My wife is in a better career trajectory - is this the time for me to step back and help with family?
Been with Amazon for 5+ years as L6 SDM. Looks like my career is kind of peaked for now- had lot of management changes. TC is at 450K+ for next 2 years. I don’t have a strong “sponsor” to push my L7 promotion due to politics and stuff. I manage a 20+ engineering team @ Amazon for last few years. I am mid 30s and my spouse just touched 30.
My wife is in a competitor of Amazon and is actually doing quite well, her career trajectory took off well in the last 3 years and she is at a L7 equivalent level managing a 40+ eng team and 500k+ TC.
We have 3 kids and its been a challenge with both of us having very busy lives - our lives revolve around nannies, helpers, cleaners, parents to help us once a while - it is crazy. One of us need to take a little “step back” and I think I should be the one doing that considering her career trajectory. She does lion's share of work at home as I was busy focusing on work and I realize that it isnt correct and fair and have started contributing.
I have an offer from another firm for a TC 510K (I am going to keep the firm anonymous) but it has relatively good work life balance. I will be managing a smaller team of 5-6 TPMs & PMs and can balance work and life. It will be a step down in terms of profile but step up in terms of compensation and life.
Any thoughts from folks where husband and wife work and have 2+ kids.