Will you marry a divorced girl or guy (no kids) , irrespective of your own status (no kids) - Single, widowed, divorced, separated ?
Outside of SF, there are a lot more unmarried Indian girls than guys.
Whr is that bro? I’m single male
Pretty much rest of USA. SF is like engineering school, the ratio is skewed. It’s Pretty simple, out of every 10 men and women, 3 are above average, 5 are average and 2 are below average. All 10 Indian girls want to marry the 3 above average guys. They are also competing with white girls who are done playing the field and want to settle down. The Indian men who can’t find a girl here, get one from India. By the time Indian girls accept reality and move down the averages ladder, it is too late and competitive. They stay unmarried.
We Indians are biggest hypocrites .. ppl who voted yes, even they don’t wanna date/marry a divorcee/widow if they are single.
Hippocrates?
This poll tells me how fucked up the Indian culture is. But I have hope enlightenment will do its course.
How?
You see with technology and increased access to books enlightenment starts. It is also dependent on the financial well being of a society. India’s GDP is increasing and this leaves people with more time to learn rather than survive. This happened 200 years ago in Europe. 50 years ago in some Asian countries. 10 years ago in China. India is next.
So glad I am white and am not attracted to Indian men!
I'm so glad I don't have to deal with entitled white racism in my country. Back there it's the parents and brothers and sisters and relatives that are biased/racist on your behalf. But men and women, in most dating pools, are largely open minded.
Self reflection is a good start for the community. It is too big and diverse to make generalizations.
Everything can be used to boost confirmation bias.
Divorce is viewed in bad light in Indian culture, IMHO for me atleast it is hard to change that and think that it's normal and totally OK. I didn't knew about the concept of divorce until I was an adult, even the Bollywood movies back then didn't showed divorce, some movies I remember have couple living separate but not divorced, but again I didn't saw a lot of movies. So for me and perhaps others it is this idea in head that if someone is divorced then maybe they are not adjusting, etc, which is wrong and I guess I need to change.
Lot of Indians on Blind hate me because I post unflattering things about Indian culture, that too as an Indian myself. This thread is just proof how backward Indian culture is compared to the West. Things that were normalized in America in the 1960s like marriage after divorce and inter-racial marriages are still abnormal in India. The culture is so primitive!! So all you Indian patriots, shut the f*** up and stop telling the word how great India's culture is. It is just a primitive culture that is so many decades behind the US!
You don't really need to swear to convey your idea. Divorce is not necessarily a good thing, think what impact it has on kids. But I agree if there is no compatibility in the marriage no point in continuing the relationship. I think in western culture own happiness comes first whereas in Indian culture family comes first, so divorce is looked in a bad way.
Swearing is justified --I've repeatedly seen this behavior among Indians where anyone who says anything critical of the so called great culture is lambasted. Neither you nor your family is benefitted by staying in an incompatible marriage. It is a stigma in Indian culture because Indian "culture" is superficial.
For all those of you who voted "No.... Indian stigma" I understand if you personally don't want to marry a divorce (difficult to look behind or whatever reason), but if you only don't want to marry for the social stigma, don't you feel like a coward? Not judging you, but genuinely curious don't you feel sad/ashamed that you are bending to society's pressure instead of being bold and defying social norms?
Can you go naked on a social nudity walk? Everyone have there own definition of boldness, etc, etc. P.S I didn't selected that option
Yes, but it is an 1) extreme example 2) I can't argue for a good reason to go why I would want to go on a nudity walk. But If I wanted to and I don't because of social stigma, I'd be ashamed of myself for being a coward.
Guy or girl makes a ton of difference here in the US. I'd imagine guys are screwed but the women still have a ton of options because of the skewed sex ratio?
You need to step outside western WA. It's surprising just how many men are in large west coast cities compared to east coast
Lol pretty sure it goes the other way