I posted on a different relationships thread about my open relationship and got a few dms about it. So I figured I'd try to answer in a way that may be useful also for others who may be curious. My gf and I are in an open relationship. We also have other partners we play with, solo or together. We are exclusive wrt unprotected sex. Most recently, we ve been exploring power Dynamics in the bedrooms. We do not engage in relationships with coworkers. There's nothing exceptional physically about either of us, we blend right into the tech crowds, generally. We re also v high on empathy and very low on judgement. Anything else you want to know, ask away. Oh, because blind: combined tc 800k, combined yoe: 18 Edit: today's a vacation day for me, so I'll gladly answer qns through the day, except when I have to drive. Edit 2: guys, please skip the various requests over dm. While we enjoy sex and the various novel styles and group organization schemes, we are slow to add new partners.
I have day off too :-) How you handled the jealousy aspect when you shared her first time ? you guys looking for another attractive couple ? Or Mfm scenario. Disclaimer: I have been in open relationship but with my FWB never with a long term partner and curious about it.
Well, I was an Fwb when our relationship started, so the setting was ill suited for jealousy. However, the first time both of us were part of a group together, I was struck by her openness and honesty. She also introduced me to some others who were Fwb s with me, so that definitely helped early on. Over time, though, my time with her has helped me understand so much about myself that I owe her a lot for it. And for all the pleasure!! We look for others all the time, casually. We do not engage in relations with current coworkers though (reporting chain or not). I'm not sure if you were asking for yourself, but if not, yes, we're def up for group play.
Thanks for the details.
Have you thought about kids and/or marriage? Does having an open relationship hinder that?
We've discussed those briefly, but at this time, our parental instincts are not terribly strong, so thats been left for later. We do no anticipate being married in the conventional sense. An open marriage could be a consideration at some point especially if we wanted a kid together. Or, of we wanted to settle into a more traditional relationship, fully exclusively. Too early to know, ask in 2 years? :-)
How long have you two been together? Do you live together? And plan on joining finances or purchasing property jointly?
We've been Fwb for about 6 years now. We've been "exclusive" ( in the sense mentioned in the post) for 3.5 or so years now. We currently live together, because our workplaces are in the same area, but we ve also done primary place and shack to sleep in during the week when work was further apart. No joint finances, no joint property, no plans to ever do so.
hmu if u want to include me in mfm fun...
bro this is the definition of being a cuck, your gal is on full hypergamic spree and you're just gonna get hurt on the long run. cut the cord till you're still relatively unscathed.
I appreciate the thought. We feel comfortable and happy so far.
godspeed anon
How are you dealing with the risk of HSV, which is readily transmittable even with condoms?
What sites you tend use to find partners
Is this common in the Google culture? Or are they more conservative usually?
This post is entirely personal and has no connection to Google or it's culture whatsoever. My gf and I met while I was a visiting researcher in Europe during grad school.
Gotcha, thought it was related to your work since this is on blind.
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How did you first talk about the topic of open relationships with your partner?
She brought it up after we d been together twice. She mentioned that she enjoyed her sexual freedom, but that she would like to continue seeing me, and felt that it was right to have a more open discussion about whether that was something I'd want to be a part of. I had my fears at the time, but she was very patient with everything and incredibly empathetic. Of course, we weren't together in the same way as we are now. The current relationship developed over many years.