Moving coasts for partner?
Is it advisable to move for a relationship? I am being asked to move to the east coast by my girlfriend (even though her move to the bay area would make waayyy more sense). She's in tech as well and apparently likes her company there A LOT and doesn't want to move. I understand that this is a very subjective question, but thoughts? (For context, this has been a short relationship, about 4 months). Pros of moving: Have a girlfriend close by! Finding another girlfriend in the bay area seems pretty hard :P Won't have to go through long distance relationship crap Cons of moving: Have 0 other friends in that area, as opposed to dozens of good friends here Not a fan of the cold Social life will be totally fucked in case of break up Not a lot of tech options there in case I want to change Thanks! (No trolls pleez and thanks) TC: 230K Her TC: 148K base + some options which might be worth nothing/a lot.
Is she the ONE?
Haha I don't think there's any such thing.
There is such a thing. You will know once you loose it. Sometimes when you have it. Since you clearly need more data points, I vote “No” to the move. Wait and re-assess the situation in a month. Btw, most functional relationships don’t survive the long distance thing.
Cuffing season buddy! Wait until next spring. https://greatist.com/connect/cuffing-season
4 months is way too short of a commitment. Although if you want to keep the relationship you guys are going to have to compromise anyways. I just came from Boston to the Bay Area and although I loved Boston, it really doesn't compare. The weather and salaries here are just absurdly better. Also there's not really a ton of lucrative tech companies in Boston unless you count the bio companies.
Live in Boston. Sucks to read all comments on this post. I love Boston although I agree that my perception may change if I move to Bay Area. Every guy I have talked to from Bay Area Keeps telling me ... ‘you love the city coz you have not lived in a better place’. Bay Area doesn’t seem as vibrant , too many Indians, seems to be all about tech , work life balance may not be as great because of ultra competitive culture... I guess the weather and compensation makes up for all of it. Sigh!
Do you want to be together for the rest of your life? If no then don't go.
Yeah but pretty hard to figure that out so soon in a relationship
I made that mistake with my wife and am paying even 5 years later. There are no good answers unfortunately
Who makes more?
Don't move if any of the following are true: 1. If she's not even considering moving for you. 2. The only reason you want to move is because you're scared of being alone. 3. You have family in Bay area that you're close to. Looks like you're still early in the relationship, maybe do long distance for a bit to figure out if this is the real deal.
Great advice, thanks
East coast -> West coast yes West coast -> East coast no
4 months is not long enough to uproot yourself.
Hell no