Male:Female ratio is a lie

Facebook tTFN31
May 25 36 Comments

People say that the bay area has a high male:female ratio so that means women can get their pick of successful single men who can’t a date but since moving here I found that is not true at all

That stat is too broad and doesn’t account for the specific demographics of those who work in tech. What they left out is that 1. all the women are wealthy so they are all more beautiful than normal because of spending on health and beauty and 2. tech companies are like 50% Asian so you have to compete with thousands of more feminine, FOB Asian girls

Every man even the nerdy or liberal guys I see already has a pretty Asian women on their arms or a sun-kissed white beauty beside them. Only men who are single are the young fresh grads still too focused on math, CS, and their career to care about relationships and only want hookups if that

I am going to move to the middle states instead where it is less diverse and I can be surrounded by white men who find me a novelty even if I grew up in the West

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TOP 36 Comments
  • VMware iterator
    Unrelated question, why so many white guys have asian girlfriend in in Bay Area?
    May 25 5
    • Google / Eng znelow
      Asians worship white.
      May 25
    • Google / Eng znelow
      They can't get white girls. White girls are the top of the dating pool. Usually it's a lower tier white male with an ok Asian girl.
      May 25
    • Facebook tTFN31
      OP
      You can just look at demographics. It’s like 50% white and 25% Asian. And probably moreso for tech. I think it’s also novel, exciting and incredible how it opens up your world to be with someone from another culture, as long as you can work through the conflict. It is like you are travelling every minute you are with him (and I grew up here!)
      May 25
    • Yahoo / Eng TC or GTF0
      White guys can get white girls but Asian girls are the smarter choice. Higher TC and will still look 30 when they are 50.
      May 25
    • Apple / Eng kGUv48
      I think it’s because there are so many single Asian women in the area. And they tend to be thin (maybe Asian diet is good for that?)
      May 25
  • Microsoft / Product
    Brazuka

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    Brazukamore
    If you cant find a BF in the city with most men in the US then the problem is you.
    May 25 3
    • Intel babubhatt
      That’s not terribly helpful
      May 25
    • Google todamoon
      also true. unless you're extremely ugly or very overweight, you won't have any trouble in Bay Area as a women.
      May 25
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

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      Brazukamore
      How's that not helpful? Acknowledging her fault is the first step to improve her game.
      May 25
  • Apple / Eng kGUv48
    Have you considered dating a non white guy? That might increase the size of your pool.

    Or maybe great guys find a red flag in you and don’t want to marry you? Or great guys think they can do better than you for some reason?
    May 25 1
    • Facebook tTFN31
      OP
      Yes! I find white men really hot but I’m fine with Asian and black men too lol. My dad is Asian and I love him lol. But in the bay the Asian men are either married already, too focused on math or CS instead of romance (FOBs). A lot Asian Americans kind of hate Asian women and prefer hookups or White women more so.. Black people are cool, its harder to meet them though because so much fewer are college educated and professional because of class and discrimination

      Only people scared of are Indian and Middle Eastern people because their culture can be misogynistic. I know that its a generalization but I’m not perfect, I have prejudices, and I dont want to hurt myself. But if I meet a kind person that I can eventually trust then that would be fine!

      I think I am too clingy I lost my bf because of that, and I am working on that. But yea as I said guys here know they can do better because they have so many amazing options here
      May 25
  • New / Design Yesterday-
    The middle states? You mean the Midwest?

    It is a high male:female ratio but doesn’t mean the quality of men is high.

    But I found a good one. He happens to be from the Midwest.
    May 25 4
    • Facebook tTFN31
      OP
      Really? I am really happy for you! I don’t care about quality of men or TC that much as long as he is well educated and we can afford a safe and comfortable life (like 100k is more than enough). I think what is more important that he loves you and will love your children and will stay with you through old age. That is the most important
      May 25
    • @tTFN31 That mindset alone makes you a good catch for many serious guys. Good luck.
      May 25
    • Microsoft KyJeLlY
      Where do I find a girl like tTFN31?
      May 25
    • ON Semiconductor OoooOOOoooO
      @tTFN31 this is what you build over years, don't expect it on a 1st or 5th date, don't expect it for granted
      May 25
  • Google rofnf
    You lost me at pretty women in the bay area...
    May 25 2
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

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      Brazukamore
      Hahahhaah Imagine her reference for pretty. Good lord
      May 25
    • Rodan & Fields SkaugN
      Lots of pretty women in SF. East bay only has lesbos and fatties tho.
      May 25
  • Google / Eng
    odd prime

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    odd primemore
    Have you ever lived in the Midwest? It’s a cultural sinkhole of low levels of education, small minded people, and nothing to do. But otherwise it’s great. There’s a reason the vast flow of people have migrated from there to the coasts, not the other way around.
    May 25 2
    • Facebook tTFN31
      OP
      Really? :(
      Maybe I can find someone and then we can move back to the coast lol
      May 25
    • Yelp / Eng sJJv80
      Live in or near a city with a major university if you want culture and educated people.
      May 25
  • Expedia / Eng hnAy18
    Are you chubby? Maybe it's the time to eat healthy and exercise.
    Do you give up easily? Maybe install tinder and lower your expectations.

    I personally find it hard for any woman in tech not being able to find a male partner. Spend more time on yourself and meeting more guys.
    May 25 0
  • Target / Eng tmDe33
    r/nicegirls
    May 25 0
  • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
    🍿
    May 25 0
  • Dropbox EGmQ80
    This is the first time I've heard anyone say women in the bay area are more beautiful. Maybe healthier and thinner but women here don't put much effort into their appearances compared to NY or LA.
    May 26 0
  • Apple / Eng kGUv48
    If you want I could go on a few dates with you and tell you the things I like and don’t like about you (with regard to long term relationship)
    May 25 1
    • IBM / Data bbWI22
      I was waiting for this comment
      May 25
  • Amazon tVWw77
    Well you can always date fob Indian men, plenty of supply
    May 25 1
    • Google / Eng b$gz6
      Story of my life
      May 25
  • Instacart uMNH60
    If you think the women in the Bay area are above average you must be hideous
    May 25 0
  • PayPal theniceguy
    Sending me a message is less expensive than moving to mid states. Just saying 😉
    May 25 0
  • Google / Eng znelow
    Lol what tons of guys would love to meet you. Only issue is you_d like the TC
    May 25 0
  • Wayfair WNEm45
    Move to Boston or NYC instead of Midwest.
    Jun 1 0
  • Google / Eng swe9001
    Are you looking for a date posting on here? 🍿🍿🍿
    May 25 0

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