Mental - at what point does your mindset adapt to reality?

Expedia Esotic
Apr 29 11 Comments

Hello all,

Fairly young early 20s, college graduate, still new to the world.

I was wondering at what point or stage in life do people start to accept reality for what it is? Where your mindset is shifted to a less idealistic mindset? Just curious. I know that there will people that do not at all, but I guess I would like to ask to see opinions of people who are more knowledgeable or more experienced.

Kind regards.

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  • Northrop Grumman / Eng HowCouldYu
    3 years after college
    Apr 29 0
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    • Expedia Esotic
      OP
      Do you mind sharing some experience of these disappointments? Everyone can perceive it differently, but I’m just curious is all
      Apr 29
  • Google shmoogle
    Like others said, a gradual process. In early 20s job looked exciting and felt like I was changing world for the better while advancing my career. At 45 I feel that I am a cog that keeps grinding the same thing over and over. After 50 I will probably just quit and look for something actually meaningful.
    Apr 29 2
    • Expedia Esotic
      OP
      This what kind of what I was looking for, I guess it’s common in your 20s. Does trying to accept it earlier help in anyway? If so, what things would you have done differently?
      Apr 29
    • Google shmoogle
      I honestly don’t know if getting disappointed early on is very helpful. You will just feel more miserable. I also don’t know if I could have done things differently with a different outcome.
      Apr 29
  • New / R&D mylttlpony
    Are you asking when I stopped thinking I'd win the fields medal? The answer is 40
    Apr 29 0
  • Cimpress / Eng GBmf58
    Not sure exactly what you're asking, but it's really entirely up to you when you give up on making the world a better place, if that's what you're asking.
    Apr 29 0
  • New / Eng SharmaG
    If you are an engineer and you switch to management in your 30s, you have accepted "reality". Else, you are still trying hard to change the world to be as you want it to be.
    Apr 29 0
  • Goldman Sachs xZkTpq
    Yup it is the matter of experience. It is good that you are able to contemplate such stuffs now. I remember going through that phase in my early 20s questioning about life and reality. Meditation and mindfulness has helped me a lot in that path. There is no set rule in life; everyone is trying their best. Try to find some hobbies, be curious and open about everything, do your work dutifully. Trust yourself.
    Apr 29 0
  • Google gliz
    Never give up.
    Apr 29 0
  • Northrop Grumman / Eng the_curio
    Apr 29 0