One of the reasons I was attracted to her was because of her beautiful butt but I never suspected that it was manufactured. I’m not sure how to feel about it. I was pretty serious about her but now I’m having second thoughts. Mainly, I’m worried that her priorities are a bit skewed if she values looks to that extent. The irony isn’t lost on me that I’m claiming she shouldn’t have highly valued the very thing that attracted me to her... but it just isn’t sitting well with me. I haven’t told her yet cause I’m not sure what the “second order and third order consequences” are here. I hope there are women on here who can chime in. I’m just thinking out loud and would appreciate more voices to think along with my own. We are both in our early 30s and have already talked about marriage. Dating for just inside of half a year.
Fake appearances are a precursor to emotionally unstable
Lmao, so every model and celebrity and rich person who gets plastic surgery is emotionally stable. The middle class myth 😂
Yes. You are aware of superficial Hollywood right?
What are you looking for on the blind?
Just perspective I guess
Depends on how you feel about it. How do you feel about it?
I thought I made it clear but I guess not. I don’t like it. But t bothers me that I don’t like it. I should judge people on their decisions about their body and especially when it happens before we are connected.
Why does it bother you? Why do you think it shouldn’t bother you? Are you able to answer these? E.g. why is it bad to judge someone on something they did before they meet you? Why would you make that judgement at all? Specifically what values do your feelings relate to?
“I have a hot gf but I think she might be hot just because she has too much money for unnecessary surgery” This is the definition of a humblebrag.
Lol you misread that completely. There was nothing hidden and there’s no need to read between the lines. The lines are flush.
Do you love her? Do you enjoy being around her? Are you emotionally compatible? So she got butt implants... if you answer yes to the above... who cares!
Also... have you actually took the time to speak with her about your thoughts vs an open public forum where you will get riddled by millions of differing opinions?
No not yet because I wanted to process it first.
A real butt wouldn’t last forever either
"plastic surgery allows you to make your outer appearance resemble your inner appearance - fake" - daniel tosh
Might just be stretch marks
Guy/ prefer natural body. But you started off with you are attracted to her beautiful butt. While that’s your preference and I respect that, you also put a lot of emphasis on physical appearance. Not that I wouldn’t want pretty woman, but would you be disappointed if one day something happens to her natural butt?
Yes I think I would be disappointed. This is a pretty good example of that actually happening isn’t it? The butt is “ruined” for me now because it’s not what I thought it was. I realize this makes a very shallow person and I hope to grow past this but I’m also aware of this and it’s impacts. I don’t want to shove it under the rug and act like it’s not having an effect.
No, it doesn’t make you a shallow person. I prefer (actually I would not) dating someone without any implants. There is no right and wrong here. If you just can’t get over this, perhaps time to choose the nuclear option. But you do have to be honest with your gf.