Relationships

Men’s settle down age

My.com KTqR47
Mar 14

Have read the post of 36 yo female having a problem with relationships and come think, what is that age threshold for men? When a man is still in that league that can date 20s

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  • Splunk vroomx2
    it's got a very from guy the guy and knowing what they want. And the woman has to know what they want. I'm assuming you're talking about heteronormative relationships.

    I'm 40 and my girlfriend is 24. We love each other very much and we're very much a good fit. But that's just us I've also falling in love with women who are 50.

    no matter what your age it has to be more than just looks. What do you bring to the table? What is it about you that makes you so compelling? And the Bay Area most of us spend time either commuting working exercising or socializing and we can only pick two maybe three of those.
    Mar 144
    • LinkedIn tLnQ54
      The key phrase here: "What do you bring to the table."

      Many women in their mid-to-late thirties have over inflated sexual marketplace values (some men do too but men are usually more pragmatic than women)

      That's not to say you cant find a good fit with people at any age and yes looks aren't everything, but it is a good indicator of fertility (assuming children are desired)

      Lastly, as you've stated here, there is a 16 year age gap between you and your girlfriend. Many women, especially today, don't seem to realize (or when they do its too late) the competition is real out there.

      As one of my favorite podcaster sums it up: "Every single day is another crop of 18 year olds available in the dating market." And unfortunately for women pushing 30+, they better be out there with their A game (men too) every single day (good upkeep with their health and fitness, dresses well, positive attitude) because if they don't their comeptition will and then they wonder why they aren't chosen. And with younger women they at times don't need to do anything and still get picked.

      It is a harsh reality but it is what it is.
      Mar 14
    • Cisco meowwww
      Not everyone wants to date someone younger.
      Mar 14
    • Apple OFOM41
      I think women usually don’t but men usually do
      Mar 14
    • Cisco meowwww
      Projecting ?
      Mar 14
  • Okta doomsday
    I have so many friends in mid thirties dating girls in early 20s. They seem happy and I’m no-one to judge. Whatever makes you happy
    Mar 143
    • LinkedIn tLnQ54
      And why should they date women their age or close to it? This is what many women in the early-to-mid 30s don't seem to understand.
      Mar 14
    • Okta doomsday
      I’m not raising any questions. Are you?
      Mar 14
    • LinkedIn tLnQ54
      Just making a point.
      Mar 14
  • Microsoft kliigv
    Lol there are no rules around dating !
    You can date a 20yo woman as long as you find one who is interested in you !

    But if you are neither rich nor famous, then I can safely say your chances are bleak as you grow +5 years older than the woman.
    I mean she might as well find a younger version of you .. and there is no dearth of that kind of men
    Mar 141
    • Chase / Eng
      FloridaMan

      ChaseEng

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      15+ yoe, Java, etc
      FloridaManmore
      Nonsense. 15 year age gap is nothing in most areas. Places like Bay Area and Seattle have very distorted dating market due to huge supply of wealthy guys and low supply of women worth dating. Having six figures in SV makes you homeless. Having six figures in Kentucky makes you a baller.

      My wife has a ton of girlfriends who support their loser husbands or raise kids on their own. If you're decent looking and have good TC, it should be easy for you to date women in their 20s. Outside of SV, women actually try to get married before 40.
      Mar 14
  • Chase / Eng
    FloridaMan

    ChaseEng

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    15+ yoe, Java, etc
    FloridaManmore
    Dated women in the 20-35 year age range for my entire adult life. I'm way older than my wife. We met when she was in her early 20s.

    But you have to not be a bum. My wife would never have dated me in the first place unless I had a successful career underway at that point. Women who pick older guys don't want someone who is immature or unambitious or they'd date hot 20 year old guys who sell weed and live in their mom's basement.
    Mar 140
  • New / Ops
    tooQ10

    NewOps

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    Rakuten USA
    tooQ10more
    I'm over 40 but don't want to give up on having children. I sure hope women around 30 are still interested in me!
    Mar 140
  • Amazon / Engn0v
    I found early-mid 30s peak dating age for men, though it helps if you are successful and making decent income. You can date a lot of women from 25ish-35ish.
    Mar 140
  • Uber ubro
    If you’re wondering if it’s time to settle down, it’s most likely not.
    Mar 142
    • My.com KTqR47
      OP
      Why
      Mar 14
    • Intel / EngDonaldDD's
      Because a relationship progresses naturally. You don't one day realize as a single person, "sh*t I need to be married"
      Mar 14
  • New flqU20
    When I was 25-27, I'd normally consider nice guys up to 34 (up to 36 if they had something that stood out, but it felt less ideal).

    Of course women get attention from guys way older than that, but the 40 year-barrier is quite a hard line to cross when a girl is in her 20's. Women get judged by friends/family/colleagues when there's a large age gap (hint: not in a positive way), so that often plays a role when we have options.

    This means that the further you are from your early 30's, the more women will judge you on how you 'used' those extra years (aka: if these make you stand out between your younger competitors).
    Mar 140
  • United Wholesale Mortgage
    zpyM13

    United Wholesale Mortgage

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    General Motors
    zpyM13more
    I love older women. They know what they want. It’s rare I want to actually be in a relationship, though. No point if her womb is infertile.
    Mar 140

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