wanna keep a nice thoughtful woman you ought to be nice and thoughtful too. There is nothing wrong with validation, and that hole can be filled by the smallest gestures like posting a post it on her phone saying I♡U. The return on that small gesture would be bigger than all the love that Bluths probably received😉
      Jan 6
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    MonkeyIsle

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    Cuddle erry day
    Jan 5 0
  • Amazon / Eng Chad🕶
    Put a ring on it. They'll never feel fully secure until then.
    Jan 5 7
    • Google / Eng Bluths
      Terrible advice. Then it will be the wedding, then kids. It’s never ending.
      Jan 5
    • Amazon / Eng Chad🕶
      Bluths@ has obviously never had a gf.

      I'm not telling him to do this, but it's just a truth that a girl that loves a man will never feel fully secure about their relationship until they get that full commitment from their man in the form of a ring.
      Jan 5
    • Google / Eng Bluths
      And you have actually never had a healthy relationship.
      Jan 5
    • Amazon / Eng Chad🕶
      Says the little man child whose never even kissed a girl before
      Jan 5
    • Google / Eng Bluths
      Engaging someone with such low intellect is beneath me. Bye.
      Jan 5
    • Amazon / Eng Chad🕶
      Engaging me in a conversation would at least be closer than you'll ever get to being engaged to a woman. But a man that is so easily defeated in a war of words, such as yourself, truly shows the level of one's intellect.

      And it's ok that you're only one dimensional, but just know you'll only get so far in life and you probably won't ever be truly happy. A lonely man with all the money in the world is still just a lonely man.
      Jan 5
    • SAP pmpdgm
      +100. Woman here. In this aspect, I concur that actions always speak louder than words unless there are some very serious, extenuating reasons. To many (most?) women, not willing to get married at some point => you are insecure/ not serious about this relationship.
      Jan 5
  • Amazon 1700zulu
    Learn her love language and follow that. The best advice I can give you is “love someone the way they need to be loved.” For some, it’s showing commitment; for others, gifts like a spa day; some just need that adoring “I love you and choose you” look every day.

    If you’re really serious about her, take the next step in having a future together, and that means increasing exit costs. It could be moving in, proposing—something where your actions speak louder than words.
    Jan 5 1
    • Microsoft
      knext

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      knextmore
      This is a legit good advice!
      Jan 6
  • Amazon
    rdgu462

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    rdgu462more
    Read the book “the languages of love” something like that. You will see you and her might have different ways to want to receive love.
    Jan 5 0
  • Adobe warabi
    You said it in the last sentence. You want to take it to the next level. Tell her that. Women who are insecure in a relationship are usually rightfully insecure because the guy doesn't want to take it to the next level and is uncertain. If you're not that guy, then that's all she needs to know. If that doesn't satisfy her, then there may indeed be other issues.
    Jan 5 0
  • Compass / Eng
    FUPayMe

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    FUPayMemore
    If she can’t validate herself leave and find an adult.
    Jan 5 0
  • Apple / Eng blamer
    Buy her some toys?
    Jan 5 0
  • Amazon pRyY33
    muff dive
    Jan 5 0
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  • Facebook KittyKatt
    Compliment her, tell her how you feel, Bring flowers, open doors, ask her about her life and listen, then comment back on what she says without changing the subject.
    Jan 5 1
    • Amazon pRyY33
      That. Or just muff dive as soon as she starts talking.
      Jan 5
  • Microsoft Gambini
    Put a ring on it.
    Jan 5 0
  • Oracle / Eng
    pycharm

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    Control over your own life is an illusion.
    pycharmmore
    More TC will make her feel secure
    Jan 5 0
  • Snapchat shroomed
    Marry
    Jan 5 0
  • Cadence Why’s
    Is she very family oriented? Does she do things to help her siblings or parents? I think a guy who wants to take it to the next level will also be helping her with her family obligations.
    Jan 5 0
  • New stuY17
    Little things that you do that don't take any effort on your part. This should not require work and come naturally to you.

    I also buy very expensive lingerie and demand it be worn
    Jan 5 0

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