My husband will probably read this
Blind is like "the other woman" in our relationship. Anyway, he hates his job. I'm pretty over mine. We bought a house in San Jose. He is on the "financial Independence retire early" bandwagon. I'm not trying to bust my ass and live poor for the rest of my life. (I grew up poor.) But we do need a budget and to plan together. Any references other than r/personalfinance that I should look at to facilitate our conversation? Thanks.
"I'm not trying to bust my ass and live poor for the rest of my life." -God that resonates with me. Enjoy a long and meaningful career, travel, have a full life.
Being forced to live frugally is not true independence
r/fatfire it doesn’t need to be an either-or Btw do you guys have a prenup? This could be gf and I, 5 years from now. Love her, but not on the same page when it comes to finances
Marry me
Goto Bogleheads for advice.
Hope y'all had a prenup in place. It looks like things are starting to go south...
Not sure why everyone's always trying to break up marriages on blind! Of course the first thing is to ignore marital advice from strangers who don't know the complete story. Next, check with your husband if he's okay with you working and him retired. If yes, then you are both gonna be living happily ever after.
The problem with this is half of her money goes to supporting him sitting around being retired and might cause some resentment
Why? Do men feel resentment if their wife decides to be housewife? I'm sure if she takes financial responsibility, the guy must take household. Also FIRE doesn't necessarily mean leaving frugally. It means you will retire from the job that you hate and do whatever makes you happy without worrying about finances. If it earns you more money great!! You guys should probably talk what your ideas are post FIRE and try to get on same page. Decide what kind of budget you'd need for that. Set your targets to FIRE accordingly.
FIRE does not mean ‘poor/broke’ for people in tech. You should calculate your current annual expenses and what you would want to have in early retirement. Then multiply that number by 25-30x mattering how ‘safe’ you want to play it. I am on the FIRE path and live more baller then most of the people I know just due to high TC...
Are you the husband?
Ha, no way this chick sounds loco...
Fire people can actually live really well. In the end is it about free time and life or material possessions? Maybe do a Marie kondo of your house before u decide.
I think it's more about life experiences than material possessions. FIRE ppl are way less likely to take that expensive trip to climb Kilamanjaro in their 20s, go out with friends to some expensive wine tasting/resturaunt, or spend money on some musical instrument & lessons that would lead to a fulfilling and productive hobby, or live in the luxury apartment downtown that leads to some crazy connections, ect... You can refrain from all costly exploration in an effort to retire early, but you might find that you've missed out on a fuller journey for a subpar destination.
Do you have kids Zorkan? In my experience with both parents working they get to do none of those things, and also spend little time with their kids.
Leave. Better now than later. You’ll survive, especially with the google job. Seems like the alternative is living poor for the rest of your life and fuck that, that’s definitely a deal breaker