Do you always split the bill on dates? I am a woman and always share the expenses, but this one was a different experience. Met a guy recently 3 times. First meet, we both shared the expenses. Second time when the bill arrived, he behaved as if he did not notice it, but then when I placed the card, he said he could have paid it. Told him he can pay for dinner since we had plans of having dinner together. He skipped having dinner with me. Third time he chosed a fancy and expensive fast food place, when our turn came to place the order, he sneaked out making an excuse to get something from the car, asked me to place the order and then came back once everything was done and I was done paying for us. I would have shared the expenses this time around too, but him leaving the place felt a bit weird to me.
Yeah he is cheap but wants nice things. He is also slippery.
Yeah, sounds like a cheapass. I don't think men always have to pay or that it always has be an even split, but this seems just disingenuous to me. If he doesn't want to pay, don't weasel out of it. Man up and own it.
Agree with Amazon, sounds like a very rude guy, surprised you aren't rid of him yet. In the words of the brown, it's time to "do the needful"
“asked me to place the order and then came back once everything was done and I was done paying for us.” Was he gone the whole dinner?
Get rid of him like a plague
Run
that is ridiculous. you should already know what you should do next
This
He’s cheap. I’ll let you figure who’s being cheap in most other dates
I am always curious why people do that to themselves. How come 3 dates into seeing the guy you are still afraid to tell to split? You are that into him or what? Sounds you don’t feel too confident
It’s not about confidence. I have never came across anything like this before and I was completely blank for a moment. It’s usually where guys pay and I offer to split or if any guy says he will pay the complete bill, then I tell him that I will pay the next bill.
Understood it might have caught you off guard. I’d restrain from saying that you gonna pay for the next bill as it implies you want to meet again and ultimately decreases your attractiveness (which is a different story). Over all just be straight forward and tell them to split at least. Especially if you see them doing some shady stuff like disappearing just to make you pay. All of above talks about first few dates and later on the dynamics change ofc.
He probably just broke. Isn't being broke an option?
Too broke to pay but not broke enough to make someone else pay, repeatedly, in an expensive restaurant HE chooses? Give me a break (no pun intended)!
If he's so broke he can't pay for dinner, either own up to it or stop going out on dinner dates. Pick something cheaper, don't be slimy and wriggle your way into free food.
It's on purpose and Venmo is invented. Girl why are you paying when women do 75% of the world's unpaid work already and a husband creates 7 hours of housework per WEEK for a woman.
If you think men must always pay on dates, you’re cheaper than the person OP described
Capone's idea of equality is BS. That being said it is better for a man to pay at least on first date. Still I wouldn't go on a third date with a woman who doesn't offer to pay or at least split.