Moving from Bay Area to Seattle

Jan 8 39 Comments

Got a great offer in Seattle and thinking of moving out of the Bay Area, how’s the dating life in Seattle like ?

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  • Oracle redvsblue
    As a girl I keep on running into the same type of entitled amaholes who loves his job, happy hour, and the gym way too much. It’s like they are all the same person. Wondering if I should move to Bay Area.

    Edit: It’s not bad that he likes these things but just got the impression he won’t make time for me and would rather go drink with his fellow tech bros instead and work out or stay at his job late and code monkey until he hits L6. I’ve gotten cancelled upon and also had to wait weeks to plan a date because they were too busy. And then they show up late like it’s nothing. I’m busy too but I make time. Do these guys do the same to recruiters if they call them? Why date if you can’t make time for a relationship?

    Specifically I’m talking about dudes who work at Amazon. What is up with people who work at this company?
    Jan 8 13
    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

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      There is no hate here, only honest truth, perhaps a little exaggerated to make a point. What you said does not contradict what I said. Do you think he’d be able to shift things around to free up time if you were a millionaire supermodel? Or the only girl who’s willing to meet him in last few months? Clearly you find him attractive enough to change your plans, but he doesn’t find you attractive enough to change his. 🤷‍♂️

      Also, why are you speaking about yourself in plural? Are you personally representing multiple women? It’s creeping me out.
      Jan 9
    • Salesforce
      lozere

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      The few on this thread. May not be an accurate representation of their thoughts but tried to explain the other stance of the few who were grumbling about the same thing.

      No, I don't think that men who that are wrong. It's their life. But it doesn't free at least me from expressing my annoyance on an anonymous forum. 😄

      Personally, I make time for people whom I've committed to meet even if I'm not interested.
      Jan 9
    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

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      If you’re not interested, why are you committing to meet in the first place? That makes no sense.
      Jan 9
    • Salesforce
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      I like to give someone a chance who is pursuant. Life is all about giving someone a chance. That's why. What if they surprise you?
      Jan 9
    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

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      Sounds very mature of you. I’m more of a judge by the cover type.
      Jan 9
  • Microsoft Bourbon123
    Please don’t move, dating sucks in Seattle
    Jan 8 4
    • RackWare Dreamlight
      Can't be as bad as the bay area.
      Jan 8
    • Microsoft Bourbon123
      Haven’t lived in the Bay Area.
      Trust me it’s either equally bad or even worse
      Jan 8
    • Expedia / Eng
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      I’m female and yes it’s a horrible dating life here in Seattle. Too many bros.
      Jan 8
    • Palo Alto Networks LWtE67
      The bay area is over 65% male in most every city except SF, meaning the 35% female population is almost entirely married/children/not into men. Nothing wrong with it, except not much of a dating life.
      Jan 8
  • New / HR
    andrewsauc

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    Lived in both, born and raised in the Bay Area, moved to Seattle for Amazon. Def better in Seattle. By numbers alone you’ll have a much better ratio. There’s a reason they call it Man Jose!

    I looked this up a few years back so the numbers may have changed. However, in 2015 there were 20k more dudes in SJ than there were gals. Meaning, if there was one single girl, there’d be 20,001 single dudes.
    Jan 8 5
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      You aren't good at Maths, are you?
      Jan 8
    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

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      Oh god just how dumb are you?
      Jan 8
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      Correct me if I’m wrong. I don’t mind being corrected. Here’s my example: if total population is 100k then sj has 40k women and 60k men. Thus, if there were 1 single woman, and we assume that the rest were coupled with men in San Jose, that means there’d be a remainder of 20,001 single men. That’s all I’m saying, I’m sorry if my math offends you. (Also, if you decide to nitpick, yes I know that there are other variables to consider, like homosexuality, relative demographics, etc, however at the end of the day, there will still be a surplus of single men in San Jose.)
      Jan 8
    • Microsoft / Eng
      MP3

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      The problem is that your argument of 1 woman for 20,000 men is idiotic because there is obviously more than 1 single woman in SJ. Isn’t it possible for a woman to have multiple boyfriends, too? You’re also assuming SJ men are unable to leave the city and find a woman in SF, Oakland, for example.

      To get your point across you should have stated total adult population of SJ, as well as male to female ratio. Or just the latter.
      Jan 8
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Here's the problem with your approach:
      If you are scaling down 40k women to 1 woman, then scale down 60k men to 1.5 men. Which means for every one woman, there are 1.5 men. Similarly, scale down 20k single men to 0.5 single men.

      So here's the maths:
      Total population: 100k
      Men: 60k, women: 40k
      Single population: assume 50% (or whatever you want to assume)
      Single men: 30k, single women: 20k
      Single women to men ratio = 2:3

      Hence for every single women, there are 3/2 (or 1.5) single men.
      Jan 8
  • Walmart.com c00l$h!t
    More white chicks same Indian chicks less Chinese chicks?
    Jan 8 1
  • Apple Snut Ella
    As a married guy can I just say that any advice you get on Blind WRT dating is almost guaranteed to be wrong.

    Get a life. Find your interests. Become interesting and you’ll find many intriguing and beautiful women. Even in the Bay.
    Jan 8 0
  • Uber ayiayi
    Bae Area is a misnomer.
    Jan 8 0
  • Netflix YSih44
    Dude I can’t possible imagine a dating life worse than the bay.
    Jan 8 0
  • Quantcast tt8675309
    Definitely fewer Chinese women here. That said it can be tougher to crack cliques here as many people have longer standing social ties to the area than SF. Also there's probably more people here who don't work in tech which is both a plus and a minus depending on your point of view.
    Jan 8 0
  • OP
    Is Seattle freeze a real thing ?
    Jan 8 4
    • Facebook pndubs
      I haven’t found that to be the case so far in terms of making friends. There are so many people moving to the area for work who are also looking to build social groups, so as long as you put in some effort to meet people and make plans stuff usually happens.

      Am in a relationship so can’t speak to whether that’s true of the dating scene.
      Jan 8
    • Amazon nude
      are you also a new grad??
      Jan 9
    • Facebook pndubs
      @nude Nope. Just relocated from another city.
      Jan 9
    • Oracle 🔴vs🔷
      It is real. Ive made friends but it’s all segregated. No community.
      Jan 9
  • New / HR
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    @MP3 I see your point. However, with the data shown this is all we can apply. It’s not the whole argument, just part of it. Because duh, as I stated there are obviously other variables to consider (relative demographics.), however your rebuttal only further emphasizes my point. If there were more single woman, naturally there are more single dudes. If women were dating multiple guys, then again, there will naturally be more single dudes. Finally no, I’m not assuming that single men can’t leave sj, I literally said I moved from sj to Seattle myself. I was simply giving OP an answer that would closely pertain and stay within the parameters of his question. Even IF guys leave sj, who’s to say that guys aren’t also leaving Seattle? I suppose I should have touched on the variables in my original response however, i assumed they would have been implied. In addition, without the data why even mention it? Do you know how many single men are leaving SJ? How about Seattle? I’m always eager to learn, although and I do understand that this is blind, but you really didn’t have to put someone down because you assumed my extreme example was the entire argument.
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    andrewsauc

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    @axtria we literally have the same math, you just decided to present the results differently. My point was if best case scenario (in a traditional sense) meaning if there were the least amount of single men, than there would still be a surplus of single men in the tens of thousands. So, in your example data set, if there are 20k single women dated 20k of the 30k guys there would be 10k remaining single guys. Now, if one of couple were to break up, that means there one single girl, and now 10,001 single dudes. Finally again, since I made the mistake of not mentioning variables the first time, yes I understand there are other social factors that can skew the results.
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    andrewsauc

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    Yes, it sucks, but you’ll form real friendships nonetheless. Furthermore, you may find that the Seattle freeze is actually quite convenient once everyone is on the same page.
    Jan 8 0