Married for 3 years, then this..
We've been married for 3 years, been in a relationship for 5. It was like a dream for both of us. We hardly had any major issues and got along really well. Almost no friction in our relationship.
We were so close to deciding on when to start a family. Then he comes along.
When I met her she seemed wise. She was happy with life and grateful for everything it offered. She understood the meaning of both desire and compromise. I had dated a few women, but this understanding of life was missing. This was my final consideration in asking her to marry me.
Over the last year, she's struggling to find a "meaning". I have tried handling things lightly and kept it casual. She's started reading all those books and even started talking to her single co-workers about her issues. Sure enough, they reminded her of all the ways she didn't have fun. But she seemed to forget all the ways we did have fun.
This guy she met at a restaurant by accident (table number confusion) seemed to occupy quite a bit of her time. Then they started a business relationship. My wife was often going out with him to meet his clients and make connections. The business trip changed everything. After the trip, it felt like she didn't struggle with "meaning" anymore. She altered her schedule and seemed refreshed.
2 months later, she comes and says "I need a break, I don't know how long". I asked if something's serious and she says "yes". I took about a week and said "okay". She says "I also want to see other people".
I immediately lost it and a huge fight later, she packed her bags, moved into her sister's. Some of the phrases from the fight:
"He's a risk-taker"
"Knows influential people and can potentially boost my career"
"Has a better house" (I'm not kidding!)
Few weeks later, we meet up and come to a conclusion on the divorce situation. Oddly enough, she didn't want my assets even though we didn't sign a prenup. As of right now, documents are under processing.
I still can't believe it. What happened to her? She didn't confide in me regarding some issues and I respected her right to do so. But I didn't think the situation would spiral out of control this bad. Part of me wants to believe she's still the same person and I'm the culprit. I don't know what to do from here. I'll be honest. I'm not "broken" as such. I want to change for the better. But I'm left in limbo. I don't see a beginning, I don't see an end.
Edit: Please don't DM. Thanks for understanding.
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