Missing my folks

Lenovo tintinbin
Jun 30 71 Comments

I am a woman, I have been away from my parents since 4 years and I am their only child. I visit them once a year. I am very attached to my family.

Lately I have been missing my folks a lot. I just wish I could spend some long quality time with them. I keep worrying about them..especially about their health (they both have been diagnosed Cholesterol problem but are taking meds and proper care). They are around 55.

I cannot visit them soon because of visa issues, and cannot call them over as I recently got married and don’t think it’s fair on my husband to call them this soon to live with us for a while.

I have started worrying about them a lot lately and keep getting emotional.

What can I do?💔


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    • Netflix / Other OlcD57
      @Google - you see how much hate left has for anyone who disagrees with them? Nazi, binning non white, you are guilty for non condemning me lol

      Typical tolerant left. So much empathy, such a great passionate people. So much love, they are not radicalized at all.
      Jun 30
    • Amazon 103i3neif
      @Google, I rest my case. Netflix/Trump is what a significant portion of white America looks like.

      Take it from someone who has had to endure subtle racism every day of his life growing up in the US.
      Jul 1
    • Google / Eng hooli.xyz

      “You didnt call the Netflix guy out. You allow nazi's to exist and run America and yet you still refuse to condemn them. They bomb countries and kill non-white people (see middle east and Latin America), and you defending their right to continue to live free implicates you along with them.”

      WTF are you talking about? If you scroll up, you can see my posts were before Netflix guy. I didn’t even read his posts.

      My last post before your hate tirade was yesterday. I was saying that Trump did NOT win the popular vote.

      I am AGAINST Trump.

      Yet, you somehow categorize me amongst Trump supporters just because I am white.

      Scroll up and read my posts again. I was actually on YOUR side.

      What the fuck is wrong with you?!
      Jul 1
    • Netflix 1984readme
      Dumby eat dumby world in here
      Jul 1
    • Netflix / Other OlcD57
      They will come for you, google guy... when they are done with ppl like me
      Jul 1
  • Amazon lkhgf
    My coworker hasn't seen her parents for 9 years. She can't go to that country to visit them (one of those "evil" countries) and her parents are not healthy enough to travel to another country for a visit.
    Immigration and politics have separated many people from their families.
    Talk to your husband. Maybe he'll understand. Don't presume things.
    Jun 30 3
    • Netflix / Other OlcD57
      There are no politics here, just immigration which is your choice,
      Jun 30
    • Amazon lkhgf
      It really wasn't a choice for her. She's a refugee (after being abused and raped, etc.). You have no idea how horrible people's lives are.
      Jun 30
    • Netflix / Other OlcD57
      I am talking about Op here.
      For refugee life is extremely difficult no matter what.

      At least US is trying to help them
      Jun 30
  • Oracle deepfake
    I hope my (American) kids have the same love for their parents when they’re older as you do for your parents.
    Jun 30 0
  • Oath Atinlay2
    This will only get worse for you, I’d resolve your visa issues. If they are able to come here, you should consider that. Your husband will have to understand if he is at all supportive.

    The fact that you’re asking on Blind instead of talking to him about it is telling.
    Jun 30 0
  • Capital One VRqA34
    Maybe don't move away to a foreign country if you want to see your parents more.
    Jun 30 0
  • Apple magikarp16
    Why can’t you talk to your husband about this?
    Jun 30 0
  • Amazon dssa2
    Just curious, if the genders were reversed, would you all still be as supportive of the spouse inviting over parents? I am not making assumptions, I am genuinely asking.
    Jun 30 2
    • E*Trade / Finance cbEV72
      It’s symmetrical. Both sides need to support parents .
      Jun 30
    • Netflix / Other OlcD57
      Does it matter? The question is weird.
      The question is how? You can get/rent a place for them, I don’t think living in one house is wise.
      But you can afford it if you are in tech , the can come for a few months per year
      Jun 30
  • Amazon crushcandy
    Your parents are still very young. 55 is nothing, but life is short and there is nothing more fulfilling in life than a close family to spend time with. Call them over and ask your husband to be open to it. It will make you a happier wife and partner.
    Jun 30 0
  • Microsoft


    Dropping knowledge and turds in equal measure
    Do what I did. Have them over and spend some quality time.

    It's awkward but you finally realize how much good shit there is to share. Pay for their medical issues too, so you guys havemore years together 👍
    Jun 30 0
  • Google / Data noobler
    Book an Airbnb close to your place and you could stay with them while they’re here.
    Jun 30 0
  • Uber / Eng itsdara
    Save money and go back with them when they need you more. Don't assume they wanna come live here. They'll be so bored
    Jun 30 0
  • Microsoft / Eng peasanton
    Call them over for a short duration.. Talk to your husband to see how long works.. If he feels it will be hard.. Then get an airbnb for a month.. Start small..
    Jun 30 0
  • Symantec


    I guess you do have a job? So you could afford to pay for their flight tickets and stay here?
    Did you talk to your spouse?

    Do you get any vibes there would be any hesitation? If you just feel this can be misunderstood then you probably dont understand your spouse or not giving any credit. Trust your spouse more than people who are giving you advice or speculating what could happen. Most important you have faith in your relationship.
    Jul 3 0
  • E*Trade / Finance cbEV72
    Invite them. Your husband has no choice. He’ll get over it. If you have kids he’ll even like it at some point.
    Jul 1 0
  • Apple UKDY27
    Been there. I can identity with every single thing that you wrote. If it’s any consolation, you are not the only person to go through this. What works for me is keeping in touch with my family, knowing about the ups and downs, giving them the assurance that I am just one phone call away. And that I will make a trip back home if it comes to that. Be ready to make occasional sacrifices in your career for your family. Most likely you wont have to but just being ready for it will make you feel better. Hope that helps.
    Jul 1 0
  • Schlumberger Heartland
    If your spouse asks you to ditch your parents you should dump him/her sooner than later
    Jul 1 0
  • Qualcomm dexstart
    Invite them for 3 month trip. Show them california
    Jun 30 0
  • Paychex wuack
    😢💔 same boat
    Jun 30 0
  • MathWorks woohoo11
    Yeah your husband must deal with it
    Jun 30 0
  • Netflix / Other OlcD57
    Everyone gave a proper advice here. Immigration is tough
    Jun 30 0