What would make a power harassment case at your company? I had a shitty manager who blamed everything on me for the things that he should have been responsible for. I talked to HR and they told me that there are three conditions that need to be met for a power harassment case: 1) The abuser exploited his power or position. 2) The abuser's actions were beyond common sense (illegal actions, violent language, etc.). 3) Mentally or physically the victim got hurt. I asked HR if bringing in diagnosis from a doctor would prove the condition #3, and they said "mental tolerance differs from person to person" and "diagnosis might include your damage from private life." Is this a normal attitude as HR? I wonder how things would go differently at other companies.
You can always work elsewhere, or switch teams.
Yeah thinking about it.
Sorry for your experience, but truth be told, the HR’s job is to protect the company, not you, even if it comes across as otherwise. Swallow the bitter pill till you find another job. You can’t do this any sooner.
So is this universal? Wtf HR
At least in the States it’s universal. HR and PR are both equally worthless but both serve to protect the company.
You’ll never getting anywhere speaking to HR.
What would you do?
You can try talking to boss’ boss if you have that relationship but express it as concerns using facts, don’t attack your boss. You can try switching teams by applying or an opening on another team. You can go to another company... this is probably the easiest. Lastly if you like the company, don’t want to leave, and are out of options... you could confront your boss about it directly but don’t be mean, nasty, or angry. Try to have a conversation like two adults. Something like “I don’t understand what I’ve done wrong to warrant this treatment. I don’t enjoy coming to work on a daily basis knowing I’ll face this situation day in and day out. I love this company and the nature of my job but at times I find it really difficult due to what seems like a very strained working relationship between us.” ...just two humans having a rational chat which can be disarming unless the boss is a total psychopath. Could also think of it as a significant other that’s had their feelings hurt and is inquiring why they’re being treated this way. It can work surprisingly well but again, assumes the boss isn’t a psycho. No matter what you decide don’t take actions immediately after an encounter. It’s best if both people have cooled down and emotions are removed from the situation prior to the conversation.
How are we supposed to know whether your manager is right, you're a poor performer, and you just refuse to see it? Throwing good employees under the bus is not good career fodder for managers.
My actions were with his consent. He had no management experience before so I assume he simply didn't know how to manage people or what kind of responsibility he would have.
If I ask my manager if I can do a stupid thing, and they say yes, it's because they trust me to know what I'm doing. Some (maybe most) of the responsibility is still on you for doing a dumb thing even if they said ok. Especially if you didn't communicate the risks.
Indeeds HR is a joke, they are there to protect the company and the management, switch teams asap. The hiring freeze is over
Is our HR worse than other companies?
Not sure about other companies, but nothing here is private . You go to HR and your manager and his manager know about it almost instantaneously. HR also spills all the info from your meeting to the management. This has been my experience
Go to the Compliance Officer if you have one. Better than HR in these cases
I don't think we have one... I reached out to ethics hotline and HR responded
HR probably has notified your boss. I would be prepared for the worst case and start switching teams or interviewing immediately.
I didn't do anything wrong and I have facts. I'm preparing intervewing tho.
Take this as a lesson to get everything in writing. If you’re asking for consent or agreement do it in an email not just a conversation. If you get it verbally, say you’ll follow up with an email. If you had evidence of your manager’s agreement you wouldn’t be stuck where you are. Better luck in the future
Thanks. Yeah I started to record everything in case people betray me.
The dice is so loaded against you, OP. Sorry. I have experienced it. The sooner you take care of yourself the better. Leave. You do not seem to have evidence that will work for you. The 3 criteria are practically impossible to meet. Unless you have a case where you can sue, you're gonna lose. Follow rbag32's advice for documenting all your decisions and actions in the future.
I'm sorry for your case. Thanks, will keep in mind.
Nobody can answer this without more details. It has to be provable or you have nothing.
I would be identified so I'm afraid I can't disclose the details. But basically I was blamed for the things I got permission from him. I thought my actions would be fine because I raised my concerns before I actually took my actions in interest. He flipped his attitude in the evaluation period and I was surprised. He told me that it was my responsibility while it was surely not. He also put wrong exaggerated numbers in my evaluation slide to emphasize the negative side of my work items.