Marriage question?

DocuSign Desgner
Feb 2 73 Comments

Me and my wife get along great overall. We don’t fight that often. We are happy.

Question- She points out any mistakes I do and I accept it but if I do the same she gets all defensive and starts crying. It always ends up with me asking sorry for being a jerk even if she is wrong. What to do?

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    • Microsoft bing0
      I don’t think people realise how painful divorce is.
      Feb 2
  • Cisco / Eng license2🔥
    Welcome to married life buddy.
    Feb 2 0
  • Apple HumanDoing
    Go to a marriage counselor if you can’t manage it yourself
    Feb 2 4
    • Google trolDtrols
      Why is this the default go-to answer for every relationship question ?
      They don't have a magic wand.
      Feb 2
    • Oracle / Eng
      not_larry

      Oracle Eng

      BIO
      Not CTO
      not_larrymore
      @google, it’s called not taking ownership.
      Feb 2
    • Apple Snut Ella
      And sometimes they just suck. Like the one I went to who said “you should just get divorced”.
      Feb 2
    • Apple HumanDoing
      Some people aren’t good with confrontation and need a third party for mediation. A counselor is better than involving a friend or family member.
      Feb 2
  • Desi spotted
    Feb 2 2
    • Amazon LionKing!
      Racist spotted
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft sat_nad
      The most racist people on the planet complaining about racism!
      Such questions only come from Indians as a result of blindly following shitty superficial culture where people care more for the financial status than personality even in marriages
      Feb 2
  • Apple / Eng Hebdu
    That’s every household story 😀😀
    Feb 2 1
    • Microsoft lHcN54
      Not true
      Feb 3
  • Amazon 1700zulu
    My wife had a terrible time admitting she was wrong and got very defensive. The easiest way is to talk to her about it like this: “we are a team and are stronger when we both do X instead of Y”. The team focus will blunt some of her criticism of you and help you get through to her. PM me if you want to talk about it more.
    Feb 2 1
    • PayPal / Eng = O(1)
      This is some solid advice
      Feb 2
  • Netflix GvYi87
    This is normal married life ! If she accepts then it will be something new
    Feb 2 0
  • Google RockLobsta
    Stop criticizing her. Just bang escorts to deal with the frustration.
    Feb 2 0
  • Amazon RBMY63
    Talk to her about how you can approach her with innocuous criticism? If she can’t respond to that, talk to a therapist because communication is the cornerstone of a relationship.
    Feb 2 0
  • A10 Networks / Sales
    Brewhahaa

    A10 Networks Sales

    PRE
    F5 Networks, Oracle, Vertafore
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    I yam who I yam - Popeye
    Brewhahaamore
    Emotional blackmail. Run.
    Feb 2 1
  • Microsoft lesmiserab
    Go read this book, changed my life and my marriage:

    The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert - John Gottman
    Feb 2 1
    • Google f23j6rz
      Gottman’s book is very good. Same with a book caller “crucial conversations.”

      Difficult conversations are a fundamental life skill. You can definitely get better at them. Good luck!
      Feb 2
  • Apple ijyA68
    You should accept that you have a normal marriage 😂.
    Feb 2 0
  • Facebook feel
    Women are like that man. We grew up in times when we were told that boys and girls are equal. We ended up thinking that they are the same. Reality is that they are not the same even if they are "equal". Accept that and deal with it. Fighting it will only make things worse for you.
    Feb 2 0
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    • Microsoft sat_nad
      And you are an insecure hyper patriotic moron whos to insecure to take the slightest criticism of his "great" culture
      Feb 2
    • Facebook feel
      FYI, I have publications and of the scientific variety. The ones which propose a theory, proves the complexity, verifies it in practice and then does a summary. Not like yours that generalizes based on some singular examples. Forget being scientific, you are not even logical.

      You are one of those ultra morons who doesn't know he is a moron. The one who proves by himself that he is a moron.
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft sat_nad
      If you really had something you would have posted it!
      Mr nationalist
      Feb 2
    • Facebook feel
      I'm not about to doxx myself. What do I have to gain? You wouldn't understand it -- it's a logical thing.

      Like I said above, you are one of those ultra morons who doesn't know that he is a moron. You'll never get it.

      I'm done with you.
      Feb 2
    • Microsoft sat_nad
      Says the hyper Patriot ROFL
      Feb 2
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    • Amazon amznuser
      I am sure that has worked out well for you🤣🤣
      Feb 2
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  • Microsoft Larry Pаge
    After you solve the conflict, talk to her and try to analyze together what she thinks caused it, what made her sad that she cried and how you could avoid it in future. Try to be soft, but logical, explain your point of view and bring some solid arguments. If she starts crying again, hug her tighter, but don't say sorry if you didn't do anything wrong.

    Crying during an argument is manipulative as fk. Even if one doesn't do it intentionally, they've done it before and it worked to win the conflict, so they subconsciously use same method. What you want is a fair resolution that satisfies both of you.

    I actually become very frustrated when someone starts to cry during a conflict. I pause untill all tears are gone, and continue only when I see we can talk constructively.
    Feb 2 0
  • Microsoft amused
    Start crying next time she criticize s you and make her apologize?
    Feb 2 0
  • Marin Software xOCX31
    I suspect that it is not the criticism itself, but your delivery is what makes her cry. Or perhaps it is some other stress in her life which is the root ill. The fact that you are married suggests that at core she is a good person. Bottom line, there's more to the story that needs to be figured out. The story as you tell it, so far, doesnt quite add up.

    p.s. TC or GTFO
    Feb 2 0
  • Nvidia Mkst
    Take mdma together
    Feb 2 0
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