Personal Time management
How do u working couples manage time to keep the relationship alive? With a demanding child, house chores and office work we barely find time to speak to each other. It has already taken a toll on the relationship and looking for ways to revive. We don’t spend time on Netflix/social media or working from home either. She leaves early and I return late to manage child’s school hours, that leaves us with very lil time together.
Set aside a dedicated date night at a minimum once a month, but preferably once a week. Get a sitter so you can go out relax and enjoy each other's company.
I outsource everything, including cooking and cleaning. I also have several babysitters that I use whenever we need time away.
Be sure to set aside time for yourself and your spouse. Not easy. Tech life sucks esp. when both are working in Bay Area and raising family.
What is the point of having kids if you don't have time to pursue personal interests?!
Most helpful comment right here ^^^
Figure out what can be dropped. Right now it’s your relationship, which bodes poorly for the future. See if you can wake up early and have family breakfast; or go out on Saturday night and have someone watch the kids. It’s a necessity to have time with your spouse or you’ll grow apart. Think of it as an investment in your marriage.
Read about four burner theory. It addresses the exact same problem.
We f*cking don't manage it. Hope you figure it out better than us. If I hear one more disappointed sigh from my husband for being too tired to want sex...
Here’s what worked for us: whoever is the more tired spouse just has to be willing, and the initiating spouse has to do “more of the work”. Almost every time, the tired spouse gets really into it after about 10 minutes. This was a total game changer for us and defeated a multi-year drought.
It doesn’t work
You can't do it all. Take help for chores from outside,this is the only way. Also make sure in your family time you're not doing office work. Use machines or outside help for major chores. Keep yourself for you n your family.