I dated a girl for about 5-6 months recently, but didn't take it very seriously (I.e. she wanted to put a title on things, I deferred) -not sure why but I really regret it now since she eventually ended things because she wasn't happy with the amount of effort I was putting in. She was totally justified in doing so. However, I now regret it because she was pretty much the full package and I took her for granted. It's been about 2 months - I tried simply texting her to get drinks but she ignored it. (Ladies in particular, would love your opinion) - was thinking of sending her this text as one more try- bad idea? I figure there's nothing to lose but would this even go over better than asking for drinks or just come off as desperate? I haven't sent her anything outside of asking for drinks. "Hi name, totally get that you're probably past all this and I never do this but thought I'd shoot one more text your way - I've done a lot of self reflection over the past couple months and the tldr is that wish I had taken things more seriously because things definitely could've gone farther. Would love to talk, but if you're not interested, or don't respond I promise I won't bug you again and best of luck. :)"
Remove the last line . And just say I want to invite you for a dinner(pick a place she likes).
Propose her to marry. That's what she probably want and do it before she finds someone else. If you are not ready to marry, move on, enjoy benefits of being single.
What happened in the period of two months that made you change your mind? Would you still feel the same way if you were seeing other girls right now? Also this might not be the best forum to get advice since random ppl online will never know full context of your relationship.
I am seeing other girls right now. That's what made me change my mind. I realized how much we have in common and how good I had it with her
Say that. “Hey since we ended things I’ve been seeing other girls and it made me realize how bland they are compared to our time together. I think I fucked up not taking it seriously. Dinner Friday?” Or some shit like that.
It's worth trying because if you don't at least try, there's no chance of anything changing. The important thing is you plan to be straightforward with your intentions and your thoughts. She may have blown you off before because she likely had no reason to think you're up to anything else besides wasting her time. Go for it and good luck. You could also try calling and then sending the text about why you called if she doesn't pick up. But that's just my personal preference. I know I'm more inclined to respond to people who call me for something since it was important enough to them to call.
Sounds like you blew it download tinder and move on
Stop suffering from OneItis like a Beta Male. Date several but effectively go MGTOW unless you really really want a family. Put all your money in a blind trust before you marry.
Know lots of couples who couldn't stand being away after breaking up. If you really feel like nothing to lose, pull out all the stops, not just a text for drinks. Or at least a more genuine text.
I don't understand why people think it's over. Seems cynical to me. Why not be more forgiving to one another and give second chances?
Dude here. Sounds thirsty and likely to be ignored. As creepy as it may sound, if you have the opportunity to confront her in person, I think that'd be a better way.
Hmm you think so? What's thirsty about it?
I figured my initial drinks text was the thirsty one. And agreed in person is better but very much left to chance. Not about to stake out her apartment.