Not Attracted to Husband

Microsoft / Other abcde4
Jun 23 186 Comments

Husband is very loving, but I'm just not attracted to him. I love my husband. I convinced him that I need to move to Seattle for my job, but I just wanted to avoid anything to do with intimacy as I didn't want to confront this topic. Having been in Seattle for over 6 months now, I have made a lot of guy friends, and I'm really attracted to this guy from Amazon. Breaking up with my husband will break him.

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  • Amazon iAI
    Does this Amazon guy know you are married? You are a cheater, and your husband does not deserve you. Hang out with this new guy till he dumps.
    Jun 23 5
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      He knows but he is much more open minded than my husband.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon iAI
      Ofcourse he is open minded, you are not his wife.
      Jun 23
    • Berkeley Lab paba
      Open minded until he finds another attractive chick with or without a husband. Your move is a wrong one
      Jun 23
    • Google dumbfcuk
      He is open minded only when he lets his wife fuck someone.

      Actually he sounds very intelligent he gets to fuck you and get credit for being open minded!!
      Jun 23
    • New
      memegen@

      New

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      memegen@more
      Abcde4 was born yesterday
      Jul 2
  • Berkeley Lab paba
    Where is that commitment when you get married? If you cannot even make it, why start a family? Remember, Karma is a B
    Jun 23 15
    • Leanplum pastaman
      Give him more BJs. Will raise his confidence.
      Jun 23
    • @pastaman she is busy raising confidence of some other man at the moment
      Jun 23
    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      OooChacha: it’s never hit me and never will. To believe in this stuff, you have to believe in religion or supernatural stuff which I clearly do not.
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft weirvhtd
      Karma is not a hindu or religious concept... its just a law of nature.. Be a prick to everyone and one day you will find your match
      Jun 23
    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      I’m not exactly sure how such a law works? Was it one of Newton’s laws? Maybe I didn’t pay attention lol.

      You realize how ridiculous that sounds right? As if there is some invisible governing force that gets people back for bad deeds.
      Jun 23
    • Leanplum pastaman
      Dude of course it's not a "law".
      But I am much more comfortable being a dick to someone who has shown dick-like behavior before. And many people are the same. Hence, if you're a dick, the likelihood that people will be dicks to you is much higher.
      Dumbass
      Jun 23
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      It’s funny how you both call me names because I disagree with your opinion. I’m laughing over here.
      Jun 23
    • Google dumbfcuk
      Brainfreeze!! Can we get back to sexy oral
      stuff she was talking about
      Jun 23
    • Oracle / R&D
      uuummmmm

      Oracle R&D

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      no nonsense guy 😂😎
      uuummmmmmore
      @ChivalryAF --
      ofcourse it is definitly Newton's laws.
      3rd one - for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

      Clearly you have a rationale for all things happening in your life.
      put your dunce cap back.
      Jun 30
  • Huawei / Product mzws
    Herm, you love your husband but not attracted to him?.. I think you should really take some personal off time and clearly think
    Jun 23 7
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      I love him because he is nice to me. I'm not attracted to him because he is too nice to me.
      Jun 23
    • So he should spank you.
      Jun 23
    • Netflix AQhA27
      Husband is friendzoned.
      Jun 23
    • Leanplum pastaman
      Have you tried rough sex?
      Jun 23
    • Axtria DesiLaunda
      Can I have your husband? I am gay.
      Jun 23
    • Cisco BoomBlues
      ^axtria will seduce your hubby and steal him away from you. You can continue the romance with the Seattle dude. Hubby wants a divorce for his new found interest. Win-win!
      Jun 23
    • Wells Fargo seeyeeyeo
      He is too nice?? I live in Silicon Valley and I know a woman just like that. This guy(her boyfriend) would constantly clean kitchen and make food for her. She broke up with him. Now almost three years later she regrets making that decision and does not have any steady relationship.

      Don't cheat but do speak to him and break up amicably.
      Jun 24
  • Google ugHc25
    What's each parties TC?
    Jun 23 8
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      My TC is 125k, and husbands TC is 115k. We're both from India.
      Jun 23
    • Google ugHc25
      What's BF TC?
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Don't know BFs TC
      Jun 23
    • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
      Can u push to do more leetcode? Never expected leetcode save Indian marriages :)
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft shambu
      Leetcode can especially save Indian marriages. If husband's TC was 🌲 fiddy, this gal wouldn't even be looking 😂
      Jun 23
    • Thank god that her husband's TC is not that high because if it was high then this girl might have stayed with that poor guy just for 💰 and bang different guys all around seatle.

      Lady please tell your husband that you want to end this relationship so that he can find a better person to continue his life and you can contine your banging.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon Bill.
      You have to find out BF TC first before making a decision.
      You may see him differently after.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon / Eng unionset
      Well he works at amazon so his TC is definitely more than the 115 her husband is bringing in. Still shouldn’t base a decision on TC alone. But yeah regardless she should leave her husband since she’s already found a side hustle
      Jun 23
  • Microsoft / Other abcde4
    OP
    What should I do?
    Jun 23 5
    • F5 Networks indian in
      Troll post for sure. Some sadistic pleasure some people derive from such posts.

      Usually starts like this - i am unhappy with husband. Screwing a firang. Had arranged marriage. What to do?
      Jun 23
    • Cisco Infensus
      The needful
      Jun 23
    • F5 Networks indian in
      Yup. Do the needful!
      Jun 23
    • Roku
      nutcra

      Roku

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      nutcramore
      Do whatever you are currently doing, the extra martial affair.
      Jun 23
    • Google / Data noobler
      Threesome ?
      Jun 23
  • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
    Yeah. I think it's better u leave him otherwise u screw him a lot. Have proper discussion. Tell him I am still thinking like teenage girl, and u deserve better. Or hook him up with better option. Win - win
    Jun 23 0
  • Cisco webecisco
    Uhhhh. Before you do anything end it with the husband. Don’t say you love him, you don’t. You’re everything we men do prenuptial agreements for.
    Jun 23 1
  • Twilio APIs FTW
    Gfys.
    Jun 23 0
  • Amazon
    weeeeeeee

    Amazon

    BIO
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    weeeeeeeemore
    If I understand you correctly, you want to move to Seattle to hang out with amazon guy behind your husband’s back?
    Jun 23 6
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      I'm already in Seattle, and I already hang out with this guy.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon
      weeeeeeee

      Amazon

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      weeeeeeeemore
      Definitely break up with your husband then, wtf?
      Jun 23
    • Booking.com / Other
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎ

      Booking.com Other

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎmore
      "hang out" equals to had sex?
      Jun 23
    • Google Naxnax
      Does it really matter what hang out means. Even if its a coffee date, its bad
      Jun 23
    • Booking.com / Other
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎ

      Booking.com Other

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎmore
      Not really. Having sex with the guy is at least friends with benefit. A coffee date is just a casual meeting with a friend or acquittance
      Jun 23
    • Clover Health sses
      Someone doesn't believe in emotional cheating.
      Jun 24
  • Wayfair / Eng
    lLmi30

    Wayfair Eng

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    Wayfair, Cognizant, Tech Mahindra
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    lLmi30more
    How old are you?
    Jun 23 0
  • In your vows did you say “till death do us part”? Did you mean it?

    Go with me on this, I hope it can be of some use. Attraction is all in your mind. There is nothing physical about it. It’s all nerve endings and such firing off telling your body that you are aroused. So. You have to reset your brain. First, you have to decide that divorce isn’t an option. It is off the table. Once you set that firm conviction, your mind will conform to that belief. The reason you are dealing with the grass is greener syndrome is because intimacy is deeper than physicality. Physical attraction is the most shallow feeling of desire. Attraction grows in random with trust and vulnerability. When you can trust your partner to be there for you in your ugliest moments and they have shown that nothing in all of heaven or hell could drag them from you, you have a bond that is of true substance and value. And in that space of trust and commitment, attraction grows, because this is your human. This is your person. You have chosen to love them when it ain’t easy, when their fat ass is downing twinkies after they lost their job and are mourning that ish (aka pity party), you have gone through tough times together and that solidifies your friendship. The fastest way to become madly in love is to stop looking elsewhere for what you already have in spades.

    My fiancé and I have been together through the death of my sister, my brother grand theft autoing my car (and crashing it.. idiot.), me losing my good job and having to work for 7.25/hr with long days and nights, 2 years of long distance, me overcoming a porn addiction, her parents hating me, me going to a coding boot camp coding 14+ hours a day for 3 months, eating ramen, bagels and spaghetti to be able to land a job, get paid mad money, prove to her parents that I can provide for their daughter, oh, all the while working through my ptsd. I found my person and we have gone through hell a time or two and there is nothing hotter than that women that loves me like crazy and has shown it, not by dressing all saucy on a Friday night, but by fighting for us day in day out.

    Is that melodramatic? you’re damn right it is, but marriage is the real thing and it is beautiful, hard and always worth it.

    Anywho, blessings,

    Yeti.
    Jun 24 10
    • Tandem*, not random. 😂
      Jun 24
    • Amazon iAI
      Tell us more about that porn addiction.
      Jun 24
    • Sure, what do you want to know?
      Jun 24
    • Amazon iAI
      Why would you call it addiction? Lot of men watch lot of it.
      And one hell of post dude, you deserve that mad money.
      Jun 24
    • That’s a great question. The moment I realized that

      1. I was compulsively viewing porn + masturbating. I couldn’t stop it. I was no longer choosing, it was choosing for me. I became a slave to the dopamine hit.

      2. It was affecting my view of women, seeing them not as humans to be loved/respected, but is a objects purely for sexual pleasure and fantasy

      3. My thoughts became increasingly violent and dark as I sought rougher and more fringe kinks to maintain the same level of dopamine release.

      4. The amount of time spent watching and the energy drained subsequently damaged my relationships and work performance

      Men will say they can entertain it every once in a while and not see any negative side affects, but, I can and will (if you want) dismantle every argument in favor of porn viewing.

      Also, thanks, man. My mad money isn’t Amazon money, but the moment I get envious $7.25/hr pops in my head and keeps me grounded.
      Jun 24
    • Taylor Farms pipp
      Yeti, totally unrelated. How long ago did you do bootcamp ?
      Jun 24
    • Hello! I started in August and finish in November (2018). I went to DevMountain.
      Jun 24
    • Taylor Farms pipp
      Do you mind if I DM you with regards to that? I may be up for a similar journey and would appreciate any information.
      Jun 24
    • Go for it! I’d love to discuss more.
      Jun 24
    • Taylor Farms pipp
      Thank you. Just DM’d you!
      Jun 24
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Wish you understood how female attraction works.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon iAI
      Help us understand that.
      Jun 23
    • Google dumbfcuk
      Haha don't give it some great meaning to it. We are talking about how to handle cheating here. Let's be straight abt it.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon
      weeeeeeee

      Amazon

      BIO
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      weeeeeeeemore
      I am interested to hear how “female attraction works” though, if it’s a static universal thing
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft kebabs
      Cheating, as in emotional cheating rather than physical? She didn’t say she put out for the other guy yet
      Jun 23
    • Apple / Eng tWBu16
      Just a reminder: you are your own person. You don’t have an obligation to be faithful to anyone, not even your husband. If you think you would be better off leaving your husband for this other dude, why not go for it?
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft
      Hodor

      Microsoft

      PRE
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      Hodormore
      @tWBu16 plot twist: OP is your wife
      Jun 23
    • eBay five100
      tWBu16 this is YOLO bs. Why did she marry him if she had to leave, he has not done anything wrong? What if after 5 years she wants someone new. No one has the right to waste life if someone else.
      Jun 24
  • Tesla / Eng wravsy
    You could have just told this to me. Why did you post it here? Did you think I'm dumb not have a blind account?
    Jun 23 4
    • Wayfair / Eng
      lLmi30

      Wayfair Eng

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      lLmi30more
      Lol classic
      Jun 23
    • New / Cust. Srv. Yuqv51
      Omg are you for real ?
      Jun 23
    • Google dumbfcuk
      Omfg this just got hilarious... I thot op is intelligent enough to use different city names and different componies.. well 🍿

      We are making history here. First blind post to be used in court for divorce
      Jun 23
    • Berkeley Lab paba
      That says so much about Tesla
      Jun 23
  • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
    Cool. Who said Indian girls aren't developed when compared to West. Proud of u my girl :). Do what makes u happy; just be considerate of others. The cost is lot though for attraction - but again I guess the other party might treat u the same at some point and I am sure you won't be as attractive u r right now.
    Jun 23 7
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Nobody knows the future, but I'm not attracted to my husband due to his personality.
      Jun 23
    • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
      Hmm. Bad arranged marriage I guess :). Fake pics on Shaadi.com?
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Yep, shaadi.com
      Jun 23
    • eBay
      J Snow

      eBay

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      J Snowmore
      Wtf did I just read, Salesforce? Is this your definition of “developed”? Are you fucking dumb?
      Jun 23
    • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
      Haha. I am being sarcastic...
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft shambu
      Indian girls in the West are 😂😂
      Jun 23
    • eBay five100
      Indian girls going Wild Wild West😂
      Jun 24
  • Goldman Sachs JQKq20
    Is that you Neha?
    Jun 23 0
  • Google / Eng
    sqrt(-1)

    Google Eng

    BIO
    Top Contributor or GTFO
    sqrt(-1)more
    I knew it! The moment you started with the bullshit about moving to Seattle I knew it. Do whatever you want baby. I don't care anymore.
    Btw, I've been fucking Sarah all this time. Best of luck.
    Jun 23 0
  • Facebook tGTv63
    This is a guy thats bored and has nothing better to do. Stop wasting your energy.
    Looks like a lot of people got triggered, good job trolling OP
    Jun 23 0
  • eBay
    J Snow

    eBay

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    J Snowmore
    Right now what you are doing is called infidelity. You know what get a divorce because your husband deserves better than this. Win win situation, no?
    Jun 23 5
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      It'll break him. He has done so much for me, and if I now leave for some other guy, he'll kill himself.
      Jun 23
    • eBay
      J Snow

      eBay

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      J Snowmore
      Knowing you are fooling around with someone else is going to break him even more. And anyway you cannot have the best of both worlds forever. Things will get ugly at some point, save yourself before that.
      Jun 23
    • Leanplum pastaman
      Don't leave him "for some other guy". Just leave him. In fact, leave both men for like 3 months. Then see if you really prefer your husband or the new dude or maybe none of them at all.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon
      llpp

      Amazon

      BIO
      “Life has no meaning. That’s why there’s love.”
      llppmore
      No it won’t OP. You’re not that great, trust me
      Jun 23
    • New
      memegen@

      New

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      memegen@more
      Come on OP. Do him a favor. Just leave.
      Jul 2
  • Amazon ChivalryAF
    Is your husband out of shape?
    Jun 23 6
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      A little overweight.
      Jun 23
    • Amazon ChivalryAF
      Would it help if he was muscular?
      Jun 23
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Nope.
      Jun 23
    • And how is your shape op? A little underweight?
      Jun 23
    • My guess, a little heavy, aunty type with hair. Common in southern India.
      Jun 23
    • Booking.com / Other
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎ

      Booking.com Other

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      ɐᴉpǝdxƎmore
      Who has a bigger winkie?
      Jun 23
  • Oracle iOFR21
    Its always better to marry someone who loves you rather than marry someone you love. I dont know your age, but after your divorce am 95% sure a time will come when you will regret this decision. But its your life so you have the power to make your life choices.
    Jun 23 2
    • Optum / Eng hqt
      Exactly what I was going to say. There will be a time when the attraction for the new guy will end as well. That's when reality will hit
      Jun 23
    • Cisco BoomBlues
      95 seems to be too accurate :/
      Jun 23
  • Marvell sowjeg145
    Lot of these depends on your culture and background... What is right for an American may not be right for an Indian.. the values differ a lot... You cannot get a well suited advice here as this forum has people from all cultures
    Jun 23 3
    • Cisco webecisco
      She’s in the US and not India yes? Culture or not some states have laws where she can lose everything and it would be well deserved if she’s cheated on him.
      Jun 23
    • Marvell sowjeg145
      Law is different from sense of morality and values.

      Also, being in US doesn't restrict anybody to follow value system of their choice. It is land of free. Oh, yeah.. you mean "native american" culture? It is extinct when Columbus landed on this continent.
      Jun 23
    • Cisco webecisco
      My family is Native American, do go on. Law is law regardless of values, culture. When you are in a host country you will abide then full stop.
      Jun 24
  • Amazon okFY05
    You're definitely a guy. Reveal yourself.
    Jun 23 0
  • Amazon jQpf16
    I am not as attracted to my husband as I was to some of my exes, the sex is meh. BUT.... I love him and that love has nothing to do with my lack of physical attraction to him ( he is effing good looking, and extremely nice, I am not attracted to nice, I am attracted to bad, drama and losers who are mean and keep me keen). Luckily for me, I recognise that the shortcoming is in me and not in my husband. He is a gentle soul, dedicated to me and I am dedicated to him. I know I love him because even though the sex is lame, there is noone else i would be with than him, I would never do anything to make him sad and I dont allow myself to be attracted to other men. Love works in mysterious ways and if you care about the person and dont want to operate from a selfish space, you can have a beautiful relationship. or given in to dumb attraction bounce around from loser to loser and end up alone,
    Jul 4 1
    • Google Devil
      We’ll all is true but end of the day you are the one who is still suffering.
      Jul 4
  • Lyft qCbJ38
    Jesus, what a bunch of insecure men here calling you names.

    You live once. If you had to move to Seattle to get sway from your husband,
    I think you have your answer.

    As for the new guy, do not divorce your husband for him, do it for yourself and no one else. The new guy might not stick around, so make sure you are comfortable with being divorced and single, because that might end up being the situation.
    Jun 23 1
    • Google SKTB48
      "You only live once" is not an excuse for being a do*che/b*tch. If she truly "loves" the husband, she should be honest with him.
      Jun 23
  • Wayfair / Eng
    lLmi30

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    lLmi30more
    Does he go down on you?
    Jun 23 3
    • Microsoft / Other abcde4
      OP
      Never did oral with husband, but my friend from Amazon might insist on it. My husband never pressed me for anything sexual.
      Jun 23
    • Wayfair / Eng
      lLmi30

      Wayfair Eng

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      lLmi30more
      You dont but do you let?
      Jun 23
    • Amazon tro37
      Wait!? Your friend from Amazon might insist on you doing oral with husband?
      Jun 23
  • New / Mgmt
    Microsoft.

    New Mgmt

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    Microsoft.more
    You basically have betrayed him already by starting to see others
    6d 2
    • Yo mgmt is 🔥.
      6d
    • Oath Atinlay2
      I’d also add “asking strangers on Blind” to that list of betrayals
      6d
  • F5 Networks indian in
    Troll post for sure. Some sadistic pleasure some people derive from such posts.

    Usually starts like this - i am unhappy with husband. Screwing a firang. Had arranged marriage. What to do?
    Jun 23 2
    • Amazon / Eng eztP64
      Yeah, honestly this kind of sounds like an incel troll, but on the off chance it's not I replied as if the post was in good faith.
      Jun 23
    • F5 Networks indian in
      👍🏻
      Jun 23
  • Stupid girl. Should have had you fun before marriage. Now you want to have fun, Amazon boy will not marry you, current husband oh well.... you guys are screwed. Don’t have kids.
    Jun 23 1
    • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
      It's ok re. relax.... :)
      Jun 23
  • Apple / Eng lmfaoapple
    Lmao at all the nerds shitting their pants rn
    Jun 23 0
  • New hiLE11
    Common issue in indian couples. This may help. You are looking for intimacy outlet and not want to hinder your marriage. I have been a third/bull for many indian couples in bay area. The wife wants to experience hot sex back again which she may or may not have had back home. The hubby loves his wife so he agrees to it and he also enjoys it once she gets a bull/third whom all can trust. PM me if you have question.

    Look into reddit subs it can really help this situation.
    r/hotwife
    r/cuckold
    r/indianhotwife
    r/indiansgonewild
    Jul 5 2
    • AMD
      $&!#

      AMD

      PRE
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      $&!#more
      😂
      Jul 5
    • What’s your age ? Where do you meet such couples 😀
      Jul 5
  • DocuSign neooooooo
    Is the amazon guy married? Please think before you decide. Amazon guy might fuck you if given the opportunity but not marry you. I am guessing you don’t want to end up being alone? Even if he is marrying you I see a red flag in his character. It’s very unlikely it will last.
    Jun 23 1
    • DocuSign neooooooo
      Talk with your husband. Be straight and honest. Tell him politely that you are losing interest in the marriage and say that you want to save it. See what he says about it. Sometimes you don’t know what you have until you lose it.
      Jun 23
  • Splunk psst..
    Don’t listen to this wankers OP. You have already made your decision. Just be honest and move out of the marriage.

    Good luck with the new guy.
    Jun 23 0
  • Valassis / Eng
    GNu002

    Valassis Eng

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    GNu002more
    You must think pretty highly of yourself too believe that he's better off with you cheating on him than him being alone.

    Stop trying to justify your shitty behavior.
    Jun 23 0
  • Amazon / Eng eztP64
    From your responses OP, sounds like you should make use of the mental health resources your employer provides. That's not intended to be an attack in any way, I mean it. This situation is clearly stressing you out. Talk it over with a professional and so you can resolve it.

    That said, why is your husband being nice to you unattractive?
    Jun 23 0
  • Google Devil
    Leave or an affair .
    Jun 24 5
    • Terrible advice.
      Jun 24
    • Google Devil
      Why ?
      Jun 24
    • Attraction is purely mental, not physical. If you leave your marriage instruct your brain to value instant gratification over long term commitment. Eventually you will want your brain to value long term commitment, but it won’t because you trained it not to work through adversity, but to leave at the first sign of trouble.
      If you choose to have an affair you show yourself that loyalty, trust and commitment have zero value to you. You show that your word is worthless.
      You can tell yourself you deserve love, affection and affirmation, but ultimately you don’t. If you aren’t willing to choose to love, then you aren’t worthy of another’s love. Especially when you vowed to choose that human day in and day out.
      Jun 24
    • Google Devil
      On papers what you said makes sense 100% but practically it not the same . Most of us live in grey area.
      Jun 24
    • Haha, exactly! People subconsciously create neural pathways in the grey matter of their brain to leave/affair at the first sign of trouble and wonder why they can’t sustain a relationship.

      People demonize commitment all the while begging for something fulfilling.

      What satisfies our soul is not found in the quick fling, it’s in the tried and true friendship that only time and trust can produce.
      Jun 24
  • Google / Eng chri35
    All the cucks who say Indian girls are more faithful and arranged marriage is the best low divorce rate check this thread
    Jun 24 2
    • Taylor Farms pipp
      Lol. Awesome. I am getting arrange married then.
      Jun 24
    • F5 Networks bhai-log
      How sure are you that -
      a. This is really an Indian posting
      b. This is a female
      Jun 24
  • Intel xxk
    OP, wanna go on a date
    Jun 23 1
    • Intel leedle
      Haha get it
      Jun 23
  • Apple / Eng tWBu16
    Why not divorce your husband and try going out with this other guy?
    Jun 23 1
    • Rule of thumb: If they will cheat for you then they will cheat on you.
      Jun 24
  • New / Cust. Srv. Yuqv51
    Yr marriage is over just break up
    With yr husband. It’s his responsibility to figure out to how to live without you.
    Jun 23 1
  • Intuit Lowtco
    Get the divorce and do your thing. Your husband is probably not happy either and the divorce will allow him to find someone that appreciates him. The notion of commitment for life is outdated and unrealistic.
    Jun 23 1
  • Indeed brazenguy
    Dude, if you wanted to bash women, you didn’t need to pretend to be one and post some contrived, bullshit story.
    Jun 28 0
  • Microsoft kebabs
    Convince husband to have open marriage, non-monogamous. It’s de rigueur for dating in Seattle
    Jun 23 0
  • Intel asdf!
    Guys, stop being rude to op. Happens to each one of us. It’s an attraction to opposite gender and don’t stereotype. Who said Indian women can’t have affairs and have to be loyal. If men can do it so can women (esp read Indian)
    Jun 23 0
  • Intel xxk
    TC? You know the rule
    Jun 23 0
  • Amazon / Eng
    UTukMyJerb

    Amazon Eng

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    Electronic Arts (EA)
    UTukMyJerbmore
    A very simple test is to swap roles and figure out what you would have wanted your husband to have done. Remember the same choices you have are also available to your husband. He probably meets women who are way more attractive than you every single day.
    Jun 23 0
  • Amazon kmcY20
    Damn, not sure what's up with the hate. I didn't know Blind was so conservative, it's almost like OP just mentioned this at church. OP, you should leave your husband. Yes it will be difficult, but life is too damned short to give a spousal amount of time to someone you don't love. (you should leave even if you think Amazon BF won't work out) Also, even if you think husband will be broken by being left, the duration of your life is too high a price to pay. We are not responsible for safeguarding others' fragility with our lives.
    Jun 23 3
    • Flagged by the community.

    • Define marriage.
      Jun 24
    • Wth? My comment was flagged :(
      Jun 24
  • LinkedIn cd-
    You love your husband, but does not attract to him. 🤔 Are you gay? I’m pretty sure women doesn’t work that way.
    Jun 23 3
    • Amazon / Eng eztP64
      You've never loved someone you aren't attracted to? Do you love your mom and dad? Do you want to sleep with them?
      Jun 23
    • Google / Data noobler
      ^ loving someone is not equal to “being in love with someone”. Ytf would you talk about incest
      Jun 23
    • Amazon / Eng eztP64
      She never said she was in love with him. She said she loves him. It's a perfectly valid counter argument to your presumption that straight women apparently can't love someone without being attracted to them.
      Jun 23
  • If you’re not attracted to him physically and there’s nothing he can do about it, just break up with him. It has nothing to do with this other guy you’re seeing.

    Granted, you did break trust by seeing the other guy, which is shitty of you. But that has nothing to do with your not being attracted to him.
    Jun 23 3
    • That's incorrect. Attraction is in your mind. Anyone who's ever had a wet dream knows theres nothing physical about it. If you let your hormones determine your level of commitment then you deserve the shallow surface-level cheap motel romance you are doomed to play out.
      Jun 25
    • I think a lot of it is in the mind, and a lot of actually physical.

      For example you may be initially physically attracted to a conventionally beautiful woman, but if she causes you a lot of stress and hardship and ill feelings, you could be repulsed seeing her.

      The opposite may be true as well. But in either case, OP was apparently never physically attracted to her husband, and actually moved away to avoid intimacy with him.

      I mean, maybe her husband causes her stress or isn’t attractive due to some of his actions or his personality, in which case the problem is solvable, but we don’t have enough information to say that.

      I mean presumably OP would’ve attempted to work on her husband and convince him to be more “attractive” to her before moving to Seattle. Know what I mean?
      Jun 25
    • There is an element to it that is physical, yes. However, I’m more inclined to question the OP’s mental and emotional health. If your solution to avoiding intimacy with someone who is very loving towards you (as the OP points out) is to move states... Well, friend, you’ve got some skeletons to drag out of the closet.

      The OP should take a peek inward and learn why she is going to such great lengths to prevent vulnerability. You could say, “well, this is very situational and she probably doesn’t respond this way to other things”. And you would be wrong in saying that because our reactions don’t exist in a vacuum chamber. They bleed in to every choice we make.

      At best OP is has zero integrity and their word means nothing and at worst they have some deep seeded trauma repulsing then from true connection and intimacy.
      Jun 26
  • Barclays PLC FAANGHNTER
    Annul your marriage. Do you think he did not pick this up? Give him a chance with someone who can fulfil him.
    Jun 23 1
    • That logic is inherently flawed.
      Jun 24
  • Microsoft kebabs
    Do you have any kids from the marriage
    Jun 23 1
    • Salesforce / Eng Gjjdhjekej
      Adi Inka daridram
      Jun 23