We want to move back to India. Our green card has not arrived yet. So chances of coming back are pretty slim. Wanted to know what is the experience of raising kids in India vs USA
Raise your kids where you are. Not in which country. Don’t be a stranger to your own kids
One of those things that sound good, but ain’t very practical. We raise our own kids but they spend a great deal of the most influenceable years of their life outside the home. There’s a huge difference between how’s kids are raised in India compared to the US. Not to say one is better and the other is not, but it is often a huge decision milestone with any Indian family that settles in the US and has kids.
What do think are pros and cons?
Can you be more specific about what concerns you have?
Dude they will turn out fine as long as u know how to raise them. Place hardly matters.
What I meant was both working parents .. what experience do folks have about raising in India vs here in terms of work load
Done both. Same Kid. She picked up different things in India: Fitting into large classes and standing out, not feeling entitled, our language, bond with extended family, culture, etc. In US, she is picking up different skills: soft skills, discipline, independence, etc. In terms of workload, it is way easier in India given the support system you have. It is a very hard life here!
Raise in India
Why do you say that? Could you elaborate?
Closer to culture/better family circle/grandparents/ sense of belonging and merging in.
Both places are equally good so q is how do you want them to be raised??
I wouldn’t want to raise a daughter in India. Recently had some friends share their experiences growing up there and it’s depressing
Why wouldn't you want your daughter in India. We have a daughter and only child. Would love to hear your thoughts
Well, from what they mentioned they got harassed and manhandled pretty much from grade school until moving to the states. Evidently they just don’t talk about it. Getting groped on the bus is a daily thing, getting a cab is scary because you will harassed and possibly raped , walking the streets late in the evening is scary because of idiots roaming the streets that gang up and harass women. Its hard to live in a country where the simplest things like going to the bathroom in school or taking the buss turn into a humiliating experience. I can add to that I see very clearly how my teammates in India treat our female testers and tpms and honestly, it’s disgusting. I come from a country where things aren’t to that level but still are pretty shitty, I have personally experienced all those things and no way I would want to bring up a daughter in that environment and definitely don’t want to bring up a son in a place where the environment punishes men for being considerate towards women.
Why?
India... If you have your parents with you. I see that as a huge plus point when both parents are working.
Look in the mirror, there is someone who was raised in India. How did that turn out?
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Well said, bystander!