Rejected by crush doubting if I will ever find the one

New blindds
Jan 7 24 Comments

I asked out a woman who I had crush on she said no. I am feeling low for past couple of weeks and don't know if I will ever meet the one considering the demographics of Bay area.

I want to increase my social circle so I can meet a woman. Where do I start?

If you are a woman can we have each other shoulder to cry on?

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TOP 24 Comments
  • Amazon / Eng
    Lower your bar
    Jan 7 5
    • New blindds
      OP
      The bar will exist if I meet women.
      Jan 7
    • Microsoft naaam
      I think he meant that you've to further lower it... Be ok with men 🤣🤣
      Jan 7
    • Jan 7
    • New / HR
      andrewsauc

      New HR

      BIO
      Tech recruiter @indeed
      andrewsaucmore
      I know you’re joking so I must add, Amazon hiring principles do not apply here. It’s impossible to find a “bar raiser” in the Bay Area. And OP doesn’t have any current “engineers” to ask “is this person better than 50% of current?” Sadly, the only thing where the Bay dating and Amazon have in common is no work life balance, and it’s always day one. But that equity though, amirite?
      Jan 7
    • New blindds
      OP
      Spot on reply andrew. HR is there to protect.
      Jan 8
  • Microsoft / Eng
    MP3

    Microsoft Eng

    BIO
    Troll living under the I-5 overpass
    MP3more
    I can tell from your post that you have no game whatsoever. A shoulder to try on, really? And then you wonder your crush rejects you? Please.

    There are a ton of tourists coming to SF every single day and tourists love to fool around. Meet them in person at touristy spots. Game is much easier, shooting fish in a barrel. No bueno with one girl, walk 10 feet and there is another. Start with that.

    www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill Begin with top posts of all time, read the side bar.
    Jan 7 0
  • Soothe hahawtf
    Make friends with coworkers who are the social type. Have respect for non-tech workers
    Jan 7 2
    • Soothe hahawtf
      Expanding on this: your new friends and new coworkers will help you with meeting new people.
      Jan 7
    • New blindds
      OP
      Everyone is married in the team. Time to change jobs.
      Jan 7
  • Amazon 1700zulu
    OP at least you tried. You won’t ever lament “why didn’t I ask that girl out when I had the chance?” Now you have closure and can move on and find someone else who will hopefully accept you.

    Honestly the trick is dating a lot. Don’t be too choosy to start and just practice. If you wait to ask out your dream girl and you haven’t dated much before you could fuck it up. You will also get a good feeling for what you *do* want in a woman so when you recognize her you will make all the right moves.

    You wouldn’t interview for your dream job right off the bat would you? No! You would practice with some lower tier companies first and practice; maybe one of them will end up being good for you, but you’re ok if they aren’t. Same principle here. Practice makes better (not perfect).

    Good luck.
    Jan 8 1
  • Slack / Eng
    namelessyo

    Slack Eng

    BIO
    Looking women Chinese speakers for lunch in SF
    namelessyomore
    Keep trying! I don’t even have the courage
    Jan 8 1
  • Vertivco / Eng
    FastPapuan

    Vertivco Eng

    PRE
    Youtube, American Bureau of Shipping, Facebook
    FastPapuanmore
    If you are not mostly composed of stock from a Eurasian ethnicity, then we are all hopeless together. Sharp wit, charming character and interesting/active personality means nothing to them.
    Jan 7 2
    • Amazon Bold4Chnge
      ? I think he’s talking about male / female ratio demographics
      Jan 7
    • It’s because we are both Papuan.
      Jan 7
  • Expedia gurgle
    OP, take a trip to Thailand. You will thank me later. Make use of your PTO wisely.
    Jan 9 1
    • Salesforce
      lozere

      Salesforce

      BIO
      I
      lozeremore
      I second this. Bali and Ubud too :) traveling makes you forget pain.
      Jan 10
  • SAP jordy
    At least you tried, that counts. Next time if you get another no, should be easier. Even if you are in an area with fewer women, there are still some. Go to places where they are. Happy hunting
    Jan 7 1
    • New blindds
      OP
      Tinder or cold approach you talking about
      Jan 7
  • Amazon Bold4Chnge
    Demographics matter. Move to Washington DC, New York or San Diego. May the odds be ever in your favor.
    Jan 7 1
    • New blindds
      OP
      Moving out is not an option right now.
      Jan 7
  • Airbnb / Eng xpSI75
    I only develop crushes on people I’ll never ask out or try to date. Then it’s fun and harmless and no rejection!
    Jan 12 0

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