0% success rate in dating. No matches on tinder. I go to a bar and the girl will walk away. I say hello to a girl and she will pretend she never saw me or look behind her and then walk away. Mom does not talk to me anymore. My only contact with a female in the past 3 years is my female manager who treats me like sh1t everyday and phub if that counts.
- @2muchblind. I gave those as examples as to how I an improving myself since appearance matters most in first impressions. I did not say that was all I did or cared about
Not sure why u guys r saying my thoughts are 2 or 4/10 whatever that means. I am just being honest and saying it like it is and not beating around the bush
- Dating websites that specializes in Asian woman. As for middleman, best ones are girls who came from those countries and married someone abroad (Personal references). They are more than willing to set you up with a friend or family from their own country. Professional middle man also exist, more 80% are scam (just like recruiter and contractor agencies).
- OP: let's be serious for a second here. You are Asian with 400k TC and you been working out like crazy. Girls, especially asians in the Bay area should be lining up outside of your door like the Sunnyvale Costco gas line on a sat afternoon when 5 of the pumps are broken.
If you are not getting dates with those qualifications, it means that 1) the girl you are looking for are out of your league (yoe 1 asking for yoe 10 TC) or 2) you have so much other issues that simply offsets all those positives (great LC skills but will shit on people's desks for fun) or 3) your competition in the dating market are so much better than you in every aspect and you cannot compete. (You are not a tall white guy with mad TC)
The local marketplace has clearly signaled that you do not have what it takes to be successful. This can be resolved if you lower your standards if you insist on seeking a girl locally.
If you insist on keeping your standards, you need to source girls from outside of bay area where girl's expectation is lower and where you are much more competitive in their local market.
- Escorts. Start with them and build your confidence. Work your way to plastic surgery or becoming fit, getting a good hair cut, upgrading your wardrobe and joining a theater group or toast masters. You need a radical change to let your inner you out.
- Haven’t you heard of condoms? This is murica. Everyone has HPV. He isn’t getting any female attention. He needs a confidence booster. ‘Working on yourself’ is a load of horse feces. Takes too long and it’s never clear what aspect of your personality do you need to work uponMay 30 6
- I have respect for escorts and whether I have person experience isn’t material to this conversation. Considering the situation that op finds, I still believe it is a viable option. If op was able to find real dates with real people and you suggest, he wouldn’t be asking for help on Blind. You may want to ask why you are so against escorts. Is it a moral code or something deeper?
- Google fYnp45If you are 1000 lb club, lean, dress decently and shower 1-2 times a day you should be fine. Which of these are you missing?
- You mean cut out reality? “No asians” and “Over 6’” are basically two of the most commonly posted criteria and filters on dating apps. Okcupid had the data posted (before they pulled it off their blogs years later when it became un-pc) that showed top 15% of males get something like 85% of the interest whereas the rest got next to nothing. Sorry if you’re not a Chad and don’t know what it’s like to have girls text message you just to hook up.May 31 6
- Google ahxthere are online services which will rate your pictures on different things (confidence, attractiveness, etc). give those a try to get an honest feedback.
- Look in the mirror. No, seriously. Girls only respond to guys who are attractive... You only try to talk to girls who are attractive. Two way street. Work on yourself in and out.
- I guess the only objective way is to get rated on those sites. No it's not narcissistic if it's true. But the girls aren't being reciprocative which means you're overrating yourself. According to studies, men overrate themselves on a 10 point scale by two points on average.
- bars aren’t good places to meet girls. take some art classes, volunteer in animal shelters, go travel. read more literary and philosophy books help too
- Autolist eFks14Use your gym benefits, stop snacking, and drink only water. Get that fat percentage under 10%, get a $50 hair cut, and get stylish clothes. I been there, trust me and you will get there if you put enough dedication. It's for sure easier than you getting that sweet job at LinkedIn👍
- Ha Ha what a loser! When I was in bay area hot girls were emailing and calling me everyday.
They were ALL tech recruiters. Like 100% of women, who initiated a conversation with me, ever. But still.. female contact! /s
Get out of there man! Fucking dysfunctional place. If you move elsewhere and still have zero luck, that’s on you. But don’t let 6’3 white dudes tell you that your personality is the missing piece of puzzle.
- @amazon I’m done “sowing my wild oats”, I’m in a LTR now with an amazing woman. I couldn’t date anyone worthy of LTR in bay. So instead I banged a lot of girls, of every possible permutation combination. Just to fulfill my basic physical needs, my emotional needs were unmet still. I understand that other asian males can’t even get that, and I empathize with them. Its a cruel life.
A geography that’s easier for hooking up is also easier for LTR. Its just a numbers/gender ratio game. In NYC you get a ton of dates, but you have to assure women that you won’t hit and quit. They can see it right thru, it has happened to them a lot.
- Lifting just for picking up girls is bullshit. When you go broke girl will run away irrespective of however hot the guy is physically
- Google 1234-/:;(Do you have citizenship? Wave passport at a boba shop. Someone will talk to you.
- OP, it’s a lot like job hunting. You have a brand. Build the brand and girls will follow. I’ll tell you a secret: no gal would stay long term with a guy who’s a 8-10
For very long because they are typically jerks, are in it mostly for the sex, have lots of baggage, or would move on to a younger model quickly. Think about what it would be like to date a model - gorgeous, but high maintenance, full of herself, etc. Same thing goes for guys. Make sure you’re not acting like this. Anyone super attractive who doesn’t have these traits would be in a committed relationship long ago.
When I was dating years ago, I made sure that my personality, kindness, sincerity, and intelligence could help make up for my being average looking and a bit unfit (white, 6’3, 180 lbs, small beer belly). I didn’t have girls lining up to date me, but those who did would be willing to stick around because I sincerely looked for a LTR. It didn’t take me long to find a gal who was attractive, liked me for me, and wanted to settle down. That was 18 years ago when I met her, and we are happily married now with two kids and one more on the way.
- Dont worry about it. Someone rightly said here, marry a girl from poor country and love happily
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- Are you white? american? If so, then you shouldn't have any issue even in SV. Also height?
If azn or indian/brown, then it's tough.
- Are you asian or indian? Height? If not white then it may be hard time in bay area.