My boyfriend of 2 years is super supportive and understanding most of the times, I give him a tough time in terms of getting cranky or behaving rudely sometimes, he keeps his cool and tries to calm me . Is it justified if we get married I feel in this scenario I am taking undue advantage of him.There's pressure mounting from both the sides of family to get married soon, maybe that's another reason that's adding stress to our relationship. We both want to get married to each other, but I wanted to make sure he isn't jumping to wrong conclusions given behavior.P.S, I am trying and changing bit by bit to be a better person to have a great future together by controlling my anger issues and trying to think from his perspective as well. what other factors should we consider before jumping to decide if we are meant to be together?

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    • Glassdoor vvvvvvvw
      Dude with that reply no wonder you work at google
      Dec 5
  • It's a journey, not a destination. But I think you have the right mindset to start the journey.
    Dec 50
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    dhufy

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    dhufymore
    Give him a bl*wj*b from time to time. That should be enough.
    😂😂
    Dec 52
    • Microsoft / EngKennyH
      This was literally going to be my suggestion.

      If you give him head every time you’re shitty to him, either:

      1) you’ll stop being shitty because it’s too much work for you, or

      2) he’ll be happy you’re being shitty because he knows what comes next.

      Problem solved!
      Dec 5
    • This is the best version of the “swear jar” ever!
      Dec 6
  • Microsoft Hksbdh
    Chances are that you'll never change. You need to be sure that he'll be able to put up with this shit forever
    Dec 52
    • Intuit ZeroSnark
      I disagree. You cannot change others but you can change yourself. OP sounds sincere in wanting to change
      Dec 5
    • Amazon Turtle Man
      She CAN change. Don’t discourage her with that toxic shit.
      6d
  • Google / EngBluths
    If the boyfriend was asking for advice, I would tell him not to marry you. You’re trying to change, but people rarely ever change.

    But since he seems okay being the submissive one in the relationship, I don’t see anything wrong from your perspective.
    Dec 55
    • Salesforce
      Bhoot

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      I am blind to something and you are too.
      Bhootmore
      How do you know he's submissive? OP has a problem she isn't able to control. Have you heard of hormone and depression related behavior issues, or some inherently present in people beyond their control? I feel she is giving him the respect and control. She's accepting her limitations and is grateful to him.
      Dec 5
    • Intuit tiutnI
      OP
      On a lighter note, yes we have observed the pattern fluctuating with the hormonal pattern, so he shows a lil bit of extra love and caution towards PMS. me on the other hand try my bit by trying to be healthier to not let it go out of hand. You really gave it a geniune thought, thanks so much for the compassion and perspective.
      Dec 5
    • Salesforce
      Bhoot

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      I am blind to something and you are too.
      Bhootmore
      If you love this guy, go and marry him. Honestly, he knows your limitations and has still proposed to you. You are self aware and the anger and pms issues you are going through and are not doing it intentionally. Give him your devotion and accept his commitment. Good luck :)
      Dec 5
    • Amazon 123raj
      He proposed most likely due to lack of options.
      Dec 6
    • Microsoft Ranveer
      lol @raj
      Dec 6
  • Dropbox drl/food
    TC?
    Dec 52
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    Waggish

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    Waggishmore
    Wow girl advantages? Is it a fancy statement these days to say I have no control on myself. Don’t you think you do this because you know for a fact that he is taking that shit and not leaving you?
    Dec 61
    • Salesforce
      Bhoot

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      I am blind to something and you are too.
      Bhootmore
      FYI: https://www.webmd.com/women/features/escape-hormone-horrors-what-you-can-do
      Please educate yourself before you get a partner.
      I understand that it would have been troublesome if she was taking zero responsibility. But she is, she's accepting the effect of this, giving credit to him for dealing with it well and is trying to deal with her issues!
      Dec 6
  • Verizon PinkyBrain
    Use paragraph breaks fuck reading this.
    Dec 50
  • Trying being less of a shitty person
    Dec 50
  • Yahoo / EngDumble D
    Ohh actually you require a dominating male in your life..
    Dec 52
    • Ness Technologies FkTrump
      It will be a hell for both of them
      Dec 5
    • Yahoo / EngDumble D
      Nope..
      Dec 5
  • Apple applpark
    Are you Indian?
    Dec 52
    • Intuit tiutnI
      OP
      Yes
      Dec 5
    • Amazon 123raj
      Dont wry then the guy wont leave u . Go ahead.
      Dec 6
  • Facebook / Eng
    onlysmellz

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    onlysmellzmore
    Once a wise man said, if you have to ask, it's not for you.
    Dec 50
  • Microsoft Htdifg
    Ask him his expectations of you. Is either of your decisions based on a hope that the other person will change for better (read different) in future? Then maybe it’s not the time for marriage yet.
    But if both of you take each other for what you are right now, then go for it! That way, there will not be any regret in your future if things don’t turn out as expected. And about changing behaviors/self improvement, that’s human nature. But you know that whatever either of you change to be, you both will change together, in the same set of circumstances and experiences and trust me, that’ll be acceptable for both of you.
    Dec 50
  • Salesforce
    Bhoot

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    I am blind to something and you are too.
    Bhootmore
    You seem self reflective and honest. You are ready to take responsibility for your actions. Please have a heart to heart conversation with him. I feel any man would prefer a woman who accepts her mistakes, is honest, is appreciative of him, even if she has faults than plenty of worse off options. If you feel insecure say that to him.
    Dec 50
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    • Cisco / OtherTenerife
      I hope this is a troll but this happened to a friend of mine. It started with her having these moments of confusion.
      Dec 5
    • SAP / EngStresssed
      Sorry dude. I know that stuff is difficult. Watching someone you love slowly fade away is the worst possible feeling.
      Dec 5
  • Microsoft / Product@zzz
    Get married to someone else, like someone you despise, and but keep your bf on the side.

    You maximize outcomes that way.
    Dec 50
  • Lyft csDu30
    Try tinder?
    Dec 50
  • Qualcomm life345
    Marry him. Women are emotional than men but they do lot more .
    Dec 53
    • Qualcomm life345
      If he proposes, go for it
      Dec 5
    • Intuit tiutnI
      OP
      He already did
      Dec 5
    • Qualcomm life345
      Great.. congratulations.. he knows what he is getting.. rest marriage will fix. Keep in mind women tend to be more emotional than men and as long as he loves you, you are good. If you love him dont control him. Give him freedom and he will come back to you
      Dec 6
  • Microsoft / ProductTacoBoss
    At least you are self aware and trying to improve. Don't marry because of pressure but only if you guys are in love and see yourselves together long term
    Dec 52
  • Proofpoint / Othergaaandu
    Key questions: how do you think he would do as a father and how well do you get along with the family. Those are the big ones, along with the money issue. Everything else secondary.
    Dec 51
    • Intuit tiutnI
      OP
      I have not met his family yet, but they seem to be good folks, as far as money issue is concerned, can you please elaborate- they are not financially too well off, but I have enough trust we as individuals would be able to take care of finances via our jobs. As far as he being able to be a good father is concerned, what should I take into consideration? Apologize if I sound too naive.
      Dec 5
  • Cisco B-Intern
    Are you in higher rank than he? I feel like you’re not mature enough for marriage. Sorry to be honest
    Dec 50
  • Apple / Eng
    OxKing

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    OxKingmore
    Your personal decisions should not be overly influenced by family. I understand people come from a variety of backgrounds but if you live in the USA a marriage can destroy you if it goes sour.

    Also, does he have a problem with you being cranky? I know guys who get chewed out by their wife and seem to love it. 😎
    Dec 50
  • Airbnb Sasasasasa
    Do you need a guy that calls you out and puts up with less of your shit?
    Dec 50
  • Proofpoint / Eng
    Yay12

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    Yay12more
    Marriage is all about sacrifice and understanding. No matter how many years you spend you will have conflicts. Question u need to ask to urself , Am i ready for sacrifice.
    Dec 50

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