Parable and Lessons

New kadaph
Oct 3 12 Comments

https://theunboundedspirit.com/the-lessons-of-a-bird-a-short-story/

Manager gave this to me after we spoke about me being harassed by a male team member (I have not filed any official report, but it was noticed by him and others and thus, a conversation was necessary).

Some lessons, and maybe insight into the manager’s thought process:

Being a woman in tech == being a nonconforming sparrow.
Harassment situation is warm manure that I should be happy to be in.
The harasser is not my enemy and the manure is supposed to make me warm and happy and able to breathe? Like it is protecting me in some way that I’m not aware of.
The manager might get me out of this shit but he’s not my friend. (This is actually a real lesson).
If you’re warm and happy in a pile of shit, keep your mouth shut. (if being in this situation made me warm and happy, I suppose I would’ve rejected having the conversation, i.e. kept my mouth shut).

I genuinely think he was trying to be helpful...

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TOP 12 Comments
  • Pure Storage nOgG56
    Any of them Indian?
    Oct 3 2
    • New kadaph
      OP
      No
      Oct 3
    • Riverbed Technology dagdaubab
      Your racist a** can now cool down
      Oct 3
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    1. Your manager is fucked in the head.
    2. You should file a complaint, log every incident.
    3. Remember that HR is not there to protect you, but the company. As a result, you should try to find other opportunities outside as well.
    Oct 3 0
  • Tektronix BazzokaGrl
    Your manager gave you a parable about being happy putting up with other people's sh*t?!? That is an absolute load of BS. I would be so angry.
    Oct 3 0
  • Pure Storage nOgG56
    Anyhow, I would talk to a lawyer before coming to HR to raise this. Retaliation is real, and the companies have lawyers to deal with the aftermath.
    Oct 3 0
  • Facebook SuFC36
    Need a referral?
    Oct 3 2
    • New kadaph
      OP
      Yes, please! 🙏 I would be eternally grateful
      Oct 3
    • Facebook SuFC36
      Please dm me your email. Not sure how effective my referral would be. But you need to get out of this shit
      Oct 3
  • Masimo str
    1. Report
    2.GTFO
    3. Bonus: tell this story to HR(manager)

    Out of curiosity: Do you agree that you are nonconforming?
    Oct 3 1
    • New kadaph
      OP
      No, not nonconforming at all. Ivy League, worked in tech for a few years. I think my teenage self would call me a square.

      Being female is the way I don’t conform to the group that the guy does not harass (the male team members).
      Oct 3
  • Amazon mmmehhhh
    In my 15 years as a tech worker I’ve seen harassment as a female but never like this. That’s some grade A bullshit. Leave while they are still hiring developers for breathing.
    Oct 3 0

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