One of my reports has items on her desk that are considered “offensive” by HR but no one has actually complained.Jan 14
Edit: Item in question is a ceramic mug with realistic sculpted breasts.
Do I take action and ask her to remove said items even though no one has complained? I personally don’t find the items offensive but it might be that I’m a woman. HR is all white male.
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- Tell HR that it’s to bring attention to breast cancer awareness and that’ll be that.
- As a manager it is your job to get her to remove the cup. If your employee refuses to do what you tell her, maybe it is only a small part of a bigger problem, and you need to start interviewing for a replacement ASAP.
- Are they bare breasts? In a bikini? What are we talking about here?
And if HR has a problem, why don’t they counsel the employee? Oh, that’s right - because they want you to do their dirty work. 🙄 Don’t cave - have them take care of it themselves. They’re big boys and girls...
- Cisco @⭐️So you don’t find it offensive. No one else finds it offensive, but you feel you need to step in and highlight the chance that someone might eventually feel offended?
- The Home Depot ChecksumPaint the full situation to her. Instead of just asking her to remove it, paint the picture of the situation it’s put you in with HR, and if it were to be escalated further it wouldn’t do either of you any good come raise/promotion/bonus time.
Try and become on the same side as her and either go talk to HR together about it or convince her that it’s being a team player to put it in her desk drawer or something.
- You talk to her occasionally, right? Why not tell her that you personally are fine with it but HR is on your case. If she’s a decent person she’ll understand your conundrum and help you by removing it. Seriously so much of this could be solved simply by people being direct and talking to one another.
- If you are a manager talk directly to your employee. Why you have to come and ask here?
- Unless you specify what's the items, you won't be able to get proper help, and if it's too embarrassing to say on blind, then you should definitely address it with your direct report.
- If you have raised the concern with her and she is taking a stand then the only path forward is to book a meeting with you, HR, and her so that she can explain in her own words what she's doing. Maybe she has a good reason and you are not explaining it to HR, or maybe she doesn't and needs to hear from HR that this is a serious thing.
Either way you and her into HR's office to discuss.