One of my reports has items on her desk that are considered “offensive” by HR but no one has actually complained.

New UGMc51
Jan 14 53 Comments

Edit: Item in question is a ceramic mug with realistic sculpted breasts.

Do I take action and ask her to remove said items even though no one has complained? I personally don’t find the items offensive but it might be that I’m a woman. HR is all white male.

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    • Microsoft mkay🔪
      Why would it be offensive? Unless someone has ED.
      Jan 14
  • Uber 8bithit
    Imagine if I had a mug with realistic sculpted testicles
    Jan 14 5
    • Apple Apple Park
      Testicles don’t feed babies.
      Jan 14
    • VMware BobbleHat
      They make babies, even more important
      Jan 14
    • Apple Apple Park
      You’re missing the point, BobbleHat.
      Jan 14
    • Uber 8bithit
      And imagine I only drank tea out of it and used tons of teabags get it
      Jan 14
    • VMware BobbleHat
      @apple pretty sure we got your point, not sure you got mine
      Jan 15
  • Oracle droned
    Tell HR that it’s to bring attention to breast cancer awareness and that’ll be that.
    Jan 14 4
    • Microsoft mkay🔪
      Would you have the same position regarding testicular cancer awareness? I'm not against it, just wanted to avoid double standards.
      Jan 14
    • OpenTable Meliodas
      What double standard? Men get breast cancer too.

      Testicular cancer would be equivalent to ovarian cancer.
      Jan 14
    • Microsoft mkay🔪
      I mean, would it be appropriate to have a mug with hanging testicles to raise awareness?
      Jan 14
    • OpenTable Meliodas
      In SF, yes.
      Jan 14
  • VMware BobbleHat
    As a manager it is your job to get her to remove the cup. If your employee refuses to do what you tell her, maybe it is only a small part of a bigger problem, and you need to start interviewing for a replacement ASAP.
    Jan 14 2
    • New tLFu71
      I hope you don’t have so much as a janitor that reports to you. You very clearly lack any semblance of leadership or management skills.
      Jan 14
    • VMware BobbleHat
      I am glad you don’t work for me
      Jan 15
  • OpenTable Meliodas
    What is offensive about the breasts? Context matters.
    Jan 14 2
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      That they’re breasts? Nothing more. HR deems the mug inappropriate for the workplace
      Jan 14
    • OpenTable Meliodas
      HR has that discretion.

      Likewise, someone doesn’t have to file a complaint for something to be deemed offensive.

      Employers can choose what they want in the workplace.
      Jan 14
  • OP post some pics to have more context. Asking for a friend.
    Jan 14 1
    • Microsoft maison
      Turned on by ceramic boobs?
      Jan 14
  • Oracle droned
    You gotta tell us what it is! Make it a poll?
    Jan 14 1
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      Details below 👇🏼
      Jan 14
  • Roku Mixi
    You should tell her to protect her and protect yourself
    Jan 14 0
  • Apple Apple Park
    Are they bare breasts? In a bikini? What are we talking about here?

    And if HR has a problem, why don’t they counsel the employee? Oh, that’s right - because they want you to do their dirty work. 🙄 Don’t cave - have them take care of it themselves. They’re big boys and girls...
    Jan 14 0
  • Microsoft HellaRSUs
    Does it make you want to do the needful?
    Jan 14 0
  • Zillow Group Sr. Troll
    Troll
    Jan 14 0
  • New UGMc51
    OP
    It’s a ceramic mug with realistic sculpted breasts
    Jan 14 5
    • New hdgbee7
      And why is that bothering you? Just wanna play safe as a manager?
      Jan 14
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      I’m not bothered by it at all but HR keeps bringing it up without any concrete complaints from anyone. My stance is to leave it alone but need to get HR off my back.
      Jan 14
    • New hdgbee7
      Gotcha
      Jan 14
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      In this case it’s a woman. Does that make it less offensive?
      Jan 14
    • Salesforce c21h30o2
      If HR has brought it up, shouldn't you tell her?
      Jan 14
  • Cisco @⭐️
    So you don’t find it offensive. No one else finds it offensive, but you feel you need to step in and highlight the chance that someone might eventually feel offended?
    Jan 14 4
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      HR is constantly bringing up how offensive it is and asking me to do something about it.
      Jan 14
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      I am not highlighting anything, in fact I would like for this to stop as soon as possible.
      Jan 14
    • The Home Depot Checksum
      Paint the full situation to her. Instead of just asking her to remove it, paint the picture of the situation it’s put you in with HR, and if it were to be escalated further it wouldn’t do either of you any good come raise/promotion/bonus time.

      Try and become on the same side as her and either go talk to HR together about it or convince her that it’s being a team player to put it in her desk drawer or something.
      Jan 14
    • New nfs
      If hr asked you to remove it, then she should remove it without an option to say no. If she persist, this becomes an hr compliance issue
      Jan 15
  • Amazon vmprwrkday
    You talk to her occasionally, right? Why not tell her that you personally are fine with it but HR is on your case. If she’s a decent person she’ll understand your conundrum and help you by removing it. Seriously so much of this could be solved simply by people being direct and talking to one another.
    Jan 14 2
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      I’ve done that. But this issue seems really important to her and she doesn’t want to back down.
      Jan 14
    • Amazon vmprwrkday
      So then YOU have the one complaint about it.
      Jan 14
  • If you are a manager talk directly to your employee. Why you have to come and ask here?
    Jan 14 2
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      I have. And she does not want to remove the mug. Just looking for alternate perspectives possibly from someone who has had a similar experience.
      Jan 14
    • You can tell HR about it..
      Jan 14
  • New nfs
    Unless you specify what's the items, you won't be able to get proper help, and if it's too embarrassing to say on blind, then you should definitely address it with your direct report.
    Jan 14 2
    • New UGMc51
      OP
      Details below 👇🏼
      Jan 14
    • New nfs
      Thanks OP, that's highly inappropriate for a work environment. I would say, talk to the person and ask them to remove it. Make sure you explain tge reasoning behind it.
      Jan 15
  • Amazon ytg6t
    How does HR even know about it? In reality somebody complained.
    Jan 14 1
    • Microsoft mkay🔪
      I'm sure it's postmenopausal women complaining.
      Jan 14
  • Apple AppleCar
    Send a picture
    Jan 14 0
  • Amazon ytg6t
    If you have raised the concern with her and she is taking a stand then the only path forward is to book a meeting with you, HR, and her so that she can explain in her own words what she's doing. Maybe she has a good reason and you are not explaining it to HR, or maybe she doesn't and needs to hear from HR that this is a serious thing.

    Either way you and her into HR's office to discuss.
    Jan 14 0
  • Microsoft Big Pun
    Lol what kind of sleazebag brings that to work?
    Yea tell that douche to take that shit home.
    Jan 14 0