My GF has been sexually harassed at her company what I can do to help her.

Cisco lotr
Sep 15 26 Comments

My GF is in marketing dept. Its a medical health care company. I don't know what advice to give her, any suggestions on how to deal with this?

At dinner one of the companies client was misbehaving with her and her boss didn't help her out in anyway. This feels like a huge red herring for me about the culture of the company. If they are ok with such things.

I need advice on what are the next steps

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TOP 26 Comments
  • Microsoft ▶️
    Beat the shit out of that guy.
    Go with mask, take your friends and beat him black and blue.
    Sep 15 3
    • Apple Shouldyou?
      Just don’t pick up soap at the prison after following the above advice.
      Sep 15
    • Microsoft ▶️
      What's wrong with shampoo
      Sep 15
    • Amazon newAz
      Just don’t pick up anything on the floor
      Sep 15
  • Apple Shouldyou?
    Bruh. Worst comes to worst. Ready to lawyer up and spend upto 50K?
    Sep 15 1
    • Airbnb HakeHaIe
      Terrible terrible advice. This isn’t at the lawyer point yet. If it is, lawyers take cases on contingency all the time (33% of winnings).
      Sep 15
  • Kaiser Permanente / Strategy ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶
    Talk to HR and document, document, document. If HR isn’t acting on it, call local EEOC office and give them the evidence. They will offer free consultation and help her get compensation.
    Sep 15 2
    • Kaiser Permanente / Strategy ٩(̾●̮̮̃̾•̃̾)۶
      Based on Cali law, employers need to protect employees from clients and customers harassment, too.
      Sep 15
    • Cisco lotr
      OP
      Can you point me to the law which says that ?
      Sep 16
  • Amazon / Eng
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    My suggestion to her would be to send an email to her boss and CC the HR department to document the incident. Use the SBI feedback model, don't hold the boss accountable and don't ask for anything beyond reporting the incident. This will make sure future incidents are appropriately handled.
    Sep 15 0
  • Smartsheet luxury
    Here are few ideas:
    Ask her to
    - write down her story. From start to end of the day
    - define sexual harassment. Did the person (scum) verbally harassed her or physically
    - bring the entire case to a lawyer. Ask for advice
    - list everyone who attended the dinner
    - have a 1:1 with everyone who attended the dinner. “What was their observation around the situation?” 1) she may need evidence. 2) Are they willing to go to HR on her behalf?
    - meet with HR and ask for advice
    - document every single communication!
    - communicate to her boss, on why s/he ignore tolerated (pimped) her out? Both In written and in person communication
    Sep 15 0
  • Cisco Persistant
    Complaining will only hurt her career than help her. She should find better job and leave the company as soon as possible. Company's HR wont help with harassment. If anything, she will be viewed as trouble maker. That is the harsh reality. She can inform HR on her way out but not before that.

    This is on top of my mind these days. Within few months of joining, imagine the person realizes the top exec in the new company is a creep. Can't even imagine how vulnerable it makes the new employee. Leaving a company within months or searching for a job without a job are so difficult and challenging. Recruiters will treat the person almost as if they are not employable. The person cant even be honest about why they left the job in first place. All the doors to opportunities get closed one by one. That is why the companies should do everything possible to create a professional , safe and secure environment to employees. Abusers should be the ones with no future opportunities but the history has shown it is the victim that has no future opportunities.
    Sep 15 0
  • Amazon / Mgmt ready2ret
    Is it red flag or red herring ? Two different things
    Sep 15 0
  • Airbnb HakeHaIe
    OP, we need more info. Define “misbehaving.” What did your GF do during this misbehavior? What did her boss do?

    If client just told a dirty joke, she probably doesn’t have a case. There’s a saying that “everyone gets one free joke.” If client said “sleep with me and you’ll get more business” and boss did nothing, she has a case. In between, there’s a whole lotta gray. Need more info.
    Sep 15 2
    • Cisco lotr
      OP
      There was physical contact.
      Sep 16
    • Airbnb HakeHaIe
      Still need more detail. Did he touch her shoulder or slap her ass? The latter is clear. The former is not. Did boss see the behavior? What does your GF want out of this?
      Sep 16
  • Amazon amznthanos
    I'd be supportive but complaining at work will not help her career or her work relationships. She needs to stop harassment right on the spot.
    Sep 15 0
  • New wmpJ17
    Dude, i work in the code of business conduct in multinational corporation, and see all these misleading comments that doesn’t help.

    In each of the big companies there is a Whistle blowing hot line, she should find that number and call them, she will be protected by law against retaliation.

    If she could not find that number she should go the head of internal audit and i assure you he/ she will fuck every should have taken action and did not
    Sep 23 1
    • Airbnb HakeHaIe
      You’re so cute and naive. You don’t work in tech, I’m guessing. “Protected.” 😂😂😂

      When you get a minute, google all the stories about all the whistleblowers at google and other high tech companies (even squeaky clean Airbnb) being retaliated against. If you report sexual harassment, you’re fucked.

      We also still don’t know what actually happened. OP never elaborated. We know there was physical contact but we don’t know how bad it was. HR is there to protect the company, not the employee.
      Sep 23
  • QuoteWizard / Data
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    Besides all the advice above, try to be supportive and don’t push her beyond what she’s comfortable with. It’s easy to feel frustrated when victims don’t act immediately but it’s about her comfort level right now. Be a great bf as much as you can, have patience
    Sep 15 0
  • General Motors / IT whofarted
    Professionally, stay out of it. You will only make things worth. Relationship wise, be supportive but not pushy. Consider seeing a counselor together - it may not feel like a big deal to you but seeking a professional could help her stay on track as things pan out and also help you understand what to do.
    Sep 15 0
  • Microsoft ▶️
    Seriously, let her have it escalated to HR. Include your manager and skip manager in email.
    Sep 15 0
  • Hulu TgKgh2897
    Can you be a little bit more specific without revealing too much?

    Any type of sexual harassment or reference is never good. If that's what the top guy at the company stands for, then she should leave even if the TC is great. It's about self respect
    Sep 15 0
  • New sizuu
    Misbehavior or sexual harassment?

    These are not the same thing. One is a crime and should be reported to the police and the other isn’t and should be reported to HR.
    Sep 15 1
    • Airbnb HakeHaIe
      Sexual harassment is not a crime. It is a civil violation of law. The police would not do anything if you reported sexual harassment. They’d say to contact an attorney.

      Lot of people in this thread that don’t have a clue what they’re talking about.
      Sep 15
  • Amazon OdpS15
    Quit and leave a review on yelp, Glassdoor and google anonymously.
    Sep 16 0

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