Folks with multiple kids.. I'm wondering if having second kid increased your stress levels (personal/financial/work/ health) that made things worse for you or your spouse? My wife and I are at odds of having another one .she is not up for it as it is physically demanding and involves several personal sacrifices in future.. I would like to expand the family. I understand her perspective and have tremendous respect for what women endure for those nine months. If you were happy with first kid and eventually decided to have another.. What was the motivating factor? Did you or your wife's health become worse due to second pregnancy If you are past these phases and are in 40s/50s.. With single kid.. do you have any regrets if not having another early on?
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I have two boys and I wish I had only one.
I always wanted one before I had my first one and then I was sure that I needed a second one. A sibling is the best gift that you can give to your child. Growing up alone sucks and it's also easier for parents to have more kids so they play with each other - considering the age Gap is no more than 4 years. It did make a toll on moms body and career especially if she's close to or already above 35. Two kids are really hard - when u have 2 , you are jealous of people who have 1. But we do anything for our kids happiness
Risk of pregnancy complications increase after 35. And also the child birth recovery gets harder as the woman grow older in general
.. The kids will be 5 years apart and we will be 34.. we have some concerns about the age Gap that they won't have be as close to play together.. there are some risks but it's not unusual..have friends who have kids at 35..
It is a blessing to have second kid, you cannot imagine how much happiness it will bring in your family life.
Are u for real ?
I have 2, and fairly close in age. Itâs no cake walk managing two little ppl. They come with a lot of work, emotional and financial stress along with the sleepless nights. I always tell folks itâs not 2X amount of work but more like 4X. Having said that I thank God we decided to have a second one, the joy of seeing how inseparable they are and knowing that they will have each other when I am no longer here makes me think we made the right choice. Itâs not for everyone though and I agree with WD above that you sometimes feel life would have been simpler with one. But we donât always make choices with our brain.
I agree..I feel the work is not any less as kids will be already apart by 5 yrs . It's almost like staring new.. if it's emotional I want another but if I use any sense if logic it doesn' make sense.. is a great Conflict of the thought
First kid is for yourself. Next kid so the first kid wonât be alone after you are gone. Have that second kid, hire plenty of help during first five years to make it less hard on both of you.
Man, that is such a depressing read.
We have two kids 5 years apart. The oldest is 6 and plays video-games all weekend. The one year old is a handful and yes there are days when I think what the hell did we do to ourselves, but than our oldest will say he is very happy to have a brother and plays with him while I take a shower etc.... So there are days I love having two kids and there are days I want to run away.
I have three spaced at 1, 6 and 10. Wide spacing has been a godsend. The older two adore their baby sister. And they each have activities to do by themselves as well as games to play together. Overall life got better after the third kiddo. It pushed the older one to be more independent, the middle one to be a good example, and the youngest gets all the attention. Only caution: when you have 3 kids itâs nice having a 3rd adult around. When kids outnumber adults you may have a situation where at least one kid is causing mayhem you canât see.
Keep in mind, It's not only those 9 months that they endure. There's a whole new life you have to take care of...
Usually, 2 people take care of the new life. Not only the mother
Sure 2 people take care of new life. So both should agree. If she is not ready for that kind of commitment, then she should not be forced into it. She is not ready to do the 50% of effort and sacrifices that are required for raising a second kid.