No girls in Bay Area

LinkedIn saggy
May 30 147 Comments

0% success rate in dating. No matches on tinder. I go to a bar and the girl will walk away. I say hello to a girl and she will pretend she never saw me or look behind her and then walk away. Mom does not talk to me anymore. My only contact with a female in the past 3 years is my female manager who treats me like sh1t everyday and phub if that counts.

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  • Work on improving yourself?
    May 30 28
    • Google / Eng svb
      His thoughts are a 4 at best but hey, who am I to judge 🤗
      May 31
    • Cloudera QSpd72
      And his attitude is 2 at best. Unless he works on these, the scene ain’t changing for him for a long time.
      May 31
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      @2muchblind. I gave those as examples as to how I an improving myself since appearance matters most in first impressions. I did not say that was all I did or cared about

      Not sure why u guys r saying my thoughts are 2 or 4/10 whatever that means. I am just being honest and saying it like it is and not beating around the bush
      May 31
    • Facebook tTFN31
      Get plastic surgery? Just being swole isn’t really that attractive and might make you seem shallow or boring
      May 31
    • Comcast G0ku
      OP can’t change his ethnicity, or make himself taller. Improving yourself to meet women is a death march in bay area.
      Jun 1
    • Amazon qwertyup
      Is ethnicity and height all that counts in the bay? How about improving yourself for your self. The no women contact in 3 years may just be a sign that OP has some room for improvement somewhere.
      Jun 1
    • Comcast G0ku
      @amazon ^ yes. Try being asian male under 5’10. Got matches and dated around in Bay but wasn’t excited about the quality of mates. Left bay area. Didn’t have to change a goddamn thing about myself. Match rate 10x. Met a much hotter girlfriend, dating her long term
      Jun 1
    • Amazon qwertyup
      that is fine, but OPs case is no female contact and his own mom wont talk to him. Sounds different from your situation with getting matches.
      Jun 1
    • Cadence qwer09
      Funny how women in this thread suggest they don't care about ethnicity/height/looks when at the end of the day, almost always pick physically/financially most appealing guy who can provide for them.
      Jun 2
    • Google Mr. Glass
      ^ it’s called cognitive dissonance and the fake indoctrination of the radical left.
      Jun 2
  • Glu Mobile PQSK63
    Import girl from Asia.
    May 30 13
    • Legit plan though. A lot of Asian girls actually love to move to the US.
      May 30
    • Google Naxnax
      Saved. Will follow exact steps. How do I find the middleman
      May 30
    • Dating website?
      May 31
    • Glu Mobile PQSK63
      Dating websites that specializes in Asian woman. As for middleman, best ones are girls who came from those countries and married someone abroad (Personal references). They are more than willing to set you up with a friend or family from their own country. Professional middle man also exist, more 80% are scam (just like recruiter and contractor agencies).
      May 31
    • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
      Way too expensive to import an Asian girl, I would rather get some hookers instead
      May 31
    • Drift UOSN85
      Why import a girl from Asia? The Bay Area is loaded with hot little Asian chicks (minus Desis, though there is one hot ABC Indian chick I’ve plowed) that throw themselves at you if you’re white.
      May 31
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      I am not looking for just sex or any woman. I want to be with someone with good humor, personality and looks. I do not like foreign accents either as I am American born and communication at work is always with people with bad English accents that I can hardly understand.
      May 31
    • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
      You can import a high cast Indian girl, who will have little accent
      May 31
    • Glu Mobile PQSK63
      OP: let's be serious for a second here. You are Asian with 400k TC and you been working out like crazy. Girls, especially asians in the Bay area should be lining up outside of your door like the Sunnyvale Costco gas line on a sat afternoon when 5 of the pumps are broken.

      If you are not getting dates with those qualifications, it means that 1) the girl you are looking for are out of your league (yoe 1 asking for yoe 10 TC) or 2) you have so much other issues that simply offsets all those positives (great LC skills but will shit on people's desks for fun) or 3) your competition in the dating market are so much better than you in every aspect and you cannot compete. (You are not a tall white guy with mad TC)

      The local marketplace has clearly signaled that you do not have what it takes to be successful. This can be resolved if you lower your standards if you insist on seeking a girl locally.

      If you insist on keeping your standards, you need to source girls from outside of bay area where girl's expectation is lower and where you are much more competitive in their local market.
      May 31
    • Cadence qwer09
      @glumobile are you a girl or a dude in sf bay?

      Seriously your costco analogy is so mistaken it shows a real disconnect. Even a normal white dude can probably somewhat understand issue asians face. Your post may be well meaning but mistaken.
      Jun 3
  • Intuit Indiv. #1
    Try dating guys
    May 30 0
  • Google Gentrified
    Escorts. Start with them and build your confidence. Work your way to plastic surgery or becoming fit, getting a good hair cut, upgrading your wardrobe and joining a theater group or toast masters. You need a radical change to let your inner you out.
    May 30 11
    • Google Gentrified
      Haven’t you heard of condoms? This is murica. Everyone has HPV. He isn’t getting any female attention. He needs a confidence booster. ‘Working on yourself’ is a load of horse feces. Takes too long and it’s never clear what aspect of your personality do you need to work upon
      May 30
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      I am not a virgin. Confidence is not the problem I am not looking for a quick lay I want a real relationship
      May 31
    • Google Gentrified
      Yes but 0% success in dating is a lot of rejection - 100%. Escorts can sometimes give you good feedback. You don’t need to have sex or indulge in any activity. You are asking for advice and how you can improve your game. I’ve seen it in movies.
      It’s legit.
      May 31
    • Workday ght35df
      This . Always mock interviews before real ones
      May 31
    • Microsoft hxue8e88
      This. 👆
      Jun 1
    • Google Gentrified
      This ⬆️
      Jun 1
    • Cadence qwer09
      Escorts have vested interest, you wouldnt get true feedback.

      Real-life normal girls honest with feedback are the best bet, who can rate w brutal honesty and tell any issue. Hard to find who can do that.
      Jun 3
    • Google Gentrified
      Only if you paint all escorts with the same brush, then all Johns including Op is like you
      Jun 3
    • Cadence qwer09
      what!? Gentrified whats wrong with you trolling when someone only made a point or consideration. You seem to have a lot of experience w escorts so that says a lot already. may be some of them can, but op is better sticking with normal real ppl.
      Jun 3
    • Google Gentrified
      I have respect for escorts and whether I have person experience isn’t material to this conversation. Considering the situation that op finds, I still believe it is a viable option. If op was able to find real dates with real people and you suggest, he wouldn’t be asking for help on Blind. You may want to ask why you are so against escorts. Is it a moral code or something deeper?
      Jun 3
  • Google fYnp45
    If you are 1000 lb club, lean, dress decently and shower 1-2 times a day you should be fine. Which of these are you missing?
    May 30 10
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      I am Asian not white. I am not tall. I am maybe 7 or 8 / 10
      May 31
    • Google Naxnax
      If you're asian, then its very unlikely that you're an 8 out of 10
      May 31
    • Facebook tTFN31
      LOL
      May 31
    • Google QWERTY8643
      Asian 5 foot 8 checking in. Post your lifts. I will start. Bench: 365. Squat: 455. Clean: 245. Body weight: 204.
      May 31
    • Drift UOSN85
      If you’re short and not white, you’re a 3 at best.
      May 31
    • Google Naxnax
      Are you Asian asian, or asian indian? Actually it doesn't matter
      May 31
    • Drift UOSN85
      Lol @ naxnax, but he’s right. I bang a ton of Asian chicks and nailed a hot little light skinned desi (daughter of a coworker no less, legal aged) and they all talk crazy smack about why they hate dating their own race and want mixed kiddos.
      May 31
    • Cadence qwer09
      Saggy/op, exactly how tall are you? 5'10, 5'7, 5'5 are all big differences.
      Jun 3
    • Cadence qwer09
      @drift you are probably right about rating.

      Location of experience you described?
      Jun 3
    • If you're Chinese, try 2redbeans.
      Jun 3
  • Drift UOSN85
    Race and height? This will cut straight to it
    May 30 5
    • Google Gentrified
      Indian and 4’11
      May 30
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      cut that crap out
      May 31
    • Drift UOSN85
      You mean cut out reality? “No asians” and “Over 6’” are basically two of the most commonly posted criteria and filters on dating apps. Okcupid had the data posted (before they pulled it off their blogs years later when it became un-pc) that showed top 15% of males get something like 85% of the interest whereas the rest got next to nothing. Sorry if you’re not a Chad and don’t know what it’s like to have girls text message you just to hook up.
      May 31
    • New
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      Uoseidonmore
      never used any dating apps before, don’t know anything about it
      May 31
    • Google Gentrified
      ^Drift gets it
      May 31
  • Google ahx
    there are online services which will rate your pictures on different things (confidence, attractiveness, etc). give those a try to get an honest feedback.
    May 30 6
    • Salesforce / Eng
      Full-Send

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      Interesting!
      May 30
    • Google Gentrified
      It only works for white people and women, not as well for brown desi men. Keep in mind who is rating the pics
      May 31
    • Nvidia pocoloco
      Photofeeler and gentrified is correct
      May 31
    • New / Eng lfgfaang
      make an app to only allow same race vote
      May 31
    • Cadence qwer09
      @ahx but attractiveness is subjective. Studies claiming objective metrics are never quantifiable and numerous exceptions exist. Plus most of it is white-centric.
      Jun 3
    • Cadence qwer09
      @gentrified is it rated by sw or real people?

      @pocoloco whats photofeeler?
      Jun 3
  • Capital One
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    Drakemore
    Look in the mirror. No, seriously. Girls only respond to guys who are attractive... You only try to talk to girls who are attractive. Two way street. Work on yourself in and out.
    May 30 2
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      If u look in the mirror and think u r hot is that not narcissistic? I believe I have done the most I can in terms of appearance and my personality is not bad either. I do only talk to girls I find attractive but I think I am attractive enough
      May 31
    • Capital One
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      Drakemore
      I guess the only objective way is to get rated on those sites. No it's not narcissistic if it's true. But the girls aren't being reciprocative which means you're overrating yourself. According to studies, men overrate themselves on a 10 point scale by two points on average.
      May 31
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    bars aren’t good places to meet girls. take some art classes, volunteer in animal shelters, go travel. read more literary and philosophy books help too
    May 30 2
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      Very time consuming. I have work I can't go on enlightening travel and read/enjoy the fine arts. Volunteering is also tiring it is like work after work but unpaid.
      May 31
    • New
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      sure you can, really depend on your priorities in life. if you think money and work are most important, you will continue to have problems in dating.
      May 31
  • Palo Alto Networks !💥
    Snapchat gender filter bruh
    May 30 0
  • Autolist eFks14
    Use your gym benefits, stop snacking, and drink only water. Get that fat percentage under 10%, get a $50 hair cut, and get stylish clothes. I been there, trust me and you will get there if you put enough dedication. It's for sure easier than you getting that sweet job at LinkedIn👍
    May 30 1
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      talking to a person is way harder than talking to a machine.
      May 31
  • The problem could be that you’re desperate. Some tips - Try not caring too much about what other people may think of you. Go to the gym, healthy eating, cleanliness for physical appearance.
    May 30 0
  • Amazon new_ew
    Work on yourself and just make friends with girls with no intention of dating atleast in the beginning.
    May 30 0
  • Comcast G0ku
    Ha Ha what a loser! When I was in bay area hot girls were emailing and calling me everyday.

    They were ALL tech recruiters. Like 100% of women, who initiated a conversation with me, ever. But still.. female contact! /s

    Get out of there man! Fucking dysfunctional place. If you move elsewhere and still have zero luck, that’s on you. But don’t let 6’3 white dudes tell you that your personality is the missing piece of puzzle.
    Jun 1 7
    • Where are you now, Songoku?
      Jun 1
    • Did you become Saiyan 5 yet?
      Jun 1
    • Comcast G0ku
      Small town, not a tech market. Swimming in 😽😽 didn’t have to change a damn thing about myself. Only location. Recognize a lost battle when you see one.
      Jun 1
    • Yup pick your battle
      Jun 1
    • Congrats
      Jun 1
    • Amazon echo $?
      G0ku, what OP wants is a LTR not a hookup. Drowning in p**** is not the same. Personality doesn’t matter for hookups but does in the long term. Remember your kids will be a blend of your (and your families’) looks and personalities.
      Jun 1
    • Comcast G0ku
      @amazon I’m done “sowing my wild oats”, I’m in a LTR now with an amazing woman. I couldn’t date anyone worthy of LTR in bay. So instead I banged a lot of girls, of every possible permutation combination. Just to fulfill my basic physical needs, my emotional needs were unmet still. I understand that other asian males can’t even get that, and I empathize with them. Its a cruel life.

      A geography that’s easier for hooking up is also easier for LTR. Its just a numbers/gender ratio game. In NYC you get a ton of dates, but you have to assure women that you won’t hit and quit. They can see it right thru, it has happened to them a lot.
      Jun 1
  • Facebook / Eng xueme
    Leave sausage fest cities like Bay Area or Seattle
    May 31 6
    • Nvidia ethercoin
      And Poland
      May 31
    • Facebook / Eng xueme
      What's wrong with Poland?
      May 31
    • Palo Alto Networks !💥
      They probably have festivals for their amazing Polish sausage
      May 31
    • Nvidia ethercoin
      🌭
      May 31
    • Intel Benzy
      You might joke about Poland but Polish girls are some of the hottest in Europe (and I have been all over Europe).
      Jun 2
    • Nvidia flybu
      Apparently you haven't been to Russia where Europeans believe live the hottest ;-)
      Jun 2
  • Qualcomm heymamu
    Lifting just for picking up girls is bullshit. When you go broke girl will run away irrespective of however hot the guy is physically
    May 31 4
    • Nvidia ethercoin
      Qualcomm if you hit 245 bench and TC ~245 then girls won't be an issue
      May 31
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      TC is one thing. Net worth is another...
      May 31
    • Nvidia ethercoin
      There's often a correlation if you're > 35
      May 31
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      Yes agree correlation is good if people stay away from gold diggers. Otherwise miscorrelation
      May 31
  • Google 1234-/:;(
    Do you have citizenship? Wave passport at a boba shop. Someone will talk to you.
    May 31 1
    • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
      Lol, he will look like an idiot. Most illegal immigrants working at such shops got green card already!
      May 31
  • Airbnb ancmqo
    It has nothing with bay area.
    May 31 0
  • Amazon echo $?
    OP, it’s a lot like job hunting. You have a brand. Build the brand and girls will follow. I’ll tell you a secret: no gal would stay long term with a guy who’s a 8-10
    For very long because they are typically jerks, are in it mostly for the sex, have lots of baggage, or would move on to a younger model quickly. Think about what it would be like to date a model - gorgeous, but high maintenance, full of herself, etc. Same thing goes for guys. Make sure you’re not acting like this. Anyone super attractive who doesn’t have these traits would be in a committed relationship long ago.

    When I was dating years ago, I made sure that my personality, kindness, sincerity, and intelligence could help make up for my being average looking and a bit unfit (white, 6’3, 180 lbs, small beer belly). I didn’t have girls lining up to date me, but those who did would be willing to stick around because I sincerely looked for a LTR. It didn’t take me long to find a gal who was attractive, liked me for me, and wanted to settle down. That was 18 years ago when I met her, and we are happily married now with two kids and one more on the way.
    May 31 1
    • Capital One
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      So much truth in this. The attractive guys who don't have these traits also tend to be caught in college.
      Jun 1
  • Qualcomm heymamu
    Dont worry about it. Someone rightly said here, marry a girl from poor country and love happily
    May 30 1
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      worked before, not anymore, the time is different now, internet and social media changed everything
      May 30
  • VMware yogiman
    If you're Indian, arranged marriage was made for you.
    May 31 0
  • Pure Storage iSSk05
    You can always try other dudes. I thought that was how god makes gays.
    May 31 0
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    a long term relationship needs more than money and look
    May 31 2
    • Qualcomm enjoyliife
      Agree. I took divorce from a very beautiful looking girl. But after 1 year of marriage realised they were horrible person and I didnt find her attractive after that
      May 31
    • Apple procto
      I think OP is open to anything, not just LTR.
      May 31
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      it’s not about the money, there are a lot interesting SWEs around, it’s about his personality, if he cannot change, he just needs to keep looking for someone who like the ways he is
      May 31
    • LinkedIn saggy
      OP
      Everyone makes a lot of money. I feel I am no different in that regard so no point flexing that.
      May 31
  • Cadence qwer09
    Are you white? american? If so, then you shouldn't have any issue even in SV. Also height?

    If azn or indian/brown, then it's tough.
    May 31 1
    • Capital One
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      I'd say easier than the rest of the country. Where else has the highest concentration of Asians? Years ahead of states like Texas.
      Jun 1
  • Salesforce / Eng mlswmw37
    If you keep looking at blind, you won't find. I just saw few amazing girls in downtown. Go now!
    May 31 0
  • Google QWERTY8643
    5% of men lift, 5% of that do it seriously. Diet and exercise and girls will come to you.
    May 31 0
  • Nvidia ethercoin
    Stand by the pier and pick up some fobs.
    May 31 0
  • Qualcomm heymamu
    Become a sugar daddy
    May 30 3
    • Google Gentrified
      If he has the money he wouldn’t be begging for advice on Blind
      May 30
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      sugar daddy needs mojos too, not easy to be a sugar daddy
      May 31
    • Qualcomm / Eng dynasty001
      Or a splenda daddy if you dont like calories
      May 31
  • Cadence qwer09
    Are you asian or indian? Height? If not white then it may be hard time in bay area.
    Jun 2 2
    • Facebook / Eng xueme
      Azn?
      Jun 2
    • Cadence qwer09
      azn = asian
      Jun 2
  • New jj00
    Why French girls?
    May 31 1
    • New / Eng
      🔥HODL🔥

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      Why not French girls?
      May 31
  • Neurocrine D.Trump
    Date your manager
    May 31 0
  • New / Eng
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    McAdrianomore
    I'll do you one better!!
    Move to NYC for the same TC, COL is comparatively decent, options are more. I am sure, you'll never go crazy here.
    May 31 0
  • Uber / Eng mH7bSe
    Prostitution.
    May 31 0
  • New osMS13
    People can pick up on insincerity. You just want to get laid. Go find a hook up or pay some $.
    May 31 0
  • Google Gentrified
    Erm. Polish sausage?
    May 31 0
  • Oracle / Eng otLQ15
    You can always get you some hookers so you don’t have to date
    May 31 0
  • Apple fruitco334
    If you’re just another dude women want nothing to do with you. Sorry. Work on your appearance and that first impression and get the chance to make a move before they’ve made up their minds
    May 31 0
  • Uber lock_up
    Nice troll!
    May 30 0

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