I’m a 27-yr-old female TC 300k My college sweetheart is asking me to sign a prenups. He is jobless now but has assets of around 10M. We have been together for over 7 years. I feel humiliated. Should I sign it, or break up with him?
What assets do you have. What's your net worth.
A house with mortgage in the bay. Net worth is definitely significantly less than his.
Food for thought. His assets are not joint property so in a divorce you are not entitled to them. Same with your house. All of your salary and any money made during marriage would be subject to 50/50 split in a divorce. Curious if you have talked to a lawyer? You probably dont even need a prenup.
Would you want him to sign if the roles were reversed?
I don’t really care honestly. Because when we dated, he seemed like a poor student just like I was. I didn’t even know he has that much of asset until I see the prenups.
You don’t care? That’s a lie. You posting here proves you care. I think what you meant is “I don’t understand him”, which is probably your fault — so go fix it, by talking this all through with him. Instead of sitting around here sifting through to comments looking for emotional nuggets to glom onto, used as unsatisfying surrogates for actual emotional connection and empathy, which you and your partner clearly lack. You should be able to justify your own feelings in this matter, and it’s really just lazy of you to come in here looking for sympathy.
Sorry to hear this. I think u should sign. Also what’s ur job title? He might be scared that ur marrying him for his money... if u want to u must chat with him about that. And if he persists move on
I’m not an engineer but still a technical role.
Breakup and find a real sugar daddy worth 20M
Sugar daddy is 100M+, 20M is just a sugar uncle.
Uncle PeepsALot has arrived 👀
How does he have that much?
Trust fund
If he has a trust fund, push back a little. Trusts are for the benefit of X and are a separate legal entity. You should be entitled to assets obtained during the marriage but not those acquired before (trust is separate). My wife and I had this conversation recently—not about our marriage but if one of us dies unexpectedly—we put our assets into a trust to protect the surviving spouse from a potentially predatory partner. And, if he is wealthy and seems like “a regular guy” that’s really great actually. Wealth changes most people but not him. That might make him a keeper.
What happens if you refuse? I don't think it's something worth feeling humiliated over though. Your solid career seems as though you should have no worry about signing it though, for in case things don't work out between you two
I feel humiliated because he couldn’t even trust our relationship after so many years. I never really knew he’s kind of rich till I saw the prenups recently. Also I’m the one who put more money in the relationship.
There's no predicting the future. What he is doing is just being smart.
That’s cold. You’d think after 7 years, he’d have a certain level of trust... What are his attitudes about marriage or family background?
On point! Thanks for feeling me. He takes marriage pretty serious.
It might be that he can’t get access to his trust fund unless you sign a pre-nup, but he should share any concerns with you and make you feel included in the convo. I come from a collectivist society where sharing = caring, so I would be a tad insulted as well!
If he has assets of 10M and you have a TC of 300k what is wrong with signing a prenup? Unless you helped him acquire those assets you should not be entitled to any of it just like he shouldn’t be entitled to any of your compensation. 😉
Why do you feel humiliated? Why do you feel entitled to half of his assets in the event of a divorce? Divorces are very common, he’s justified in his reasoning. Prenup doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be thrown out to the wolves either, you guys can work something out that is reasonable and fair in your view.
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Sign it, us guys can’t trust women now a days