Manager called me "code monkey"

Microsoft manoi 🤯
Sep 6 54 Comments

Today during my 1 on 1 with manager we were discussing some technical decisions I was making. We got into a bit of an argument. My manager doesn't care about quality and always talking about delivery. I got a bit heated. My manager slapped me on my back and called me "code monkey" while laughing. I stayed quiet for the rest of the meeting due to holding myself. Couldn't do any work after 1 on 1. Went home. What should I do Blind? I want to report to hr but I don't know if hr will take my side. Or is it time to vote with my feet and leave?

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  • Wayfair / Eng tAcq10
    I'm confused. Did you believe you weren't a code monkey before that?
    Sep 6 0
  • GoDaddy lt84bw
    Stop being a code monkey and get back coding lol 😂
    Sep 6 0
  • Amazon zVjh74
    Report to HR. You are being discriminated against and you have a legal case.
    Sep 6 2
    • Amazon Waze
      No, this is stupid. What discrimination? At worst its an insult. It's obvious that the manager and you have different mindsets that make it hard to work together.
      Just vote with your feet and go to a different team.
      Sep 6
    • Symantec oocla
      He is being discriminated against because monkeys are a legally protected class.
      Sep 7
  • New uPqF72
    What I don’t get about blind is that couldn’t your manager just be reading this message and obviously know it’s about him and yourself ?!?!?!?!?
    Sep 6 4
    • ICF / Eng SouDa
      Badum TSSSS! 🥁
      Sep 6
    • Microsoft manoi 🤯
      OP
      I don't care if he finds out at least he'll know how I felt
      Sep 6
    • Twitch / Eng annnon
      If you don't care then why don't you just be an adult and talk to him directly rather than passive aggressively blind shaming him on the social media? Sure he will appreciate that :)
      Sep 6
    • Salesforce OuiC70
      OP wouldnt give a shit if the manager appreciates or not. The manager already crossed the line and lost all due respect from OP
      Sep 19
  • Apple picheswar
    /r/thathappened
    Sep 6 0
  • NVIDIA dirtycpu
    Are you fucking kidding me?

    Why is report him to HR even an option. Man or woman up and tell him that's not funny, don't go cry to the teacher every time someone hurt your feeling. 😱

    Or maybe you are a code monkey and it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. It almost never is to do with your appearance so don't start that shit...
    Sep 6 0
  • Apple
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    I would give him a one-way trip to suplex city
    Sep 6 0
  • Microsoft / R&D I 🏇
    I think there could be a communication gap. The manager could think that “code monkey” is a person, who thinks about code only and doesn’t care about business needs or prioritizes code over business needs.

    Regardless how your manager called you, do you want to work in a team, where good engineering isn’t respected?
    Sep 6 1
    • Microsoft wtfdudes
      I agree there seems to be some context missing. The backslap and laugh suggest it was intended in an amiable manner and making a point about perspective /approach rather than meant as a slur. Op can still be offended if they want (and people can say horrible things even when the intent was nonnegative) but it may be worth considering what exactly the intent was.

      Anyway as ^ said, independent of this event op and manager seem to have “irreconcilable differences”, and it’s apparent in the way op describes their manager.
      Sep 6
  • Procore Obama2024
    Are you black?
    Sep 6 3
    • Microsoft manoi 🤯
      OP
      No but dark skinned
      Sep 6
    • Microsoft / Other jdpywbk
      Are you a coder?
      Sep 6
    • Procore Obama2024
      Still borderline. Monkey is a code word
      Sep 7
  • Microsoft jilla2
    Report to your skip
    Sep 6 2
    • Google Faithful
      A quicker way to be shown the door is by walking to it directly, rather than asking for directions
      Sep 6
    • Amazon Waze
      ^ this guy knows how shit goes down.
      Sep 7
  • Code monkey is an actual term.

    “A derogative term for a computer programmer who isn't actually involved in any aspect of conceptual or design work, but simply writes code to specifications given”

    I don’t think he meant to comment on your physical appearance. But yeah, a little insulting.
    Sep 6 1
    • American Express vrBp02
      Yea I’ve def heard this term before use towards caucasians.
      Sep 8
  • New / R&D
    leti

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    TC?
    Sep 6 1
    • Microsoft manoi 🤯
      OP
      This is not the time and place
      Sep 6
  • TripAdvisor hodlbtc
    Provide more details like a transcript of the discussion, or specifically what you both disagreed on.
    You wont get any meaningful advice without meaningful context
    Sep 6 2
    • Microsoft manoi 🤯
      OP
      Well can't give too many details because to protect privacy and nda on project
      Sep 6
    • Twitch / Eng annnon
      You kind of gave up privacy already stating that your manager called you a code monkey... You're probably easily identifiable right now unless he calls everyone code monkeys during his 1 on 1s
      Sep 6
  • Credit Karma Fries 🍟
    Too weak case for HR.
    You might just take a fight with your manager and get PIPed or fired as soon as he gets a chance.
    Also, he might have told you code monkey not on your appearance but on behavior.
    Sep 6 0
  • Amazon / Eng SmkWdEvyDy
    What do you people prefer to be called then?
    Sep 6 0
  • Microsoft / Other jdpywbk
    Isn't this about the same as calling you a nerd because your a cs major? Get over it.
    Sep 6 0
  • AnchorFree / Eng 🍪 cookie
    Learn how to accept criticism, do an ego removal operation and start learning how to be better.
    Your manager is ok, some will be even more rude, relax, learn to understand your mistakes. You probably are a junior, it would never happen to a senior engineer.

    Get used to it and learn hard every day
    Sep 6 0
  • Uber gRtV35
    Grow some skin. Stop crying in the corner and take it as a challenge to prove him wrong/better.
    Sep 6 0
  • Amazon ngkhjug
    This is your best chance to defend your dignity, don’t be weak! Tell the HR you wouldn’t let this go if the company doesn’t discipline this person.
    Sep 6 0
  • Morgan Stanley ninja007
    Maybe you ARE one?
    Sep 7 1
    • Uber uperf
      Coding chimp
      Sep 7