Married people...how do u fight stress with noise around you....drama wife, anxious kids, professional issues?

Synopsys notflagged
May 12 38 Comments

My heart starts to beat fast but as I am typing I am feeling ok...blind has therapeutic qualities ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  • Oracle chloe5
    Take a deep breath. Tell yourself that there are things whose outcome u cannot control but at least you can control your response to it.
    May 12 0
  • Oracle chloe5
    Presume you are from the BAY area. Don't put too much pressure on the kids. Just let them be normal and healthy. Not sure what the drama wife and why does she get all worked up? Comparing TCs??
    May 12 3
    • Synopsys notflagged
      OP
      MIL (my mother)
      May 12
    • Oracle chloe5
      If drama wife is due to MIL, the. definitely Indian. Live in parents. Do u have siblings with whom your mom can divide her stay? Tough one. Make sure your mom doesn't unnecessarily interfere in daily stuff. Advice your mom to stay neutral. Ask your wife to stay neutral too. She will also become a MIL some day.
      May 12
    • Intel winamp
      Kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi
      May 12
  • Microsoft JasperKid
    I meditate daily and ensure time to be alone and absolutely quiet. Walking on trails works - wife and the girls hate wilderness coz of the spider webs.
    May 12 1
    • Microsoft JasperKid
      Silence and solitude. Best cure... I also understand now why Dad was like the way he was.. we must be driving him nuts ;-)
      May 12
  • Expedia tier n!
    When you are thinking of getting married, keep ears and eyes wide open. After getting married, keep them half closed.
    May 12 0
  • VMware / Eng liftkarade
    And here I am unmarried, single, lonely, far from family thinking maybe life will get better once I will have kids+ spouse.
    May 12 3
    • Synopsys notflagged
      OP
      It's a journey...good and bad...same like singlehood
      May 12
    • @vmware Singlehood is fun, so enjoy it while it lasts.
      May 12
    • Samsung / Eng isk_kamina
      Kaise kaiso ko diya hai
      May 12
  • Apple abilities
    Pretend you have to go to potty , and lock yourself in the bathroom and post a question on Blind. Itโ€™s therapeutic...
    May 12 0
  • Hertz !XXX!
    Relaxing music, walk outside, monthly massages, personal time (aka โ€œMe Timeโ€), time with a friend to release the pressure.
    May 12 0
  • New hqWe60
    shouldnt have had kids then
    May 12 3
    • Oracle chloe5
      immature response
      May 12
    • New hqWe60
      how so
      May 12
    • Amazon / Eng fHUg57
      Hqwe60 if you think you shouldn't have kids, please do a favor to them and don't have them.
      May 12
  • Glu Mobile PQSK63
    Remove the MIL. With her around, it is not your household, she is most senior and everyone has to respect her decision. I am Asian too, moved MIL about 15 min away. Best decision ever made.
    May 12 0
  • Amazon / Eng ewjX55
    I think u have to find what works for u. I walk around the park where i see stupid little birds and stuff. And i see how their just living their life bot worrying about a career or wives or nothing. Theyre probably just happy they didnt get eaten by a cat today. Usually seeing nature with its simple life makes me realize how over inflated i make all my non-issues.
    May 12 0
  • SAP $AP
    Keep in mind. You are not alone. We are all in same boat.
    May 12 0
  • Google yXBC85
    Probably need to sort the drama wife thing out. Kids will be kids and they go through things, but why is your wife a part of the stress?
    May 12 2
    • Synopsys notflagged
      OP
      MIL...I have started to filter out her drama...
      May 12
    • Microsoft โ—‰_
      MoFo In Law
      May 12
  • Oracle chloe5
    Keep the "me time". very critical.
    May 12 0
  • Microsoft baaaallls
    Go workout
    May 12 0
  • VMware jhshjbGha
    Explain mother in law issue?
    May 12 0
  • Cummins EvOc34
    TC?
    May 12 0
  • Red Hat / Sales
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    citizen_xmore
    Jesus is the only one who can give you true peace in all the chaos. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, still early yes - but through our ups and downs whether it be work, family, or just what life throw at you, Jesus always gave us peace through it all.
    May 18 3
    • AMD
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      ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ
      May 20
    • Red Hat / IT
      citizen_

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      citizen_more
      It doesnโ€™t hurt, hope you can experience it some day :)
      May 20
    • AMD
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      Thanks, but no thanks
      May 20
  • AMD
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    Leave to go to a really nice gym for 1-2 hours a day
    May 14 0
  • Synopsys anon57
    You are not alone
    May 13 0
  • Intel / Eng Who.Dis
    I think the word โ€œfightโ€ describes the struggle you are facing. You need to re-frame your thought structure to not โ€œfightโ€ things. Freedom is a state of the mind. Fighting is also a state of the mind, with disastrous blowback.
    May 13 0