Manage a toxic and a hostile work environment

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Oct 20 29 Comments

How did you manage a toxic and a hostile work environment? Besides changing for another job. Don’t think complaining to HR would work at all.

How to not let he bullying, put downs and shaming affect your mood and the motivation? If you want to concentrate on the work itself and achieve something before the next job? How to ignore the bs? Wish Karma ?

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TOP 29 Comments
  • SugarCRM / Eng Nkuv14
    Unfortunately a toxic place is much more likely to change you than you are to change the environment. Get out if you can.
    Oct 20 1
    • Lucid Motors selma_
      I can attest to that. In my experience, the perpetrator has become more vocal and condescending as the time has passed even though my skip level has had several talks with him.
      Oct 20
  • Brightcove moosepuck
    Noise cancelling headphones
    Oct 20 4
    • GE F499
      You mean wear them in meetings?
      Oct 20
    • Brightcove moosepuck
      Hopefully in meetings the presence of other people would keep the bully well behaved. If not, and if no one else stands up against the bully then it sounds like a pretty crappy place to work.
      Oct 20
    • Amazon mmmehhhh
      My bully puts me down in front of others and is really nice and supportive during one on one.
      Oct 23
    • GE F499
      Yeah, They need audience to show off they are smarter. If you have a good manager who discourages these behaviors, and truly looks at what that persons delivers, how collaborative and supportive he is to the team, then this would stop
      Oct 23
  • GoDaddy hsusob
    I learned in life that if I ever was to face another toxic environment and bad manager to leave ASAP. No amount of money or title is worth you being miserable and psychologically damaged from corporate jobs.
    Oct 21 0
  • Is this at Pinterest? Wow I thought the work culture there was so laid back
    Oct 20 0
  • Intel adbC65
    Why wouldn’t you leave? Thousands of jobs out there.
    Oct 20 5
    • GE F499
      Toxic people are every where ! Running away is not the solution, and let the bully win. changing jobs often can affect your career growth
      Oct 20
    • Intel adbC65
      If you see toxic people every where, you probably are the problem. I rarely come across this.
      Oct 20
    • GE F499
      There are in many levels , just because your peer is toxic , doesn’t mean you have run away. I see if you have a bad manager, then yes,it makes sense to change the company or group. You should know to deal with them, understand why they are targeting you ? Is it because they feel threatened or an easy target? You need to find your ways , play your role, some politics ,see who can support you . But unfortunately it not easy for women when they are the minority
      Oct 20
    • GE F499
      @ intel - how many companies have you changed? I’m talking from my experience. I have changed 8 companies in my 15 year career . I have come across few pricks in my life and know my way around now.
      Oct 20
    • Intel adbC65
      Three.
      Oct 20
  • Thumbtack / Eng bgse43
    Unfortunately no easy solutions. Switching teams is usually the best option if feasible
    Oct 20 0
  • Lucid Motors selma_
    I have faced the same thing. The best solution is to tell your manager that he's being rude and draw the line early on and if no action is taken even after going to higher ups, you know that it's only going to get worse.

    Also, document everything. Present it to HR before you leave so that the same does not happen to another employee.

    In my team, my few months old manager has been disrespectful to several individuals after singling them out. Not a good sign.
    Oct 20 0
  • Google PCBro
    Lifting and being alpha
    Oct 20 0
  • Microsoft wipitgood
    Find some friends to help you navigate that environment. Or grab the bull by the horns and meet with some of the offenders head on.

    I had this happen to me and I went to one guy to get his support and he was okay with it because I helped him.

    Politics suck. You gotta build alliances and offer support and help whenever you can so you can build a relationship.
    Oct 21 0
  • GE F499
    One thing to note that these are insecure people who use ‘other tactics ‘ to survive often by attacking soft targets.
    Oct 20 0
  • Goldman Sachs PJfF76
    Leadership tolerates toxic environment to avoid shaking the boat or otherwise is aloof. It is structural. You have to undermine and subvert the bully.
    Oct 20 0
  • Citadel / Eng
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    Punch em in the face. But make sure no camera in sight.
    Oct 20 0
  • AT&T
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    Better to leave the company ASAP
    Oct 20 0
  • Walmart qcd4gh
    Focus focus and focus, and don’t give damn. Also if situation is getting worse start taking proofs.
    Oct 20 0
  • GE F499
    Yes being diplomatic , praising when some one does a good work, pointing at the actual problem than person, will make you look good , earn respect from others,and the toxic person will stand out ( even he is good in playing nice to others ) end of the day, you need to decide wether it’s really worth investing your time on him? Having a good manager who can identify and take actions as this is impacting your performance helps.
    Again, if you are woman in a ic role, this is a day to day struggle, no matter how experienced and knowledgeable you are, how hard you work. Escalate these higher up, cc your skip level and the HR if the manager does not take action. Never tolerate harassment
    Oct 20 0
  • Cruise Automation WJBA12
    What is their role (compared with yours)? Are they well established in the company? Are they backed by management? The Answers to these, would help me guide you.
    Oct 20 0
  • Try to ignore the toxic people as much as possible. If possible carve out meetings and book conference room in your calendar so you can be away from them
    Oct 20 0
  • Amazon BENc20
    Any examples you can share?
    Oct 20 0
  • Kaiser Permanente ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶
    Ask if you can record the meeting and see if it can be improved. If bully still happens, turn the recording to HR and complain through grievance hotline, if there is such a thing in your org.
    Oct 23 0

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