My wife recently told me she doesn't like paying for things because she wants to save and it is my duty as the guy to pay for everything. Normally we are used to doing 65-35 split with me paying the larger share. She is employed as well. Dear Male blinders, if you are voting then please be honest with what your SO lady actually does month to month and not what you would want to see them do. If you are a SINGLE male please do NOT vote and skew the numbers. Thanks! Update 1: For all of you suggesting I should leave her/ get a divorce, I love her. I don't want our marriage to end because of finances.
What does it even mean? You do not have to split anything, you have common pool of money.
Well yeah, but I make twice as her and I don't mind paying the larger share. She does more domestic work around the house than I do. So I guess it's fair I pay more. I just didn't know what to tell her when she said it is my duty to pay 100%
Why is that your "duty" to pay when she is earning too. There are two potential reasons a.she is from non-working mother household where men pays for everything b. She is trying to oversmart you up. In any case this can be and should be corrected as it is unfair for men to pay for everything when his spouse is working too..you have to do some real hard ass drama to make this work like really leave your job or move out of home or country or may be buy some investment in joint name where she is forced to pay...it will take a toll on you but these women doesn't get it any other way...divorce will screw you up more so better play within the limits.
BTW you will probably see the poll skew towards “Men should pay everything” as there are a lot of very traditional Indian folks here. It is very common for them to be in an arranged marriage with a non workin spouse (due to issues like visa) so they pay for everything.
I don't think the Indian folks on Blind are as traditional as you think.
You're being reasonable with the 65:35 split. You'll need to stand up to her, otherwise you might end up resenting her later on.
Wow, you people are messed up. If you are married the only way to do things that won't end in divorce is to pool everything and stop thinking of it as mine and his/hers. It's ours. We save and we pay the bills and we each have an equal amount of money each month we can spend on what ever we want no judgement and no questions. Stop planning for divorce and you won't be as likely to have a divorce.
Why do women get away with saying shit like that when it convenient for them?
No popcorn option calls for random voting
Dude keep spending and divorce her later and then take half of her savings. Resist having a kid, leave your job for a month and all the judge will look at is who has a bigger pot when making decision.
Could you all please edit your comments to let everyone know if you are a man/woman. Hard to get relatable context otherwise. Thanks!
Let me guess, arranged marriage?
Sadly, yes
Um. I am the primary wage earner (woman) with an employed spouse so.... there's no option in this crappy, sexist poll for women who pay more...
There is the last option
I am the primary wage earner (man) and my wife is the primary spender—but that doesn’t matter to us. We are both careful with our resources and that’s all that matters. She stays at home with our kids; I think she has the harder job too. What matters most is respect between spouses. If one of you doesn’t respect the other, divorce is the only option.