Hello all, Fairly young early 20s, college graduate, still new to the world. I was wondering at what point or stage in life do people start to accept reality for what it is? Where your mindset is shifted to a less idealistic mindset? Just curious. I know that there will people that do not at all, but I guess I would like to ask to see opinions of people who are more knowledgeable or more experienced. Kind regards.
3 years after college
Are you asking when I stopped thinking I'd win the fields medal? The answer is 40
Do you mind sharing some experience of these disappointments? Everyone can perceive it differently, but I’m just curious is all
Yup it is the matter of experience. It is good that you are able to contemplate such stuffs now. I remember going through that phase in my early 20s questioning about life and reality. Meditation and mindfulness has helped me a lot in that path. There is no set rule in life; everyone is trying their best. Try to find some hobbies, be curious and open about everything, do your work dutifully. Trust yourself.
If you are an engineer and you switch to management in your 30s, you have accepted "reality". Else, you are still trying hard to change the world to be as you want it to be.
Like others said, a gradual process. In early 20s job looked exciting and felt like I was changing world for the better while advancing my career. At 45 I feel that I am a cog that keeps grinding the same thing over and over. After 50 I will probably just quit and look for something actually meaningful.
This what kind of what I was looking for, I guess it’s common in your 20s. Does trying to accept it earlier help in anyway? If so, what things would you have done differently?
I honestly don’t know if getting disappointed early on is very helpful. You will just feel more miserable. I also don’t know if I could have done things differently with a different outcome.
Never give up.
Not sure exactly what you're asking, but it's really entirely up to you when you give up on making the world a better place, if that's what you're asking.