Most optimal way to let a girl know your TC?

New HFcQ22
May 30 65 Comments

Sure you could be making 200k TC as a fresh grad, but how do you let potential tinder dates / girls in general know your worth? In a more subtle way if possible to avoid the gold diggers but still show you can pay the bills?

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  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    If you have to let her know, you're already losing the game bruh.
    May 30 4
    • Uber sbzubu46
      Not really. A high quality marrying girl maybe on the fence with you but could be made more interested to get to know you better had she known your TC
      May 31
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      then she's not high quality.
      May 31
    • Uber sbzubu46
      Nope. You are living in the TV romanticized idealistic world. In the real world high quality girls do want a guy who is successful. The difference between them and golddigggers is that they also care about your personality and values.
      May 31
    • Facebook ⭕w⭕
      it is obvious that girls, high quality or not, want a guy who is successful. But anyone worth pursuing will see your successes in more ways than you having to explicitly tell them how much you make lmao you are being delusional. And your comparison between high quality girls and golddiggers is, at best, idiotic.
      May 31
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    • Microsoft / Eng gqne23
      This guy was shot dead in India
      May 30
    • Akamai Technologies
      Entra??
      May 31
    • Why so extra, jezzz 😂😅
      May 31
    • Uber sbzubu46
      Not shot. Beaten to death with rocks and sticks while his 22 year old son was made to watch. The literally bashed his brains open slowly while holding him down. 12 dudes and they lured him to come and trapped him. This is india in its truest form.
      May 31
  • Amazon frugalish
    Women can sniff this out so organically you don’t need to do anything at all
    May 31 5
    • Is this real???? Can some female Blinders confirm please?
      May 31
    • New HFcQ22
      OP
      how can they tell from just my tinder pics tho? I'm not getting very many matches
      May 31
    • Amazon frugalish
      Can you get better looking? Hit the gym, better haircut, nicer clothes etc
      May 31
    • Google / Eng hooli.xyz
      Any average Joe can hit the gym and buy nice clothes. You need to show you are not the average Joe but at the same time not look like you are bragging.

      Tinder pics should reflect some hobbies that subtly signal wealth. Something like a pic of you flying in your own Gulfstream, on a yacht around Martha’s Vineyard, or at a test launch of your latest rocket.
      May 31
    • Boom Technology DrtU65
      Tinder shows your university and your company. That paired with your name is not a hard Linkedin to Glassdoor search.
      May 31
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  • Concur TrPB67
    If she's a gold digger, why not play with her? Make her think she'll be getting a Ferrari if she marries you, let her let you fuck her brains out, then dump her. After all she isn't a dating material to start with, but she can be a great fuck.
    May 31 3
    • ^ single guy detected
      May 31
    • GoDaddy / Eng jJGYjXFj
      That's rude, what if your perception ended up being wrong?!
      May 31
    • Microsoft / Eng sunofa🍑
      Such comments just make me wish there was an unsee button.
      Jun 1
  • Amazon lamardavis
    I had one girl come right out and ask me. We weren't even dating or anything. Just hanging out a lot.
    May 31 6
    • Apple fruitco334
      Did she succ tho
      May 31
    • Amazon lamardavis
      Succ :-) do you mean succeed? No I never told her.

      She started asking when my broker called frequently and sent me text messages about what they are buying for me.
      May 31
    • Apple fruitco334
      No i mean did she eat your dick
      May 31
    • Amazon lamardavis
      Lol, no
      May 31
    • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
      That’s too bad
      May 31
    • Uber sbzubu46
      A handjob or at least see her naked?
      May 31
  • Apple fruitco334
    If you live in SF and have enough money for a decent date she should be able to put it together that you pull in the dollars
    May 30 4
    • New HFcQ22
      OP
      thx finally someone not trolling me, what do you consider a decent date? I'm not in SF but should I be spending $100+ on a first date?
      May 30
    • Apple fruitco334
      Haha I was half trolling but I have never been out on a date here, I moved with my fiancée. So hopefully someone else can give an idea
      May 31
    • First date should consist of whatever a Netflix subscription costs and a rubber, if you have to wine and dine you already lost to Chad!
      May 31
    • Uber sbzubu46
      OP no. Try a hike or dinner at a local restaurant which isnt tok fancy but romantic. Like thai restaurant or vietnamese. Then go back to your place which is a 1 bed 1 bath and enjoy all the carnal pleasures
      May 31
  • Apple fruitco334
    Thank god my fiancée is a dime and I don’t have to date here. Every single person I talk to who is out of college says it’s miserable. This is not me trying to flex, because I mean this sincerely. The bay sucks for dating.
    May 31 3
    • Capital One
      Drake

      Capital One

      BIO
      Nothing was the same.
      Drakemore
      It's true, dating after college is rough for everyone. Things change.
      May 31
    • Uber sbzubu46
      Not for gay and lez
      May 31
    • Apple fruitco334
      That’s the truth
      May 31
  • Tinder / Eng Batna
    The problem with trying to signal wealth is that the people explicitly looking for it are going to be better at picking up whatever signals you send than the people who aren't.

    Your best bet is to try to avoid the common signals (cars, clothes, watch, etc) and load up on those that are correlated with things that people who are looking for something more serious care about, e.g. family-oriented stuff, while still demonstrating your, uh, assets (though if you aren't looking for something long-term, that can backfire too).

    Good luck!
    May 30 0
  • Facebook blueriver
    Just list your job (software engineer @ blah company). that’s enough for ballparking it
    May 31 3
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      Everyone is software engineer at blah company in bay area. So it wont work
      May 31
    • Facebook blueriver
      won’t work for what? it will let people know his TC which is his stated goal. i never said TC is enough for romantic success
      May 31
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      Yes I think problem is beyond TC. We have to tell him something with which he can look richer among people who are already rich.
      May 31
  • Google / Eng Bluths
    200K in the Bay Area is not gold digger worthy. Your TC is too insignificant to decide your dating life here.
    May 31 0
  • Qualcomm heymamu
    Join seeking arrangement website
    May 31 4
    • Facebook blueriver
      he said he’s not looking for gold diggers so instead you point him toward escorts? lmao
      May 31
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      He is looking for sex. Anything works
      May 31
    • Facebook blueriver
      he literally said in the OP that he wants to avoid gold diggers, not get sex with anything that works. seems like you’re projecting. obviously prostitutes are an option if you just want sex
      May 31
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      Sure got it
      May 31
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    • Indeed / Eng hindeed
      That sounds like a Blind date.
      May 31
  • Union Bank msright
    No no don’t even try. Base on my experience if a guy tried to give hint about his TC during dating, it’s a big turn-off. Your dignity is worth much more than your TC
    Jun 1 0
  • Microsoft captoad
    Show her your 1 bed apartment in the heart of SF. Then say, I’m thinking of changing apartments and list out nearby ones and how much they go for.
    May 31 0
  • Airbnb / Eng Jxjdukskjs
    Drive a hot car.
    Jun 3 0
  • New Amazoss
    Tattoo your TC, break down and YOE on your forehead.
    May 31 0
  • GoDaddy / Eng ksjdh19r64
    I'm so confused with your question, avoid gold diggers but you wanna show how much you make?! The best way to avoid gold diggers is to pretend that you're not a SWE 😂
    May 31 0
  • Salesforce dkxpp
    $30-40 a plate, $60 bottle of wine proves to me you're not cheap.

    More important is how you present yourself. Eg. Well kept hair, clean shaven (if no beard), how you smell, and most importantly what clothes you are wearing (well made and ironed). Nice watch and shoes. I notice what card you pay with and what wallet or jacket you have. If we go out for drinks later, have crisp bills ready to pay with.

    ---
    Of course you can do all this and not have a high TC too. That's what my now-boyfriend did and he makes less than half of what I make 😂 but I fell in love and don't care

    TC 220k
    Female
    Jun 1 1
  • Success isn’t measured with money only. If it was, she would be going for the dudes with 450k TC
    May 31 1
    • Facebook blueriver
      Nah that’s just a regular staff software engineer, my fiancé makes that much and I met him in college playing board games. That’s not gold digger territory. If I were gold digging in the Bay I would go for a Director and up. 1M+ or bust.
      Jun 1
  • Microsoft / Eng sunofa🍑
    I'd feel awkward if a guy I date would start "letting me know his TC".
    For me it's enough to know that he can support his own lifestyle, and I can say if that is the case without asking. Question if his lifestyle matches well with mine is a separate topic though. My demands I can cover myself.
    Jun 1 0
  • Amazon echo $?
    I didn’t share anything like that with a woman until we were talking about marriage. Since you’re single and asking in blind, the answer should probably be “never.”
    May 31 0
  • Uber sbzubu46
    TC YO!!
    May 31 0
  • Qualcomm enjoyliife
    Yes I think problem is beyond TC. We have to tell him something with which he can look richer among people who are already rich.
    May 31 0
  • F5 Networks bhai-log
    Hang the TC out in the open. Let her see it
    May 31 0
  • Cisco cbd
    I mean usually one of the first questions people ask is what you do for a living
    May 31 0
  • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
    You’d better post a pic of your little brother on tinder, it’s not like you are going to give them your money, but at least they can enjoy your little brother
    May 31 0
  • Seagate toti420
    Gold diggers ain’t digging you.
    May 31 0

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