I am single female in late 20s. I have two great job offers in Bay Area and NYC. I am more excited about the company in NYC, but worried about location. I used to live there temporarily, I think the city is interesting, but despite being quite attractive I found it much harder in there to find quality dates interested in serious relationship. People are saying that NYC is terrible for relationships (especially for women) and that Bay Area is totally opposite. Let's say finding a SO and maybe start a family in the future is as important to me as my career. With such priorities would you advice me to still try NYC job which I am more excited about (but I am afraid that I might regret this decision later) or take Bay Area, which also offers a very good opportunity? Maybe I am exaggerating and NYC isn't so bad, I was just temporarily in there...
It's all supply and demand. Supply is less in bay area. So you will be in high demand. You can be picky while choosing
Except the supply is weird. Guys will make sure to include their salary in the first sentence they speak to you. That’s all that is going for them
That’s all that’s going for anyone. After college, girls don’t care about appearance or personality. It’s all about 💰 💴 💵 for them. All girls are gold diggers
Where do you currently live OP? I am not sure about the hype about bay area being good for dating for women. Personally it's not true for me. If you are living in Bay area are you happy with your dating life?
Currently I don't live in US, but Europe, so I will have to move for both opportunities. I tried dating only in NYC and felt it was much tougher than my home country but was there for only 3 months on internship and used only tinder so that might have been a reason.
Looks like you are really excited about your NY job. If you take that job is there a possibility to move after a year say with internal transfer if you don't like NYC?
Couple other things to consider are whether you plan on continuing to work after having a family. With NY you can live in NJ and have a very nice house, and in bay area you end up in an apartment or tiny house unless your SO is balling.
I am definitely planning to still work so it not an issue.
I like the culture in NYC
What do you like about it? Are you female or male?
BayArea is all about working in Tech and $$, people don’t have time for hobbies or just sit and talk, kids are groomed in a similar way with a high % going to private schools. NY i felt is more ralaxed and people enjoy life. Male, lived in both places. Would love to move back but my SO hates snow
Both are good, depends on what you are interested in - after you more of a happy hour/clubbing type of person or more of an outdoor type of person? Lived in NYC for a few years and it's more of a happy hour night life kind of place. SF is more about the outdoors from hikes to surfing to skiing.
I think OP wants to know more from dating perspective and finding an SO. If you are a girl who has lived in both NYC and Bay area what has been your experience and which one do you prefer?
When I was in NYC I wasnt dating so can't do a comparison, the being said there were plenty of guys at work that could have been good options. They weren't from NYC though they were traveling in from CA. So I would say go with SF. Again it's a lifestyle choice as well - I prefer guys who are interested in doing different activities
Come to Bay Area. You will find plenty of geeks to choose from. But I might be biased, being a guy.
Late 20s? Your sexual marketplace value is at its peak or already dropping. NYC, like you said, is a highly competitive dating market. In the great words of famed Stanford economist Thomas Sowell: "There are no solutions. There are only trade offs." Do you want to work for a company you love or is marriage and motherhood a life goal (a must have) for you? Your reproductive viability dwindle with each passing year. If you feel this is your only chance at working this said company, go for it. But keep in mind your SMV drops everyday and your biological clock will continue to tick. Once thats gone, its gone FOREVER. Also, as you age, your chances of your baby having complications increases too (this is a fact). Of course maybe you can find a SO in NYC but the facts don't lie: comeptition is indeed fierce for women there and you are competing against younger women. If you were in your early 20s or if you didnt care about kids/marriage I'd immediately tell you to go to NYC. But we're not getting any younger.
Thanks for the honest insight. Yes, I really want long term relationship and marriage and kids in the future. And I probably wouldn't be satisfied with my life without it. So you are saying there are much better opportunities for this goal in Bay Area?
Wow . OP this guy doesn’t know what he’s talking about . He sounds like a virgin misogynistic red piller
If you are a "geek_girl" as your handle says then you are much better off dating-wise in the Bay Area.
Bay Area please, help out the supply issue
If you like tech guys, the bay area is great. A lot of people think tech guys aren't "alpha" or "masculine" enough or whatever. What kind of guy do you like? If you like finance guys then maybe NYC is better
I usually dated engineers because just was surrounded by them. I think I really like smart guys who are into Science and like sport and travelling. That what I definitely look for, I guess finance guy can be also fine for me.
well, you seem bright! should not make a decision based on 'guys'. weigh ur offers and your life. having lived at both places, i would say NYC coz its more lively. unless ur job is in SF city, bay area is a bit boring. nothing beats it weather wise though :)