Marriage & sex

Walmart.com QEuQ21
Jul 4 77 Comments

Been married for 4 years now and beginning to lose interest in spouse. Losing interest mainly includes lack of physical attraction. I am 35, she is 32 and definitely a 9/10. I see myself think of being with 7's and 8's even though I wouldn't cheat in real.

We have been fighting a lot recently and I am also emotionally disconnected from her in the past few months.

Anybody gone through similar phase? Please share your thoughts and experiences

Is divorce worth it?
TC 330k

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  • Microsoft / Other
    unicornCod

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    unicornCodmore
    Ever try swinging? Humans arent naturally monogamous. Find a cute couple to play board games and orgies with.

    And I'm not joking. Go listen to some Dan Savage
    Jul 4 15
    • Facebook / Eng mturtle
      Damn I would not be into that. You all way more progressive then me.
      Jul 4
    • Soo, democrat?
      Jul 5
    • New hiLE11
      OP look into r/hotwife r/cuckold.

      It will help bring spark and you will like the competing feeling.

      @betweenlit message me if you are looking for a bull
      Jul 5
    • extremely gay
      Jul 5
    • New SgJq15
      correct suggestion for people with high self esteem and a lot confidence. you have to look at yourself very closely before embarking on that but the benefits are just awesome. having many people in one bed is the tits. definitely recommend
      Jul 5
  • New / Eng rresoisnco
    She's a 9 and you're not physically attracted to her? What.
    Jul 4 11
    • Booking.com / Other
      Punani

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      Punanimore
      Sounds like it's time for OP to introduce us to his 9/10 wife
      Jul 4
    • Symantec / Eng 0xdeaf
      No surprises here. For every beautiful woman in this world there is a man tired of f-ing her
      Jul 4
    • Cisco meoww
      For every sexy guy in the world there’s a woman sick of fucking him
      Jul 5
    • Symantec / Eng 0xdeaf
      Totally. The point here is human sexuality is more complex than looks
      Jul 5
    • Medidata Solutions chocopar
      Marriage is work. At four years you are past the honeymoon phase, and now the tough part starts. If you don't nurture the marriage, it will fail.

      Read books on maintaining a healthy marriage. Talk to a therapist. Get couples therapy.

      Your marriage can end much faster than you realize. And if you truly loved your wife, a divorce will hurt you more than you realize.

      Work on it.
      Jul 5
  • General Atomics pvuu58
    Grass is not greener

    Fix your marriage
    Jul 4 4
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Ok! That's where I am leaning too but what do I do to fix it
      Jul 4
    • New / Eng
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      Its bcoz few rich people like you gets bored after few years of marriage. Baang her like first time or introduce me to her
      Jul 4
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      Punani

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      Punanimore
      Have you tried threesome? He-she-he or she-he-she?
      Jul 4
    • Google Trump 1793
      OP: couples therapy.

      Also stop asking Blind for relationships advice lol
      Jul 5
  • New / Eng
    marry-me

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    marry-memore
    If she's 9 and you don't care anymore, I would very much like to ride the wagon!
    Jul 4 0
  • Microsoft UseDeFeet
    Pics?
    Jul 4 0
  • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
    OMG this post is my worst nightmare😞. I have this is constant phobia that what if I fall out of love after marriage. Is it even worth getting married 🙄.
    Jul 5 7
    • Oracle marriedM
      Well, do it and deal with it rather than not do it in time, regret it, and do it later in life. If you give your SO sufficient independence, and let them vent once in a while, it isn't as bad as it sounds. No one comes here to post about happy marriages. There are such phases, even among compatible partners, which pass. Would you rather be lonely? If you commit, you effectively double your social circle too.
      Jul 5
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Good question. Is it worth it, yes? I do think it's a temporary phase and there have been great priceless moments in our marriage
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      Pinkfloyd most of us do fall into avg marriage once honey moon period is over . Better to be with person for 5-7 years before one Marry or be a Martyr lol
      Jul 5
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      Thanks good people for good advice..
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      You welcome :-)
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft TrollCatch
    Couple of things you could try..
    You could try staying away for a few weeks, maybe you both would miss each other after a few days..
    You could reminisce/relive the lovely moments of marriage by maybe traveling to those places again or even as simple as going over some old pictures of good old times..
    Think of all the good times you've spent with each other and things you love about each other.
    For sex, try interesting foreplay and maybe roleplay.

    Rebuilding everything you have in this marriage, all over again with another person can be very challenging. A lot of people go back to their spouse after an affair. So don't be short sighted. A known devil is almost always better than an unknown angel.
    Jul 4 9
    • New / Eng
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      Whities never have one. Bang bang
      Jul 4
    • Google Devil
      Marry me can DM for proof
      Jul 4
    • New / Eng rresoisnco
      What if I want proof too
      Jul 4
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Thanks for the detailed reply. Definitely valuable
      Jul 4
    • Google Devil
      Rresoisnco can dm me too :-)
      Jul 4
  • Microsoft / Field Ops IiFe32
    Get a therapist they can do wonders
    Jul 4 1
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Do you have experience or know people where it has helped?
      Jul 4
  • Facebook / Eng 435
    Maybe you’re focusing in the wrong things. So you said she’s a 9, I assume physically. But how is she as a person?
    Hotness will always wear off, you keep being phisically attracted because you’re attracted to the person, as a person.
    Jul 4 0
  • New / Eng
    marry-me

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    marry-memore
    Btw I don't think you can afford divorce with that TC!
    Jul 4 2
    • Facebook sev69
      Yeah, you definitely don't make enough money to get a divorce. 330k is pretty low. Therapy is WAY cheaper than alimony.
      Jul 4
    • Google / Eng granted
      Alimony depends on TC though
      Jul 4
  • Google / Eng granted
    Do nofap
    Jul 4 0
  • Davey cCTI36
    Divorce will be a huge loss for you both mentally and financially (TC) ..no harm trying out therapy
    Jul 4 1
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Valid point
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft / Acctg K1256
    Go to couples therapy. It’s made a night and day difference.
    Jul 4 0
  • Oracle marriedM
    Sorry dude, it happens. Try to take a trip away for a couple of days, by yourself. If you miss each other, you're gonna be fine. Get therapy or an honest discussion with the closest people mediating - if they can handle it.
    Jul 4 3
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Want to try and keep things within 4 walls. Involving more people here more interpretations and is a double edged sword
      Jul 5
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Therapy is probably the best option
      Jul 5
    • Oracle marriedM
      Yep. Good luck with it.
      Jul 5
  • VMware EupV05
    Similar boat myself. Wish I could jus shoot my goddamn head
    Jul 5 1
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      Yea, sucks to be in this position
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft / Field Ops IiFe32
    OP, experience
    Jul 4 0
  • Google Devil
    I am with you man . I think we need poly lifestyle.
    Jul 4 0
  • Amazon klulez
    Invite a BBC to fk her, and you watch!
    This will work like magic for your dying attraction.
    Jul 5 2
    • Walmart.com QEuQ21
      OP
      What's a BBC?
      Jul 5
    • Amazon klulez
      b!g bIak c0k
      Jul 5
  • Cadence mp12
    white? American?
    Jul 5 0
  • Apple wMKi17
    Indian ?
    Jul 4 0