Privacy in a relationship

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Jun 11 28 Comments

Does your gf/bf check your phone?

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TOP 28 Comments
  • Facebook ⭕w⭕
    Yeah, which is why I have 2 phones (one for wife, one for gf).
    Jun 11 1
    • Intel GWGA84
      Yeah, which is why I have 2 phones (one for gf, one for bf). This is the correct answer.
      Jun 12
  • Oracle mr robato
    No, but neither of us really care if the other did
    Jun 11 1
  • UnitedHealthcare / IT 6f5ff9
    My fiancée uses my phone to run two Pokémon Go accounts and trade between them. As long as I have my phone when I need to go to the bathroom, I couldn’t care less.
    Jun 12 0
  • Amazon ChivalryAF
    Luckily I have an app that shows a game icon that hides all my side chick’s pictures and messages. 😉
    Jun 11 0
  • Amazon Bill.
    No, that is lack of trust.
    There is no reason to "check".
    Also, nothing good could come out of it 😉
    Jun 11 0
  • Amazon 🛶 Canoe
    Yes. Random audit in few years
    Jun 11 0
  • New / Product EFca40
    OP
    She checks from time to time with all the messages and asking questions about people and interactions. Very unpleasant conversation when you feel controlled and then any time you chat with someone you already know that the message will be checked. I’m happy for you guys, who don’t have this problem. I don’t know how to fix this..
    Jun 12 3
    • Amazon Bill.
      Does she know your password or does she grab the phone while you are using it?
      Why would it be ok to feel controlled? If you are ok with this, then it may not be limited to the phobe and she would also be controlling in other areas of the relationship.
      Jun 12
    • New / Product EFca40
      OP
      She doesn’t look at it behind my back (I believe). It’s not ok, just wanted to see if someone had fixed similar problem.
      Jun 12
    • AMD
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      PCIemore
      It’s a bad start and will only get worse. Time to move on to someone else who trusts you. The fact that she thinks it’s OK to do, is worse, than if she did it behind your back. (I almost feel it’s better if she hides it, because at least she knows that it’s wrong.)
      Jun 14
  • Wayfair / Eng leadingthe
    No and anyone who does is trying to exert a really toxic and abusive level of control. Run away...
    Jun 12 0
  • Microsoft kcif
    Do you check hers as well?
    Jun 12 2
    • New / Product EFca40
      OP
      No
      Jun 13
    • Microsoft kcif
      Starting doing the same, so maybe she feels how embarrassing it is 😂
      Jun 13
  • Amazon amaholic
    Ignorance is bliss
    Jun 12 1
  • AMD
    PCIe

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    PCIemore
    No, it’s always locked! It would be creepy if he checked!
    Jun 14 0
  • Amazon stsp
    No
    Jun 11 0
  • Inc. Magazine
    journo

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    journomore
    OP, when did she start doing it?

    I've only heard of couples checking messages after one of them cheats or are suspected of cheating. Could be that it has nothing to do with you and that she has dealt with cheating before and now she sees it everywhere. It's very toxic. If you can't trust your partner you shouldn't be together. Has she told you why she wants to do this?
    Jun 13 4
    • New / Product EFca40
      OP
      Yeah, over 3 years ago I’ve met an old friend (girl) for coffee and didn’t tell her. That was defined as cheating, and even after 3 years the trust has not been rebuilt.
      Jun 14
    • Inc. Magazine
      journo

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      journomore
      Have you talked about it with her?
      Jun 14
    • New / Product EFca40
      OP
      Too many times. It boils down to her speech like “I’m a jealous person and you should accept that”. Funny thing that she is Brazilian and my friend has the same issue with his Brazilian gf...maybe it’s a cultural thing🤔
      Jun 15
    • Inc. Magazine
      journo

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      journomore
      Could be, but it's not healthy behavior.
      Jun 15
  • Epic / R&D
    GipsyDangr

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    GipsyDangrmore
    Me and my wife don't have that much of a private life to worry about the other reading any specific message. We look at each other's phones almost every day to gossip on different things that happened over the day..
    Jun 13 0
  • They won’t but once they check and found something unusual you are done.😂
    Jun 12 0
  • Verizon / Eng ComTruis3
    No
    Jun 11 0