My wife, just out of grad school, made a job with Google. When she asked the recruiter for a joining date 2 months out, she was told that's too long (apparently via the manager input) and that one month was ok. Her manager, however, in a different conversation asked if she needed more time and she should take her time etc. She's scheduled to have a chat with her manager about his expectations and put this dilemma out in the open, but in the meantime does the mighty blind have any wisdom to offer? We have two kids and she's been away from them for some time. Now she wants to spend some time with them before starting work, hence the extra time.
She should spend as much time as she needs, worst case you find a new team and move on.
Join and take some time off -- paid or unpaid. Most managers should be fine with that. You'd still get some of the benefits.
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I think she should have communicated BEFORE accepting the offer. She is being hired to do some work. The company already waited for her to graduate. Now you want another 2 months. Think if you are a manager than would you wait? If kids are that important she can always sit at home.
Thanks for the advice Hotblonde. I presume you are not a mom.
Life happens. Things are never that clear cut. For example, the candidate may have expected that the job hunt would have taken longer.
Make a written request to recruiter and hiring manager. More likely than not, Google will be fine with delayed joining.
What’s the longest you think they’d be okay with delaying it? 6 months? That’d be similar to the case of someone joining after interning.
Spending time with kids is fine, but what I don’t understand is why do you need two months to spend with kids? Remember she should still be able to see the kids every night and weekends. One month to me sounds a bit too long. I would say 2-3 weeks is about right.
It's a very personal choice, we are that sort of a family. I once took at unpaid sabbatical from Yahoo and spent 2 months at home with my kids. They are young and won't be running around us for too long, so we are trying to enjoy it while it lasts.
Right, you can do that every weekend if you want. Anyways just my personal opinion.
There is no such thing like too much time with your kids. If you think that "2-3 weeks sounds about right" all I can say is that looks like a shitty approach to parenting.
Recruiter gave general info. If manager is ok, talk to HR. They’ll make it happen. Do explain them the situation tho